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I don't hate my DH. Yes, we have issues. We live in a remote area with no family or friends nearby. He travels for business 50% of the time, leaving me in aforementioned remote area with the baby. We don't really communicate. Well, *I* do. I have to talk about things when they bother me right away. DH bottles it up. We don't do much together besides the logistics of everyday life. When we first got together, things were exciting. Now...not so much.<br><br>
We've known each other for 9 years, been married for almost 3. We spent the first part of our marriage apart (him working in TX, me in grad school in MD.) Before that he deployed to Iraq. We finally were able to live together in '08, and about five months later I was pregnant with DD. We are not intimate at all anymore, even in non sexual ways. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So...now he says "I love you" on the phone, etc, and I find that I can't/don't say it back. I don't have any anger toward him. I just don't think I love him. What is wrong with me? He didn't do anything wrong. I think we just fizzled out. I find myself wondering what my life would be like if we separated, wondering if I'd be happier. I feel like I am just here because we have DD now, and because it would devastate so many people if we split up. But then I wonder if that is a reason to stay together, possibly giving up a happier life for myself.<br><br>
Did I fall out of love? Is it possible for love to simply fade away? Am I being totally selfish?
We've known each other for 9 years, been married for almost 3. We spent the first part of our marriage apart (him working in TX, me in grad school in MD.) Before that he deployed to Iraq. We finally were able to live together in '08, and about five months later I was pregnant with DD. We are not intimate at all anymore, even in non sexual ways. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So...now he says "I love you" on the phone, etc, and I find that I can't/don't say it back. I don't have any anger toward him. I just don't think I love him. What is wrong with me? He didn't do anything wrong. I think we just fizzled out. I find myself wondering what my life would be like if we separated, wondering if I'd be happier. I feel like I am just here because we have DD now, and because it would devastate so many people if we split up. But then I wonder if that is a reason to stay together, possibly giving up a happier life for myself.<br><br>
Did I fall out of love? Is it possible for love to simply fade away? Am I being totally selfish?