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Okay to me, this is the silliest thing.. But I'm getting really annoyed with certain family members..And maybe my hormones are in full swing today. My family has all boys. My side has 3 nephews/grandsons. My husbands side has 3 nephews/grandsons..<br><br>
My rant is I'm sick of people getting all mad, like they are annoyed I'm pregnant, as I'm probably going to have a boy.. My MIL, who I really can't stand to begin with keeps making snide remarks. She already mentioned that "I had a boy to spite her" in regards to my son... I keep hearing "oh it's probably a boy anyway"... "I guess I'm never going to have a niece or granddaugter"..<br><br>
You know it really hurts.. My MIL has even mentioned in the past that she "does not buy clothes for boys" and how she's glad she doesn't have granddaughters as she "doesn't have to do anything for them".. Imagine if I have a girl..are they going to be in for a rude awakening, as my dh and I will not accept them doing more for a daughter than they do for our son.. So I guess in hindsight it doesn't matter what we have as since they ignore my son, there going to treat a girl the same way, as I'll have to ignore them..
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> How awful! I can't understand how people can be that way! I mean ugh!!! Try not to let her get to you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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How rude...it would bother me, too! It doesn't matter what the sex is, every child is a blessing and should be loved and celebrated.
 

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Wow. That's nutso <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: How totally rude and insensitive... and weird!
 

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Next time MIL says something rude, stupid or thoughtless about having a boy, I would not so politely spit back that HER SON is responsible for determining the sex of the baby and it's completely out of your hands.<br>
So rude...<br><br>
I dealt with this a bit with DD#1.<br>
The only girl in the family was BIL's DD.<br>
DH's whole generation was boys-here and in the UK.<br>
So all the freaking time I was told "It's a boy...Well, you know it will be a boy...I'm buying lots of boy things..."<br><br>
I was so fed up and told them. My mum died when I was 10 and I have always felt a visceral need to put that right by having a DD of my own. I craved a daughter to nurture. So when I found out at 18 weeks, I started bauling on the spot and threw my arms around the tech.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Then started bauling again in Mailboxes ETC when I was scanning it and someone asked me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I was extremely sick with DD. I was on medication-so contol the nausea and dehydration.<br>
My IL's who are wonderful people but who can't keep a secret and needs to blab everything to anyone who asks--mailed a letter to their old friend (DH's Godfather) who is a dr. and told him all about my problems and days long headaches.<br>
He wrote back that this was a sign I was having a boy.<br><br>
I about flipped. *I* had found a Swedish study that found that more women who were hospialised with severe morning sickness and dehydration, were preg. with girls. And I told them as much. And I also told them that some of their "info" was an old wives tale. And he got very uppity with me and shot back that it wasn't an old wives tale, but an old Dr. tale...<br><br>
And then I found out I wa having DD.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I could physically hear MIL's jaw drop on the phone.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Now, you would think that a woman so thrilled to be having a GD would be buying cute girl things. But no. She keeps buying her overalls (boys no less--and used), horridly ugly used dresses. She doesn't buy her anything pink (DD's fav colour) and always asks DH why I always put DD in pink.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Then when DD had surgery 2 months ago, she came to the hospital with a baby blue blanket that she had made. She ironed on an H for Hailey. It's a lovely blanket...But why baby blue? SHE IS A FREAKING GIRL WHO LOVES GIRLY COLOURS!!<br><br>
I just gave up and DH rolls his eyes and says she can't help it-it's just too ingrained. Well you would think she would notice that DD never wears the ugly clothes she gives us. And I don't think she gives BIL's DD ugly clothes. They sure as hell aren't used. Nor are they for boys.<br><br>
MIL is wonderful and I do love her. But WTF?? When it comes to this, she's just a tad...wierd.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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I am sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> That is just totally and completely rude. Saying that you had a boy to spite her? OMG! That is just crazy. Boys are awesome! I love my two boys so much and as much as I would like a girl, being a mom to three boys is something special. I hope you have supportive people in your life and that you can just completely ignore them. It sounds like they don't really need to be included in this process since they are so unkind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
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That really sucks! I have a really hard time with my mil too, so I completely understand. I totally agree with your decision to not accept more for you dd then you do for your ds. The nerve of anyone to think that you would let them favor your children and make them feel bad!!! That infuriates me! I wish you the upmost happiness regardless of the sex of this baby. Try try try not to let her or anyone get to you. I know it's hard. But you know you love your children regardless. So screw them!<br>
(sorry, I was fuming about my Mil tonight, so you caught me at a bad time)
 

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That sucks! My MIL is awful, too.
 
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