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I don't think I'll ever get the hang of this! So far the only thing that seems to work is the Moby Wrap, but it gets awful warm in there. And I still get backaches. So it seems just carrying her is better, but it kills my arm. Abby is starting to get heavy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> .<br><br>
I've tried a Mamma's Milk sling (that I waited 3 mos for int he co-op), and it doesn't fit even on the biggest setting. It was a L/XL. I just got a ring sling custom made, but no matter how much I try, I can never get it tight enough. Seems like there's too much fabric there.<br><br>
I don't know what else to try, or what to do. Abby LOVES facing outwards & seeing what's going on. She's 4 mos. old, and weighs about 14lbs., maybe more. I'm plus sized, 5'3" & pushing 250, with a size 40J chest.<br><br>
I really need something to carry her in, especially while trying to make supper. That's the most stressful part of the day. I have her in a bouncy seat when I need both hands, otherwise I do everything one-handed. If anyone else tries holding her, she just cries.<br><br>
Is there something else I can try? I hate wasting money on things that don't work.
 

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Can you sell off what's not working for you to raise funds for something that will? Check out the trading post here, as well as the for sale or trade forum at <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com" target="_blank">www.thebabywearer.com</a><br><br>
I am thinking either a more supportive but lightweight wrap (like a Gypsymama) or a mei tai with extra-long straps might work well for you. You can do a forward facing out position in a wrap, and even better, you can learn to get her up on your back which is much more comfy and ergonomical. A back wrap is not such a a great idea in a stretchy wrap like the Moby, IMO.<br><br>
Also, why is the Moby so uncomfortable? Are you making sure that the fabric is well-spread across your back and shoulders when you first put it on, so it's not bunching up anywhere? Are you tying it tightly enough so that your dd is high and tight against your body? She really needs to be above your waist to be comfy for you.
 

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the hotsling worked well for me, your baby sounds like they could fit in it for the kangaroo carry...also wraps are seriously awesome for versatilty, comfort and for big mama's. my son is 4 mo. too and he will not tolerate anything but front facing, so its either the hotsling kangaroo carry or hip carry or a front facing wrap. you could also do a high back carry in a wrap so you could cook safely. it takes practice and patience, but its possible, and a 4 mo. old is probably sturdy enough that it isn't nerve wracking. gypsy mama and attachedtobaby.com have great instructions for how to carry in a wrap. if you are crafty you can even make it yourself! good luck and keep trying, there is a carrier for you! i have tried everything, seriously, everything and it took almost 2 1/2 mo. before i figured out what worked...and even then, somethings work one day and don't the next.
 

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Just wanted to say that I'm watching this thread and hoping for some answers myself. I'm 5' 6" 280 with a 46D and I'm having trouble keeping my 4MO little one happy. Sometimes it seems so comfortable and natural and other times it's a nightmare. He's getting wiggly and he doesn't want his legs bound up in the sling. This is about the age when I gave up on carrying my DD.<br>
The sling is so much more comfortable and less bulky than a carseat. I wish I had known more about them when my two older sons were little.
 

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Kelley, have you tried a wrap? This might work really well for you, especially because it would allow you to do carries that let your son's legs out so he's not constricted. A mei tai might be another very good option (one with extra-long straps).
 

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Can you sell off what's not working for you to raise funds for something that will? Check out the trading post here, as well as the for sale or trade forum at <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com" target="_blank">www.thebabywearer.com</a><br><br>
I am thinking either a more supportive but lightweight wrap (like a Gypsymama) or a mei tai with extra-long straps might work well for you. You can do a forward facing out position in a wrap, and even better, you can learn to get her up on your back which is much more comfy and ergonomical. A back wrap is not such a a great idea in a stretchy wrap like the Moby, IMO.<br><br>
yea...that...<br><br>
the moby is so stretch and isn't that great for heavier babies IMO. so that is prob. why it is hurting for you.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can you sell off what's not working for you to raise funds for something that will? Check out the trading post here, as well as the for sale or trade forum at <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com" target="_blank">www.thebabywearer.com</a><br><br>
I am thinking either a more supportive but lightweight wrap (like a Gypsymama) or a mei tai with extra-long straps might work well for you. You can do a forward facing out position in a wrap, and even better, you can learn to get her up on your back which is much more comfy and ergonomical. A back wrap is not such a a great idea in a stretchy wrap like the Moby, IMO.<br><br>
Also, why is the Moby so uncomfortable? Are you making sure that the fabric is well-spread across your back and shoulders when you first put it on, so it's not bunching up anywhere? Are you tying it tightly enough so that your dd is high and tight against your body? She really needs to be above your waist to be comfy for you.</div>
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Thanks for the ideas! I'm really hoping to figure this out. Maybe<br>
I'll try a Gypsymama wrap & see how that works. And Abby is definitely a lot heavier than my other babies were at this age too.<br><br>
Thanks for the help!
 

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4 months was a really hard age for us in terms of babywearing. DD only wanted to face forward, but we couldn't get comfortable with any of the carries. But by 6 months, she loved a back carry and a hip carry. Hang in there--it gets better!
 

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i would recommend a mei tai with extra long strap. and i really recommend trying a high back carry. they're up out of your way for things like cooking dinner - i wouldn't wear a baby on my front while cooking, i'd be afraid of them getting burnt or splattered or cut or something, especially facing out. but if you put them in a back carry high up so they can see out over your shoulder, they're just as happy, and you have them out of the way so you can get stuff done. and you can still wear them on your front - if you get a larger bodied one like a Kozy you can even do a kangaroo-type carry where they can face out, plus you can fold the bottom so their legs can stick out and face them out that way. and of course wear them inward facing too, or on the hip.<br><br>
wraps work great for a high back carry too (a woven one). but i would say that if you're having trouble with the amount of fabric you've got going on with the ring sling that the mei tai would be easier to deal with.
 

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Hey<br><br>
Theer are sooo many wonderful carriers ou tthere but most people only know about slings or those stretchy wraps...but there are lotsa of other fantastic things...I would highly suggest a Mei Tai...you can do a high back carry, front or hip...and they r easy to use and very comfy!<br><br>
Im a fan of the Mei tai, Onbuhimo and other Asian style carriers...I rarely pull out my wraps or slings anymore...they r more of a hassle-atleast to me.<br><br>
also...u dont need to spend a fortune on one! The Mei tai I have is from mynestlings.com and even thought I got it second hand they r $60 and are wodnerful...not as wide or big as a Kozy or a Babyhawk which might rock dept on how old ur baby is...my son is 4months and has been back carried since 3 weeks in a Onbuhimo and las month I started him in Mei tai's...SO comfy!<br><br>
id suggest u sell the items U cant use and then try to buy something gently used, second hand...and then once u see if it works...resell it and invest in a newer one (Unless the second hand one rocks ur world! :)<br><br>
p.s. as I re-read your post...my son LOVES to look out and when they r on your back, they will look to the right and left and maybe even over your shoulder dept on your child's length...but my son is soo used to a back carry...he's even started to gently lean to 1 side to peep around my shoulder...its safe though becos he's in nice and snug...also a Mei tai is SOOO easy to use...very little hassle...just hafta perfect how you put it on and tie it...but very comfy, secure and snug!)<br><br>
Umm Ibrahim
 
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