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Two years ago one of my best friends passed away from cancer. Her husband began using drugs. Their 3 boys have been in legal custody of another woman for the 7 months but she is a little older and cannot commit to caring for them long term. (Dad has made no effort to contact in months and what little info we have on his current situation is not good.) Long story short my husband and I have decided to pursue adopting the boys. We already have three kids (their ages are all just a few months apart, essentially it would be like three sets of twins).
My issue is with my husbands parents and one of his sisters. They are not being supportive at all. They are choosing to live in fear and only seem to be concerned that this will damage our bio kids. We are not being foolish and understand that this is not a small undertaking.
I know i'm not the only one who has faced this. How have you dealt with it? Hubby has very patiently been answering questions and trying to help them work through their fears. I am praying a lot and also hope that time will help. My concern is primarily for the boys and that they feel accepted. I can't relate to the reaction from DHs family reaction at all. please help!
My issue is with my husbands parents and one of his sisters. They are not being supportive at all. They are choosing to live in fear and only seem to be concerned that this will damage our bio kids. We are not being foolish and understand that this is not a small undertaking.
I know i'm not the only one who has faced this. How have you dealt with it? Hubby has very patiently been answering questions and trying to help them work through their fears. I am praying a lot and also hope that time will help. My concern is primarily for the boys and that they feel accepted. I can't relate to the reaction from DHs family reaction at all. please help!