man - could i have written your post!!! we didn't co-sleep with our first son. he would go to sleep - no problems. we had a series of moves, potty-training etc at around 3 1/2 and that disrupted him big time. we had to lay down with him until he fell asleep. then he started waking up and coming into our bed. no big deal. when our 2nd son was born we co-slept with him from day one because i nursed him. our (now 5 year old) is jealous (he doesn't admit it) and insisted in sleeping with us. we have a king-sized bed but the baby is a bed hog and we can't fit!!! now ds refuses to sleep in his room at all! so we got a toddler bed and put it in our room near our bed. he starts there and sometimes wakes up to get in our bed. i figure soon a number of things could happen: a) kindergarten next sept will wear him out so bad he'll just go to sleep b) he'll just decide that he's too old for our bed c) we are gonna get bunkbeds and let the boys sleep together (the babe is 13 months and still too young and still nursing at nite)
i don't mind co-sleeping but the big problem we have is that our son won't sleep until we are in bed and all lights are out. i like to read or veg with the tv on before bed. our 5yo is a hyper lunatic at bedtime. since i am nursing and putting the baby to sleep i get stuck putting BOTH kids to sleep and by the time they both fall asleep my evening is shot and nothing gets done. we have no schedule because there are times i need to do work and dh attempts to put the kids to bed but he does it with the tv on in bed so then its 11:00 and everyone is still up.
sorry for the vent - but i am as frustrated as you are now. i'd love some advice too!
i don't mind co-sleeping but the big problem we have is that our son won't sleep until we are in bed and all lights are out. i like to read or veg with the tv on before bed. our 5yo is a hyper lunatic at bedtime. since i am nursing and putting the baby to sleep i get stuck putting BOTH kids to sleep and by the time they both fall asleep my evening is shot and nothing gets done. we have no schedule because there are times i need to do work and dh attempts to put the kids to bed but he does it with the tv on in bed so then its 11:00 and everyone is still up.
sorry for the vent - but i am as frustrated as you are now. i'd love some advice too!