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My hubby, kiddo, and I are going to TX next Friday and are staying with his family during our 4-5 days stay there.<br><br>
I've met everyone, but I don't KNOW everyone. Now, if his grandpa or grandma try to touch my belly I will probably have no issues with it because I know them pretty well... But I barely know his aunt & uncle and have only met his dad a couple of times so I don't really want them just coming up and touching me. *shudders* Not to mention other "family" (close friends of the family) who might think it's okay.<br><br>
We haven't seen his family in 3 years so I know they'll be excited and there will probably be a few reach outs, but how to I deal with it? I'm very quick to lash out if people I don't or barely know touch me without asking and I don't want to offend them. But at the same time I don't want my belly touched!!!<br><br>
Ahhh!! Any tips? Suggestions?
 

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Hmmm, I carry my DS so it is hard for ppl to touch my belly or if I don't have him, just have my arms laying over my belly. I am just like you, don't like ppl touching me, especially ppl I barely know...<br><br>
Or simply tell them it makes you uncomfortable, but say it in a nice way... HTH
 

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If someone I didn't know touched my belly, I would give them the strangest look I could muster and say, "Umm...Okay.." and sort of back up. I'd make them feel awkward.<br><br>
But that's me and I can be a real b*tch sometimes, lol.<br><br>
So far anyone who has touched my belly has actually asked, "Can I touch it?" before reaching out, and then they tenderly pat my belly - it's SO cute. I felt loved.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If someone I didn't know touched my belly, I would give them the strangest look I could muster and say, "Umm...Okay.." and sort of back up. I'd make them feel awkward.<br><br>
But that's me and I can be a real b*tch sometimes, lol.<br><br><b>So far anyone who has touched my belly has actually asked, "Can I touch it?" before reaching out, and then they tenderly pat my belly - it's SO cute. I felt loved.</b></div>
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Same here, for the most part. The first person who patted my tummy was actually someone I had just met, but I felt pretty comfortable with it.<br><br>
Amy Lynn, I've heard of people keeping their arms crossed across their belly to discourage others from touching their tums. Maybe that trick will work for you.<br><br>
Oh yeah, there are a ton of funny tee shirts on Cafe Press that have funny warnings not to touch the belly. Do you have time to invest in something like this?
 

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You could always just do what I do, when they ask (inevitably) how you feel, etc, laugh and smile and respond and add on "and I can't even tell you how tired I am of people trying to touch my belly, it's just rude/uncomfortable/etc, I mean, it's not like I'm going around rubbing their guts!" Usually the word travels fast as long as you tell the story to the more busybody of the bunch, they'll warn everyone with a heads-up about how you hate it so don't even ask.
 

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^^ Yeah. Word of mouth works great if you can speak up quick enough. Also, if you're going to be meeting a whole bunch of people at once, you might wear one of those "hands off the bump" type shirts. <a href="http://t-shirts.cafepress.com/maternity-t-shirts" target="_blank">CafePress</a> has LOTS. Here's <a href="http://t-shirts.cafepress.com/item/yes-im-pregnant-maternity-tshirt/187210998" target="_blank">one</a>.<br>
GL.
 

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I've never understood this problem at all. I just don't get bothered easily I guess. Strangers even touching my belly don't bother me.
 

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I sometimes have my husband "go before me". And when he's in conversation sometimes he can casually bring up how I don't like to be touched. It has worked really well in some situations, but I fear sometimes it's simply unavoidable.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh yeah, there are a ton of funny tee shirts on Cafe Press that have funny warnings not to touch the belly. Do you have time to invest in something like this?</div>
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Unfortunately no. We leave i a few days and that's not enough time for me to get one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">.<br><br>
Thanks ladies for the ideas! I'll for sure try crossing my arms over my belly and the "word-of-mouth" things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I saw a tank top at Walmart that said "hands off" or something to that effect. Can you check out there?</div>
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Hmm... My Wal-Mart doesn't sell maternity clothes (sucks, huh?) But I may be able to make a pit stop at a larger one on my way home form the OB's office on the 3rd.<br><br>
Thanks for the tip!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've never understood this problem at all. I just don't get bothered easily I guess. Strangers even touching my belly don't bother me.</div>
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Me too. This is my 1st & I thought it would bother me, but it really doesnt. Even a creepy guy at work did it the other day & it didn't bug me.
 

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Go to cafepress.com and look at their maternity shirts, try typing in "touch belly" or something like that in the search area and see what comes up. I found some really great ones. Here are my favorites:<br><br>
"You can touch my belly if I can punch your face."<br><br>
"Touch the belly, lose a hand."<br><br>
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"Yes, I'm pregnant<br>
It's a girl<br>
I'm due in September<br>
No you can't touch<br>
my belly!"<br><br>
I also got a cute pooh bear maternity t-shirt that says "hands off the belly!"<br><br>
People back away from me now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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