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So.. I started my baby on solids today.<br>
He doesn't love the bottle and I start back to work next week.<br>
My mom, DP and I are all there and my mom has a spoon. Baby has a bit and then starts to cry. I take it as he's all done. My mom takes it as a chance to put the spoon in his mouth.<br>
I say no. My DP who has twins that are now 4 says I will soon learn that has to happen. Kids cry when they are fed because they would rather be playing or doing something else and you have to just push on and go ahead and feed a crying kid.<br>
So when they are older (not just starting out) IS this really going to be a part of Momhood? Feeding a kid who hates it??<br>
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Nooo! They will eat if they are hungry. Force feeding can cause eating disorders later in life. My dd hardly ever let me feed her. She liked (and still likes) to do it herslf.<br><br>
ETA: solids should not be substituting for breastmilk anyways. They are just for fun and experimenting from 6 months-1year. If your baby doesnt like the bottle, try a cup.
 

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I know foods arent a sub for breastmilk but very concerned that he isn't left hungry during the day. I will be pumping and leaving bottles the 2 days I am working. Just want a plan B.<br><br>
Thanks- looking forward to hearing more opinions without voicing mine yet.
 

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This is NOT OKAY.<br><br>
#1. All major medical groups say NOTHING but breastmilk until 6 months. Period.<br><br>
#2. Babies are not ready for solids until they:<br>
sit unassisted<br>
have lost all tongue thrust<br>
grab food<br>
put food in mouth<br><br>
#3. WHEN they are ready for food, it is best to let them self-feed. Better to start with soft chunks of fruits and veggies and skip the purees.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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That is awful, please don't allow that. Solids are no replacement for BM or formula. Force feeding is NOT a part of motherhood, NO! Your baby is telling you to stop, please listen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Your family is quite ill informed.
 

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I agree! Shoveling food in a crying baby's mouth is not only cruel, it is dangerous! Horrible HORRIBLE idea all around. Your MIL is from an era when this kind of feeding was the norm, but that is no excuse. Tell her NOT to do it.<br><br>
If your baby won't take a bottle, try a sippy cup, a cup with a straw, an eye dropper, spoonfeeding milk.... and if that doesn't work, he will probably wait til you get home and then nurse like crazy, many babies do this.<br><br>
If you want to start solids (it is a little early), <i>offer</i> small chunks of soft stuff like avocados, bananas, squash, etc, and he can feed himself.
 

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I remember my parents doing that with one of my brothers.... I do believe that it is very generational, my sister and I were started on cereal at 3 months etc. I really don't think you should start before 6, and there shouldn't be a time for force feeding as long as long as you have no med problems. That doesn't mean you can't get creative with the feeding though. My second DD would not eat, so finally at 12 months we started syringing it to her. She was more than happy to suck it out of a syringe but hated the spoon. to this day she still definately prefers the soft textures.
 
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