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I'm assuming that almost everyone on here is female. As you go around trying to convince others not to amputate, give my story as yet another example if you like. Give em my contact info if you wish. I don't want this to happen to newborn boys any more. It's too late for me, but the least I could do is help others.

There aren't other websites where males discuss this at length (that I know of), except for the 1,500 members in our "stop routine infant circumcision" facebook group. In fact, cut guys around my age that I talk to don't really want to hear about it. Denial? Apathy? Too busy partying? Maybe when they're older they'll start having more problems. I hope they realize the cause.

Tomorrow I will call the ACLU. I don't recall any large-scale legal action to bring this to an end. But first, education is key. We need massive media exposure.

As a side note I've noticed that there are more intact guys in porn. It used to be that they were barred from being in porn. Guys don't like to look at penises, but hopefully subconsciously they'll notice the superiority of natural penises. The cut guys look just like me, and it looks painful. Contrary to myth, boys in the shower don't compare. They do their best not to look at each others' penises. Otherwise, you'll be called gay. Of course, I don't want to encourage homophobia, but that's reality. If someone catches you looking at their penis for longer than a microsecond, you'll catch some heat.

My dad's uncut, and I never felt "different" from him. Actually, his skin doesn't cover the head entirely. I think in some older uncut men the head is exposed (my grandfather also). Maybe because it's got less tension? I don't know. In fact, I always thought that mine looked similar to his. It's only the fact that he was born in Japan that I knew that he was unaltered. He doesn't feel pain from underwear like I do.

As for size, I'm pretty sure mine is smaller due to amputation. (It IS smaller because of amputation, by definition). It always wants to retract to protect itself. My dad's is much bigger because it can relax.

I no longer feel anything, only pain. I always have friction against whatever I'm wearing. Even if i wore nothing, the air/temperature still hurts. I can ejaculate no problem, but orgasm is zero. I feel like I was just mutilated yesterday. I don't even feel attracted to girls anymore, no libido at all, not even morning erection. I'm still a virgin so it's not due to std's. If I went to a doctor I'd be diagnosed with "ED" and given cialis or viagra. I think 29 is too young for that. The damage is cumulative, so I noticed that the sensitivity has gone down my whole life. I do remember that in elementary school it was much more sensitive but by high school, I knew something was wrong. I realize now that because I was a long-distance runner in high school, I may have accelerated the damage.

I've been to several types of doctors but they all said "circumcision shouldn't affect functioning at all." The male docs were mostly older white males, circumcised of course. Even a naturopathic doc, whom I expected to be more understanding, said that it's "more sanitary" and "better for the woman." My chiropractor, who is always talking smack about the drug/surgery culture of this country, said that amputation has no consequences. The urologist said the same. He gave me a prostate exam (painful) and a sensitivity test with needles and concluded that I was fine. Another doc told me that it's due to stress and I should see a psychologist. Doesn't stress make you hornier, not less?

My only option now is non-surgical restoration. I will be attending the NORM meeting next month. I hope it goes well.

I was able to convince my mother that natural is best. But my other family members still repeat the myths. They laughed at me when I tried to convince my cousin not to cut her son, who is now 6. I gave all the reasons but they trust/believe their american-born/american-taught doctors too much, like everyone else. She's having another baby, so I'm hoping it's going to be a girl. Otherwise, they will do it again.

The more I learn about this, the more angry/depressed I get.
 

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How sad
. I'm very sorry you're feeling so much pain. I agree that you should look into restoration. NORM (national organization of restoring men) is a good place to start.
 

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I'm so sorry for you and your loss. Thank you for sharing your sad story.

The doctors were wrong, of course. Circ does affect sensitivity big time plus it does affect the performance.

As for stress, no it does not make your hornier. Stress is not a good thing in general and especially sex-wise. When you are in stress and/or emotional pain your body's priorities change. Number one priority becomes to survive, to heal (similar to a physical pain) and therefore, sex is usually the last thing on your mind.

