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DH and I have a good marriage right now - but I'm feeling like it needs a little tending. We have a 2 1/2 and a newborn, and not much time for anything other than parenting. It just occurred to me that I read a lot about parenting issues - so why not do the same with respect to this other, similarly important, area of my life.<br><br>
so, can anyone recommend a good book?
 

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How about <a href="http://http//www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1881273156/qid=1130101073/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/103-3203609-9467005?v=glance&s=books&n=507846" target="_blank">The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate</a> by Gary Chapman? It is written with a Christian slant (and I'm not a Christian by any stretch of the imagination) but it's not preachy. Very, very good for those partners that don't have a lot of time for each other what with the commitment and stresses of raising a family together -- I guess you could say it focuses on quality instead of quantity, iykwim.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i have to second harville hendrix. awesome. you might also want to try a book called something like Conscious Loving (don't remember the authors off hand, a husband and wife team)
 

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I just finished The Five Love Languages (recommended on another MDC thread!) and really found it useful. I too read a lot about parenting and I think tend to neglect the marital relationship -- this book gave me lots of good solid ideas about how to make sure dh feels loved and appreciated.
 

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I really loved "light his fire" (i just ignored all religious comments) and there is also a companion book called "light her fire" for the man to read.
 

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I came on to post about the Harville and Helen LaKelly Hunt books and see a few people have beat me to it. There's a fairly new one called Getting the Love You Want which is targeted to people with some specific problems. I also wanted to say: Good for you. Too many people don't do any maintenance work on their relationships and only either read books or go to therapy when it's an emergency. It's so worth it.
 

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i posted a similar question at another site and got a lot of people recommending the five languages. Thanks for the input, mamas!
 

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I'm glad you posted this. I needed a reminder to nurture dh, too. Just ordered the 5 love languages. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Simple Loving by simple living guru Janet Luhrs. Fantastic book.
 
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