<p>I'm in the middle of a divorce. He left last November and has just moved in with some woman he met online in March. And, that's right, my kids (DD 9 & DS 3) have to deal with it too since we have shared parenting. I don't care about THAT except for the impression it gives my children that moving in is a part of dating. I WANT him to marry that woman and leave me alone.</p>
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<p>Anyway, I feel I'm wearing my friends out. I feel very alone. I live in the middle of nowhere, been trying trying trying to find a job, am struggling financially and am staring at the $1,000 bill my lawyer sent me for the work she's already done. I get so stressed ... and angry at what he's doing to my kids that I end up yelling at them and I mean really and truly flipping out.</p>
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<p>They are so stressed and caught in the middle. I just try to let them know I love them and I'm trying to do what's best and when this is all over, everyone will be much happier.</p>
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<p>We've been through mediation and now we're headed to trial. He wants the kids and wants to put them in school (they are homeschooled & this is our agreement until the end of the year when DD will be evaluated, yet he just had her give me the handbook from his local elementary school b/c he keeps talking to her about going to school).</p>
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<p>I live in backwoods country hickville. The family court judge here believes children should be with the mother - end of story. I've been going to a counselor who has worked with this judge for years and tells me the judge will never never never not in a million years let him take the kids out of state with him and put them in school. But I still have to fight and go through a bunch of expensive mess to get there because HIS lawyer says he's got an "80/20 percent" chance of winning the kids. I think his lawyer has him figured out as the chucklehead he is and an easy paycheck so he'll tell him whatever and keep charging him.</p>
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<p>He wants them all of T'giving week and I've already said no, just to be difficult. He quit paying child support this summer until it was court-ordered, quit paying my car so it almost got repossessed and now wont' pay the taxes on the house and it'll get sold on the courthouse steps in February. He makes $75k, I've stayed home for almost 10 years to raise the kids. So, no, I don't feel very cooperative.</p>
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<p>What set me off today was an email from my lawyer that I needed to let him have the kids T'giving so I said he could have them until 4 and come Christmas, I'll let him pick them up at 2 since it's his weekend. It's little things like this that just put me down.</p>
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<p>Just having a pity party, that's all. I think I'm going to be on here more because I need the support.</p>
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<p>Anyway, I feel I'm wearing my friends out. I feel very alone. I live in the middle of nowhere, been trying trying trying to find a job, am struggling financially and am staring at the $1,000 bill my lawyer sent me for the work she's already done. I get so stressed ... and angry at what he's doing to my kids that I end up yelling at them and I mean really and truly flipping out.</p>
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<p>They are so stressed and caught in the middle. I just try to let them know I love them and I'm trying to do what's best and when this is all over, everyone will be much happier.</p>
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<p>We've been through mediation and now we're headed to trial. He wants the kids and wants to put them in school (they are homeschooled & this is our agreement until the end of the year when DD will be evaluated, yet he just had her give me the handbook from his local elementary school b/c he keeps talking to her about going to school).</p>
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<p>I live in backwoods country hickville. The family court judge here believes children should be with the mother - end of story. I've been going to a counselor who has worked with this judge for years and tells me the judge will never never never not in a million years let him take the kids out of state with him and put them in school. But I still have to fight and go through a bunch of expensive mess to get there because HIS lawyer says he's got an "80/20 percent" chance of winning the kids. I think his lawyer has him figured out as the chucklehead he is and an easy paycheck so he'll tell him whatever and keep charging him.</p>
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<p>He wants them all of T'giving week and I've already said no, just to be difficult. He quit paying child support this summer until it was court-ordered, quit paying my car so it almost got repossessed and now wont' pay the taxes on the house and it'll get sold on the courthouse steps in February. He makes $75k, I've stayed home for almost 10 years to raise the kids. So, no, I don't feel very cooperative.</p>
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<p>What set me off today was an email from my lawyer that I needed to let him have the kids T'giving so I said he could have them until 4 and come Christmas, I'll let him pick them up at 2 since it's his weekend. It's little things like this that just put me down.</p>
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<p>Just having a pity party, that's all. I think I'm going to be on here more because I need the support.</p>
