Bed: A double and a twin mattress side by side on the floor, he knows the twin is "his" but he doesn't usually sleep in it because it's too small for night nursing and I'm used to the other blanket (for tucking behind me).
Routine: bath, play, PJ's, a snack if he didn't eat much dinner, a story if he sits on the potty, and nurse in the bed.
He doesn't fall asleep nursing - seldom has since about 3 weeks - he pulls off and rolls over or asks for the other side. Once he's had 2 "sides", I now tell him that there's no more and offer to rub his back. If he agrees, I lie on my back and have him lie on me, and gently rub his back a little until his breathing settles. At that point he'll usually say "dodo" (our word for sleep) and roll off me. Then I roll onto my side facing away from him, and he curls up against my back facing away from me.
He has fallen asleep that way since he was about 6 months old. He does the same with MIL at nap-time (she watches him while I work) and with DH on my one night out a week.
The problem: I nearly always fall asleep. If I fight sleep, so does he, so I have to relax. Sometimes I manage to wake up a few hours later (like tonight) and mess around on the computer for a couple hours, but I don't get anything else done. I work full time, and I have an older DD, so this is really cramping my style! I don't get to do any housework, I don't get to read to DD and put her to sleep and I hardly get any talk/cuddle/movie time with DH.
1. Am I alone? Or is this normal for co-sleeping?
2. What do you do to cope? Are there any tricks to keep yourself awake?
3. Any suggestions for getting a 2-yo to learn to fall asleep on his own? NCSS is not going to be much use at this point, and I don't think that Pantley has yet published the follow-up version for toddlers.
I don't have a problem with night waking (usually!), it's just that getting to sleep thing that's driving me bonkers.