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I've read a million mothering magazines but what about the fathering magazines? Does this not seem like a prescription for sexism? Does anyone know of a good alternative fathering magazine. Not a magazine for single fathers but a magazine that celebrates the father in the relationship of the mother, father, child. A magazine that sees fathers as just as important as mothers to their little humans? I was thinking it would eb nice to get my boyfriend who is the father of my child a fathering subscription. Any hints?
 

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That's about as close as I've found to what I'm looking for, but it just doesn't seem to be it. It's not the same topicality as Mothering. Thanks, anyways!
 

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There's little market. It isn't going to happen.<br><br>
This is going to sound harsh and sexist, but unfortunately this is how marketing droids work and think.<br><br>
1) Magazines basically work with advertising. A crunchy magazine about being a father is going to try and sell, what, exactly? Who are you going to find to advertise in this? Harley Davidson? Not exactly the kind of advertising they want, in fact they offer an escape from domesticity. As for baby wipes, diapers, baby food, etc. women buy that more than 70% of the time, so for all intents and purposes, advertisers would see that as a wasted dollar, because you could shove your ad in Mothering magazine and get far more sales bang for the buck.<br><br>
2) 50-60% of fathers are in divorced families, and therefore almost never see their kids.<br><br>
3) So, OK, what about the other 40-50%? Well again, in many families the female is the one who does the banking, checking etc. and far from the stereotypical "dad sits at the table and hands money out to the rest of the family" in reality most of the time it's the man attempting to justify purchases to the gatekeeper of the finances. Whereas women can and do impulse shop and will spend the family finances on non-essentials like a magazine like this. I'm sorry, but if the average man went out and spent $7 on a magazine, he'd have to explain this to the female parental unit. Whereas she'll chuck it in the bag because there's a great article on not spanking children.<br><br><br>
It isn't sexism per se, these decisions are purely financially driven. It's a raw deal, but there's raw deals all over the place.
 

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Yeah the market droids aren't going to allow it, that's for sure. Capitalist pigs... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><br><br>
OTOH, one could easily regard "Mothering" as "parenting." In a non-sexist world Mothering would change their name and folks would stop seeing "mothering" as the exclusive domain of the feminine. Now that I've pissed off feminist males and females and non-feminist males alike, I'll posit that in an imperfect world, Mothering is the closest fathering mag in existence. For now, it'll have to do. I just try to read all the female gender-specific things like BFing and birthing to learn as much as I can about what the female gender reps of parenting are doing. The rest of it, IMO, is the domain of males and females who become parents.<br><br>
OTOH..... I'd love to see a Green, eco-spiritual, deep-masculine fathering periodical. But I'm not holding my breath. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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"Parenting" is already a magazine name. I think "Natural Family Living" would be good, though perhaps a bit too wordy for the magazine rack. I think that's also the title of a book that O'Mara published.
 

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I read in love letters-(i think it was) in Mothering magazine, where it was explained that the magazine name 'Mothering' is used as a verb-therefore everyone can 'Mother' -Father's, Grandparents, Aunt, Uncles, Siblings-EVERYBODY!
 

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Nurturing is the word for me. We can all be mothers in that we can nurture. But nurturing is not *taught* in our culture, which I describe as being heavy enough on the patriarchy as to cause anarchy.<br><br>
But enough of my politics. The fact remains: we all need nurturing and I find a ton of useful info at Mothering. I doubt there needs to be Fathering. I shudder to think of what kind of advertising we'd find it in. No thanks! Mothering works great and no need to mess with it.
 

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I am a new member to these forums, and I decided to join because I've spent some time this morning looking in vain for a decent 'natural father' magazine online. I bought <i>Mothering</i> for my partner this week and I'm exploring this new universe of becoming a father for the first time.<br><br>
I checked out fathermag.com but I was turned off by a few of the articles on its homepage. Some seemed a little alarmist, and one cited a study about how courts overcharge single fathers for child support. At any rate, the message the homepage left me with there was 'this world is totally crazy' and 'are you doing enough to protect your child?'<br><br>
I'm reading a book by Ina May Gaskin, and she talks about careful we have to be about language when educating parents. I don't want a fathering magazine - a supposed authority - informing me of everything I have to worry about.<br><br>
So, I will keep looking and I hope you all do to. Maybe there's even some local, independent, homemade zines out there. Meanwhile, <i>Mothering</i> is great and is very helpful.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/whistling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="whistle">Welcome to the boards, dad2B!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br>
Be sure and post your intro in the 'pleased to meet you' area so others can greet and welcome you.<br>
Which Ina may book are you reading?<br>
see ya 'round<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wash.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wash">
 

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I bought a copy of a magazine called "Dads" or something like it three or four years ago while on a layover in the Atlanta airport. I bought it because it was the only thing that looked remotely interesting on the newstand and I thought my husband would enjoy it.<br><br>
Turns out, it was a one-off. Never took off enough to warrant sustained publication, apparently. It's a shame, becuase I thought it was nice - articles about dad/kid road trips, recipes and building ideas, relationship stuff, choosing software and computer/internet safety, handling career while trying to, say, coach little league, etc.<br><br>
I guess it gives credence to the idea that there's just not the market for this kind of thing.
 

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I'm reading "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" and I'm mostly through the birth stories part. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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