[Adamsmama]

Is there anyway to get help for people that has a personality disorder somewhere on the anti-social area either Borderline or Narccisistic? I'm pretty sure that is what this husband & wife have (they are slightly different but feed into each others constant lies and manipulations of others) and we keep getting harrassed because we don't want to have a relationship with them anymore (because of the hurts they have caused and refuse to admit they are the cause--or get help for themself). This has been a very hard thing for DH and I to deal with and have gotten bad feedback from some friends and family members for stopping contact with them--but I don't feel safe around them and don't trust them. Is there anything that can be done to help these people if they can't see the problem?

 

[perl]

Like you mentioned, people with personality disorders usually have little to no insight. They see no reason to "fix" something that they don't see as being a problem. IMO the best thing that you can do (which it sounds like you've been doing) is to maintain strict boundaries with them. I really think that you have to trust yourself and your instincts on this one and avoid contact if it's the healthiest thing for you and your family. Sorry you are having to deal with this type of behavior - it can be quite difficult!

 

[Proudly AP]

hey, i have a family member i believe has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. there is a great website with support and information for those who are dealing with people with BPD.

http://www.bpdcentral.com/nookboard/index.php

if it's not okay to list the link, i'm sorry.

this site has some helpful ideas on ways to cope. and no, you can't make them (or help them) to get help unless they want to, as you know. save beating your head against a brick wall....

i know how awful this is to deal with, i feel for what you may be experiencing.