Good luck with her, though,
I also find it kinda weird when everyone wants you to make a baby for them. It's like: go have unprotected sex for us! We want to see you preggo!
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Family pressure to be pregnant
My uncle knocked up some woman about 9 months ago now. I first seen her either on Thanksgiving or Christmas, can't remember exactly, but anyhow she was showing at the time. I seen her yesterday on Easter, and she's about 9 months along, a giant swollen balloon looking thing, and she has no idea if it's a boy or a girl because she's never ever been to see a Dr. !!!
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This is her FOURTH pregnancy and when I asked her if she knows if it is a boy or a girl, she said no..... but I have two boys and a daughter at home who has told me that if I come home with another boy she will be moving out. So i'm guessing she wants another girl.
Funny thing is she is just as messed up as my uncle, that all of her kids have been raised by her mom so pretty much she's just having another baby for someone else to raise.
I don't think it's very responsible.
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My grandma is all excited, she's like if it's a girl you better name her blah blah.
This will be her first child with my uncle, so my grandma is going crazy.
So no one seems to think she's gonna have another boy, and she wants to have a girl and scince my brother already has 2 girls and doesn't seem to be wanting to have anymore children, my grandma just can't stop nagging me.
Then my grandma was asking me when i'm gonna get married and have babies. And this is not the first time she's asked me this. As a matter of fact the last time I seen her, she was asking me when we are going to have a baby. She even went as far to ask me if I want a boy or a girl AND what names I like. She seems to put pressure on me to have a baby boy, because know one else has been able to have one, and there is no one left but me.
My grandma is one of 14 children and she is a natural twin.
She seems to think this will make me have twins.
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I have been TTC for a while now so it really makes it hard when I get constant comments on getting married and having babies.
The problem that I have with this is times have changed so much.
Back when my grandma was getting married and having babies, this was done at a very young age, and there was no requirement for the woman to have her own career as well as a family.
It's not that I don't want to have a baby, because I do, or we would not be TTC. It's just really hard to cope with TTC when there is so much family pressure put on me to get pregnant and have the first boy.
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This is her FOURTH pregnancy and when I asked her if she knows if it is a boy or a girl, she said no..... but I have two boys and a daughter at home who has told me that if I come home with another boy she will be moving out. So i'm guessing she wants another girl.
Funny thing is she is just as messed up as my uncle, that all of her kids have been raised by her mom so pretty much she's just having another baby for someone else to raise.
I don't think it's very responsible.
My grandma is all excited, she's like if it's a girl you better name her blah blah.
This will be her first child with my uncle, so my grandma is going crazy.
So no one seems to think she's gonna have another boy, and she wants to have a girl and scince my brother already has 2 girls and doesn't seem to be wanting to have anymore children, my grandma just can't stop nagging me.
Then my grandma was asking me when i'm gonna get married and have babies. And this is not the first time she's asked me this. As a matter of fact the last time I seen her, she was asking me when we are going to have a baby. She even went as far to ask me if I want a boy or a girl AND what names I like. She seems to put pressure on me to have a baby boy, because know one else has been able to have one, and there is no one left but me.
My grandma is one of 14 children and she is a natural twin.
She seems to think this will make me have twins.
I have been TTC for a while now so it really makes it hard when I get constant comments on getting married and having babies.
The problem that I have with this is times have changed so much.
Back when my grandma was getting married and having babies, this was done at a very young age, and there was no requirement for the woman to have her own career as well as a family.
It's not that I don't want to have a baby, because I do, or we would not be TTC. It's just really hard to cope with TTC when there is so much family pressure put on me to get pregnant and have the first boy.
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Good luck with her, though,
I also find it kinda weird when everyone wants you to make a baby for them. It's like: go have unprotected sex for us! We want to see you preggo!
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I'm almost 23 and he's almost 33. His brother and his new wife are exactly 10 years apart just like us! I think maybe because we are getting a little bit older, the pressure is increasing. I still just don't understand it though. Just let me live and I will have babies when the time is right- sheesh!
