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whenever DD fusses, i try holding her, rocking her, walking around with her. i try to just be there for her--i never wanted to be a parent who lets their baby just cry in the crib or swing or whatever. i want her in my arms.<br><br>
but it seems like the only thing that comforts her sometimes is her bouncer seat. she was fussing during and after nursing this afternoon, and i tried holding her all kinds of ways, singing to her, rocking her--the only thing that helped is when i put her in the bouncer and walked out of the room to get some food for myself. she immediately started sucking her hand and stopped crying. i came back into the room and she fell asleep. two hours later, she's still sleeping her bouncer!<br><br>
is it weird my DD doesn't always want to be held? i feel like she doesn't like me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: unless she wants to eat, mommy is not much help to her, it seems.
 

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It's not you! Your babe is still so brand-new; she's adjusting to life and you are learning a LOT really quickly. There are so many different ways to hold a baby and some of them are comforting while others aren't. Have you read the Happiest Baby on the Block? There are some good suggestions in there. I found that holding dd on my forearm calmed her (her belly against my arm, my hand between her legs, her head in the crook of my arm). And if the bouncy seat calms her, go ahead and use it without guilt. Her preferences will change so quickly anyway, so don't worry about starting habits you don't want to continue. Have you tried a pacifier? I know some people are strongly against using them, but sometimes they can be really helpful. We used one for a few months and then dd just totally lost interest in them a while ago.
 

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Have you tried holding her and bouncing on a birth/exercise ball? My DD hates to be rocked, but loves to be bounced. That's how we get her to sleep at night and for some naps. She sleeps in a bouncy seat at daycare.<br><br>
I've heard that bouncing affects a pleasure center in baby's brain. So it's not a rejection of you, just a biological response.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I agree with the PP about the baby being so new and getting used to life on the outside, so to speak. One thing that really helped DS was bouncing on an exercise ball while holding him (ETA, I cross-posted with bdoody11 ... great suggestion!). Not only was it the ONLY thing that would calm him down sometimes, it also was a good post-partum workout!<br><br>
As for your DD wanting to be put down, follow her lead. Part of being an AP parent is listening to what your babe needs. There were definitely times when my I wished I could put my very clingy newborn down!<br><br>
Congrats on your new little one!
 

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Awwwwwwwwwwwww, I am sending you some big huge HUGS! I was there not so long ago as well. I also agree that your baby is just so brand new and getting used too her new world outside of you. I also have too chime in on the bouncing.. Lukie was the SAME way.. No amount of rocking would do, but he LOVED too be bounced as I swayed with him. This really was a huge help for us, it really seemed too calm and soothe him. You little one loves you so much I promise you that. I does get better with time..It really does. hang in there sweetie, your doing great, even if it does not feel like it at the time *hugs*
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It can be so hard sometimes when it seems like we can't comfort them. My kids are all so different and had very different needs. My ds1 absolutely had a need (and still does at 9yo) to not be touched at certain times. He is so much like me and would get completely touched out. He would need a bit of time to just chill out without contact. He still retreats to his room for long periods of "awone time" (what he called it at 2). My ds2 is very high needs and like the pp's he hated rocking. I got a beautiful new rocker that I loved and we called it the sulphuric acid chair. If you tried to rock with him there he would scream like acid was on him. He LOVED being bounced on the birth ball or even slung while walking with a bounce. Your baby is so new and you both need time to get to know each other. You will learn what your baby needs/likes/wants (not that you don't know so much already) over time and it will get easier. It sounds to me like you are incredibly caring and doing a great job. Be gentle with yourself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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Some babes get overstimulated with all the rocking and singing and touching. I ended up having to swaddle DD and leave her in the cosleeper next to me because that was the only thing that would sometimes calm her down. This period passes soon.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It's still hard.
 
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