I think it's great that you are thinking of restoring. I SO wish my husband would. And I hope it solves your problems. But first, now when you have a wonderful plan of action in your mind, try to relax and make your life less stressful.

Good luck!
 

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i'm sorry. and we are mostly female but there are some men who can offer support and advice as well. i wish dp would consider restoring.. i mentioned it once.. he looked at me like i had a few extra eyeballs.
 

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I'm sorry for your loss as well. And wish you the best of luck in restoring.
I too recently learned about the horror that is circumcision, (shortly after finding this forum). I have been depressed and horrified about it ever since. Especially after a friend told me about her nephew's circ, and how it was healthier. There's a lot of misinformation in mainstream medicine.
 

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there are a few men around here I hope they PM you. I hope you find peace.

I also hope you stick around MDC, its a pretty cool place!
 

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First, I am so sorry for your pain and that your rights were violated! Thank you for sharing your story, by sharing you are helping save other baby boys.

We have quite a few men on here too. I hope you will stick around here and join our community. We would love to have you as a fellow intactivist.

I hope you are able to restore and get back some of what was taken from you. Owner of TLC tugger is a member here. You might want to get in contact with him.

jen

Btw, don't listen to those docs!!! They don't know what they are talking about.
 

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thanks everyone. it's really hard to find support. a lot of my peers are dismissive and apathetic. hey if they don't have problems great for them. but I'll do everything I can to stop them from mutilating their future sons.
 

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so sorry you are going through this pain, I wish you the best with the restoration process. Thanks for sharing your story, hopefully many people will learn from this.
 

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I couldn't read and not post.
I hope restoration offers you some relief. Also, I know it is controversial, but might an artificial foreskin help with the sensitivity until you are further along with the restoration?
 

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Thank you for telling your story. Your activism, will help to end this national obssession that we have, for cutting off normal parts of newborn baby boys. We are reaching people, and your story does matter!!
 

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Originally Posted by leila1213 View Post
I couldn't read and not post.
I hope restoration offers you some relief. Also, I know it is controversial, but might an artificial foreskin help with the sensitivity until you are further along with the restoration?
Do you know if artificial foreskin breathable? I was wondering about the product. If it is not breathable, I'd imaging it causing more problems than good.
 

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Do you know if artificial foreskin breathable? I was wondering about the product. If it is not breathable, I'd imaging it causing more problems than good.
I'm not sure. All I really know is what I saw on a video someone posted...I thought it was you?
 

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I'm distressed all the time just knowing that there's a boy every 30 seconds (quoting the penn/teller show) in the US being mutilated. My cousin's pregnant again so I'm hoping it's a girl, otherwise she'll do it again. I tried convincing her not to do it to her now 6 year old, but if it's a boy and I can't stop her, I will really be pissed off because I know a lot more now about circumcision than I knew back then. If I can't even change my family members' thinking, how can I change society?

I'm trying to study for my final tomorrow but my own physical pain plus feeling helpless about what goes on every day just occupies my mind. At this point I want to just "forget about it" just like everyone else and do whatever it takes to be willfully ignorant. If I imitate my peers, I would just party, hang out, not care about anything, and worst of all, not THINK critically.
 

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If you don't mind me butting in again, cause this might be a bit long. Good luck with your cousin. I'm usually dealing with different issues, but I find I can't change the world but I can change my world. Circumcision is a really touchy subject, its the one I'm most reluctant to bring up, even when I'm discussing medical anthropology. That includes all the fights I've gotten in to discussing my choice not to vaccinate myself. And other natural living things I possess an interest in.
In my opinion not thinking critically is over-rated. I've tried imitating my peers, I usually find it very unsatisfying. Although sometimes I wish I was like my peers too (I'm a university student, they are much like yours for the most part).
Its really important that men speak out against circumcision, because I find as a woman if I speak about it barely anyone takes me seriously. Don't give up on it.
 
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