[oliversmum2000]

I went to a mums dinner evening last night, for the nursery mums, and it was nice. i am just feeling sad that all the mums from my olders ds's class seem to spend time together and have their little group of friends that i seem unable to penetrate and i feel my ds misses out as a result. one of the mums from ds's class also has a child in nursery, there is a new child in the class and she seems to have become very good friends with this new mum right away, and the same thing happened in older sons class, a new girl started and her mum seemed to be accepted right away.<br><br>
and the other mums largely have boys so it isnt a gender of child thing - i think ts just a me thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
ds has had a few of the children home after school to play and it always seems to have gone well, the child didnt want to leave etc but there havnt been any return invites at all.<br><br>
just feeling sad and bewildered as to how some people manage to do this whole social thing and why i just dont seem to fit in or be accepted by them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">

 

[BusyMommy]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Try not to worry now b/c soon you'll be inundated w/social occasions w/all of your kids' friends' parents and events. And, you'll end up clicking with some of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> And, try volunteering for something you're passionate about. And/or join a sports group for your favorite sport/activity.

 

[oliversmum2000]

i just dont know, ds has been going to that school for about 18 months now, and younger ds since september. i just dont seem to be good at whatever it is, when my older ds was at another nursery i didnt seem to fit in there either, i just dont seem to have anything in common with them at all.

 

[**guest**]

<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
It's like that where ds goes to school. It bothers me, too.

 

[oliversmum2000]

ds 2 will not be going to the same school as ds1, he will be going to the local primary school, i wonder if it will be any different. i dont normally care, i just grab the kids and go, but for some reason it bothered me today.<br><br>
i have arranged for a couple of ds1's friends to come over after school soon, so i feel better, it only bothers me in that i feel my ds may be effected by fewer chances to socialise with his friends as i dont socialise with them. but i feel better now - thanks for listening.

 

[marybethorama]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I went to a mums dinner evening last night, for the nursery mums, and it was nice. i am just feeling sad that all the mums from my olders ds's class seem to spend time together and have their little group of friends that i seem unable to penetrate and i feel my ds misses out as a result. one of the mums from ds's class also has a child in nursery, there is a new child in the class and she seems to have become very good friends with this new mum right away, and the same thing happened in older sons class, a new girl started and her mum seemed to be accepted right away.<br>
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You need a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
I'm sorry this is happening <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
It has happened to me too in the past.<br><br>
It's so hard when your kids lose out because you are not part of the clique. I've BTDT with playgroup.

 

[oliversmum2000]

thank you for the hug mary beth, odetojoy, and busymommy<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">

 

[Aeress]

*hugs* I feel the same way. It is starting to get better as I am meeting some Moms who share similiar parenting styles.<br><br>
My dd doesn't have a best friend, she is friends with everyone but we don't do play dates or get togethers yet. I imagine that she will develop a close friendship as she gets older. Still, it is hard on us at times. I feel like I am tagging along and not really making friends with other Moms.

 

[oliversmum2000]

thank you karen, its nice not to feel alone - i dont know what i would do without mdc sometimes