Originally Posted by fresh_veggie 
Good luck with her, though,
I also find it kinda weird when everyone wants you to make a baby for them. It's like: go have unprotected sex for us! We want to see you preggo! |
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dbf and i are getting the opposite
"you're using birth control right?"
"yes mother, him being in Kuwait makes me getting pregnant VERY difficult"
I don't mention that we ARE trying whenever he's home.
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"you're using birth control right?"
"yes mother, him being in Kuwait makes me getting pregnant VERY difficult"
I don't mention that we ARE trying whenever he's home.
IGNORE IT!!
My G-ma(who I cannot stand) told me when I was 23 and married that I better have babies otherwise my eggs were gonna "dry up". I told her I didn't feel like having kids at that time(and I really didn't). I waited a whole 7 years before TTC.
We used to get so peeved by my SIL's friend who is a devout Catholic woman with 7 kids if I remember right, that we were the couple who didn't have any kids
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:, it wouldn't have been so bad if she didn't say it every. single. time. she saw us. Like it was the end of the world or something. She was always so rude about it. Then when I did get pg my SIL thought that it was some kind of miracle because there was something wrong with me. People have tons of opinions on your fertility, it is really annoying.
Now here I am pg with baby #2 and no one seems to care, whatever.
My G-ma(who I cannot stand) told me when I was 23 and married that I better have babies otherwise my eggs were gonna "dry up". I told her I didn't feel like having kids at that time(and I really didn't). I waited a whole 7 years before TTC.
We used to get so peeved by my SIL's friend who is a devout Catholic woman with 7 kids if I remember right, that we were the couple who didn't have any kids
Now here I am pg with baby #2 and no one seems to care, whatever.
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oh my, you guys have LOTS of time!! Just ignore them.
Originally Posted by ItIsEasyBeingGreen I'm almost 23 and he's almost 33. His brother and his new wife are exactly 10 years apart just like us! I think maybe because we are getting a little bit older, the pressure is increasing. I still just don't understand it though. Just let me live and I will have babies when the time is right- sheesh! |
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Oh absolutely. I was twenty-three when I had my first and though I wouldn't change my little family for the world, if I was given the chance again I would have put it all off for a few more years. Go on holiday. Spend frivolously on shoes. Have a lie-in. Do all the things that you can kiss goodbye to when you see that little blue line. There's absolutely no rush. My best friend had her first DS two weeks before her 40th birthday and she's got more energy than I could ever dream of at 15 yrs younger!:yawning:
Originally Posted by finn'smama oh my, you guys have LOTS of time!! Just ignore them. |
Oh yeah, it seems like everyone's got that person who can't wait for them to have babies. Soon after we got married (4 yrs ago) my in-laws make some joke about "ok, now go make some grandkids," every time we'd part ways, after a visit. They even started picking up some irresistible baby/kid related garage sale finds...and last time I visited, I found my mother in-laws baby clothes stash. So yeah, this has been going on for 4 years!
My mom on the other hand is the one whose always making sure we're using some type of prevention.
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My mom on the other hand is the one whose always making sure we're using some type of prevention.
My uncle's gf had her baby this morning at 2:30 am she was a baby girl and weighed 9 lbs 15 oz.
I guess i'm pretty good at prediciting gender.
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Guess what this means? I'm the only one left in the family to have a boy!
I guess i'm pretty good at prediciting gender.
Guess what this means? I'm the only one left in the family to have a boy!
IMHO it is completely unfair of your grandma to put pressure on you to have a baby, and especially to have a baby BOY. My god... like you have control over whether you have a boy or a girl!!! And I just don't think that sort of thinking is at all positive or productive -- because if you build it up in your mind that you NEED to have a boy, how is that fair to a precious little girl you may someday conceive?
I agree with PP... try to ignore grandma. Have children, boys and/or girls, whenever you are ready. It is NOT your responsibility to produce a boy for grandma (or anyone else).
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I agree with PP... try to ignore grandma. Have children, boys and/or girls, whenever you are ready. It is NOT your responsibility to produce a boy for grandma (or anyone else).
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