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Hi all. My dd is almost two and joins me in the bathroom almost every time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I recently started AF again after many, many months without, and dd is showing obvious curiousity/uneasiness. I use a menstrual cup, so there is quite a bit of blood to see (including on my hands), and she is also very curious about where I am putting the cup. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I'm not at all squeamish about this, and I don't want her to be, but I'm not sure how or what to explain to so little a child. I'm not sure what information/vocabulary would be useful to her at this age. Any experiences? Tips? Advice? Thanks!
 

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My dd is just 18 mos and I've just said so far that it is blood and where it comes from - using anatomically correct terms (I'm on my work computer and who knows what it'll keep me from sending if I use certain terms) and tell her what purpose the blood serves. I realize she doesn't really understand at this point . . . but I also realize she won't really remember a time when she didn't know what it is.
 

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My son asked me about ths at about 3 years of age. He rarely lets me go to the bathroom by myself. At any rate, he asked me if I had a boo-boo on my "pagina", and I told him that it was a boo-boo, but it didn't hurt too bad. He hasn't asked since...and I don't know how to explain it to a 4 year old.<br>
I would just wait until she asks. The subject is a bit complex for a kid, let alone a young toddler.
 

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DS (2.10yrs) always follows me when I go to the toilet & has taken a HUGE interest in my mooncup & AF in general. Usually says "Youve got blood mummy" or asks "wheres the mooncup gone?" & giggles quite a lot....I think he thinks a bit of a hide & seek type senario as one minute its there & the next its gone! I have told him that I get a "period" once a month when I bleed & the mooncup catches the blood inside me. TBH he generally wanders off before Ive finished talking about it so I think like with everything he just enjoys asking the questions or just being near me & watching what I do rather than the actual reasons why etc.....he also keeps asking me where my willy is so I dont think many of my explanations have sunk in just yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My dc is almost 2.5, and just beginning to get verbal. He'll point on blood on the tp and ask what it is. I usually say something along the lines of, "Yes, that's blood. I have my period." That seems to satisfy his curiousity for now. When he's a bit older I think I'll say that it would be food for a baby if I was going to have a baby. Since I'm not, it comes out every month and starts over.
 

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"You know how you grew inside me in a special place called my uterus? [we'd been over this before]. Well, every month my uterus grows a nice, soft nest of blood, in case a baby starts growing there. But if no baby starts growing in my uterus, then the blood comes out through my vagina and I soak it up with this tampon. Isn't that neat!"<br><br>
Worked great with my both my boys at that age. They didn't seem to find it complex, at all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"You know how you grew inside me in a special place called my uterus? [we'd been over this before]. Well, every month my uterus grows a nice, soft nest of blood, in case a baby starts growing there. But if no baby starts growing in my uterus, then the blood comes out through my vagina and I soak it up with this tampon. Isn't that neat!"<br><br>
Worked great with my both my boys at that age. They didn't seem to find it complex, at all.</div>
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Fantastic. This is really comfortable language for me -- thanks for sharing your approach! (Note to self: start talking to dd more about her "coming-to-be" story!)
 

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I explained to my DD's that in order for Mommy's to have babies, they have what is called a period where blood comes out of the vagina. Now when they come into the bathroom when I am on my period they just let me know that I'm bleeding again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I also just got AF back, dd is 28 months. The thing I'm struggling with is that she wants to copy everything I do including inserting something into the vagina.<br>
Any tips from moms of daughters would be appreciated, too. So far I've been using zinemamas approach, but I like your wording better, thanks for that.<br><br>
Bleed on, sisters.
 

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My two daughters started becoming curious about this last year. I first tried to explain it the best way I could to a toddler, but they got confused easily. So... I went to the library and we got a book called "Its So Amazing!". It talks about boys and girls, why girls have periods, where babies come from, ect. It had really good cartoon-like illustrations for everything (my favorite was the egg looking at her watch, waiting to see if the sperm was going to arrive soon).<br>
Both Emma and Angela now know why I bleed every month and are not scared about it at all. In fact, there has been a couple times that I have caught both girls in my cloth pad stash, trying to put a cloth pad into their diapers to be "just like mommy". Since I rarely use internal products, they've only seen me use cloth pads (I only use the silicone Keeper cup during physical therapy if I'm on my period).<br><br>
Jessie<br>
(single mommy to Emma, 3 years<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/slinggirl.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Slinggirl"> and Angela, 2 years<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/slinggirl.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Slinggirl"> and Daisy, our 7 year old<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/cat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="cat">: )<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cd.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cd">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/diaper.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="diaper"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fambedsingle2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fambedsingle2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/learning.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Learning">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fly-by-nursing1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fly By Nursing1">
 

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Reading this with interest and still figuring out how to tell them in appropriate terms. We have open door bathroom policies and they see us do everything. DD1 tried to use a pad and loves getting them for me - i generally told her it was for 'mommy needs' and nothing more. I'd love to come up with an uncomplicated way...I think I'll get that book.
 
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