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What are your opinions on bathing with your children?<br>
My daughter is two and I AND my husband still take<br>
baths or showers with her, sometimes together sometimes<br>
it will be him sometimes just me.<br><br>
I dont really see anything wrong with it, though some<br>
have hinted shes too old. I see it pretty innocently<br>
and the fact that she understands adult bodies, of<br>
course nothing sexual. Thats the point i dont<br>
want adult nakedness to be something dirty you<br>
know. Ugh, that sounded wrong. I guess imean<br>
i want it to be what its supposed to be, you now<br>
not the sleaze you see in movies but just our bodies<br>
you know?<br><br>
Im sure there will be an age were she will probably<br>
be too old to bathe with daddy, and i acknowledge that.<br>
And if she asks to bathe alone at anytime i will<br>
concede to that. She seems to enjoy family bath time.<br>
She climbs over us, hugs us, cuddles and we enjoy<br>
talking with eachother and bonding while relaxing<br>
under the warm water. ( we have a rather large shower <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br><br>
Could i get some opinions on this, it doesnt *feel* wrong to me,<br>
but i dunno. Thanks mommas.
 

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My oldest dd will be 4 in June and I also have a 2.5 year old dd. They both take baths with me but not dh. He isn't comfortable with them seeing him naked. I wish he wouldn't make quite as big of a deal out of it as I don't think it really is yet.
 

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I still see my parents naked... But maybe that's were my European roots come through? I don't see a problem if teenagers and their parents take a bath together. Why not? It is family time. If one of them feels uncomfortable, than he/she does not have to join in, but if everyone is fine, why not?
 

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We have boys, so it's the opposite for us. I am perfectly comfortable bathing and whatnot with Henry (3 1/2). I am certain that I will know when it is time to stop, whether because I'm uncomfortable or he is. He considers it quite the treat when we get to bathe together, we just play with his toys and have fun. I taught him a loooooong time ago when he first expressed interest in different body parts about mommy's vulva and breasts, and what appropriate touching is. IMO, it's also a great way to model appropriate touch to him, that he learns that there's no shame in them, but there is certainly an expectation that no one is allowed to touch them except under X Y and Z circumstances.<br><br>
I have recently, however, started to feel a little uncomfortable walking around in the buff at night. I used to just kind of meander after bath, naky, and one day I noticed him simply staring at my vulva me as I walked down the hall. I'm sure it was simply interest and curiousity, but it made me feel uncomfy, so I choose to wear a robe now if I am going to wait to put on my PJs. I do still undress/dress in front of him, so I don't completely *hide* or anything, but I don't lounge around or putter in the buff.
 

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Our 6 year old still regularly sees us naked and sometimes showers with DH. I'm selfish and don't like to share my shower, or he'd be in there with me, too. The 2 year old climbed in the bathtub with me last night when DH was supposed to be watching her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: There went my nice relaxing bath.
 

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Kailey loves taking a bath with me. I don't see anything wrong with that hun.
 

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DS is 6.5 and still bathes and showers with me and with BF. In fact neither BF nor I can run a bath for ourselves without DS immediately stripping.<br><br>
We're very comfortable with nakedness and bodies.
 

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DD1 is 4, I have some great pics of her and Dh from the other night, taking a bubble bath together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> We will continue until she is uncomfortable.
 

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We each take our own baths and showers. We used to take baths with DS but he is now at age where he likes to play in the bathtub.<br><br>
I like to be in and out of the shower in under 5 minutes. Ditto DH.<br><br>
DS still sees us naked and we are OKAY with that.
 

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Your child will let you know when it's not ok <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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my dd is 4 and i still bathe with her. although dh isn't comfortable with her seeing him naked anymore...she kinda likes to point it out and he doesn't really like that. lol
 

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i think you will both be able to tell when it is not ok. i think a lot of the issue comes from the adults and the social stigma of nudity being a terrible thing. once DC is uncomfortable, i think thats when to end it.
 

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I'm not comfortable with much nudity and am fairly modest. I also like my time alone in the shower, so I always bathed alone. My kids bathed together when they were younger and loved it. I think this is a subject that can vary from person to person and their comfort level.
 

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Ever since I can remember, I've never been comfortable with being naked in front of anyone, and that is why I force myself to pretend I'm comfortable in front of my girls. My mom was never unclothed in front of me and was always picking apart her body in the mirror. I fully believe that this was the root of my body shame and eating disorder.<br><br>
Sooooo, no matter how uncomfortable I feel on the inside, I strip right down and bathe with my my girls while talking about how great it is that we all have such different shapes and sizes. Oh and my odd is 4 1/2, but I know I will continue to pretend to be comfortable as long as they are.<br><br>
Now dh, on the other hand, recently reached his comfort level with being naked in front of the oldest, she does tend to stare.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Now when he bathes with them, he wears swim shorts.
 

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When your child starts being modest and requesting privacy, then you'll know when its time to stop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> We're a naked friendly home here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My 6yo ds still baths with me and showers with dh. I imagine we will do the same with dd who is 1yo. If either of them gets uncomfortable, we'll modify.
 

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I still take showers with both my dd's ages 6 and 9. Although not as often with my 9 year old. They don't shower with dh at all and he is modest about them seeing him naked. That is because he is uncomfortable not them. I think it's fine for you to be naked in front of dd she so little still it's all she knows. She'll let you know when enough is enough!<br><br>
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i definatly remember showering with my mom and dad at 7.... i don't see anything wrong with showering with your kids at any age but our culture sucks and everything is sexualized
 

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I agree with all the pp's who've said that they follow the kids' ques.<br>
I have no problem showering with ds2 (2.5yo). I don't bathe with ds1 (9yo), but he strips for the shower and gets in and out with me in the bathroom often, without showing any signs of modesty. I try to give him a little more space & I'm watchful for signs that he'd rather me not come in the bathroom, which he hasn't shown yet. We're all pretty open in our house and sex and nudity are two seperate isssues for us.
 
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