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<span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Maybe this is all a hormone induced pity party but here I go!</span></span><br><br><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">I feel all alone. I feel like no one cares that I am pregnant. How pathetic do I sound already?? I think what it all boils down to is my whole life when anyone, other than myself, has been pregnant it has been a huge celebrated deal but for me it’s the opposite. With my first son everyone was in shock. "OMG, she is so young." I was 20. "They haven’t been together that long." True, 6 months to be exact. "They are not married." True again. My whole pregnancy was surrounded by whispers and I heard most of them due to my great sense of hearing and my half deaf grandmother. Then I got pregnant with my DD and it was planned. I was married to my husband at that point. I thought for sure they wouldn’t have anything negative to say but of course they did. "They can't financially afford it" "The oldest is about in school, why start over" It never dawned on anyone that I want a big family." All the negative talked died down quickly and everyone seemed to be happy for us and then my grandmother was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer. No one wants to celebrate life when someone is losing theirs. I understand that and I stood down and in the shadows. So, here I am pregnant again. Not a planned pregnancy but a loved one. I was hopeful that maybe people would be a bit more excited for us but I was wrong. My SIL is trying to get pregnant and that’s all she is interested in talking about, my pregnancy might as well be nonexistent. My mother just pretends that this is a good thing but has told me that she knows what its like to be pregnant with a mistake. My step dad keeps cracking jokes about castrating my husband, my older brother has nothing to say and my younger brother is referring to me as "The Breeder". I have no close friends around me. My husband has this terrific attitude of "been there, done that and have two kids to prove it" and offers no extra emotional support. He isn't even excited acting; he just keeps saying "I knew we would have another one". I don't know, maybe I am just over reading things but I feel so alone in this. All I want is for someone occasionally ask "how are ya doing?" or at least act half excited about this new life I am bring into this world. I would love for one of my friends to paint my belly 7 months from now or even have a no gift baby shower. Just a celebration of some type. Maybe I am just being too selfish. And I know that I will be fine no matter what happens it just saddens me. Then I read about or hear about other peoples lovely experiences and I get a little jealous. My mom tells me its all in my perspective. Maybe she is right. I just need some love and support, ya know? I guess I will put this pity party to rest for now. Thanks for hearing me out.</span></span>
 

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ddc crashing. I can SOOOOOO relate to you. Im pregnant again, this time a single mom by choice. I did AI. many of my friends and family members dont agree with my choice and why "I would do that to myself." I just knew it was what I had to do in life to be happy, and isnt that the goal in life, to be happy? anyway, since they dont agree with it no one is really happy for me. no one really cares. Everyone that I have told has responded with "oh, your pregnant. what are you gonna do?" What do you think Im gonna do, have a baby! Do the same thing Im doing now but with 2 kids. No one cares to ask how I am or how the baby is. Not even my own mother. My mom even said to me "I hope you dont expect a baby shower." First of all, I wasnt because I know my kids are going to be close in age... 25 months to be exact. And secondly no because I dont need anything except girls clothing now which Ill get myself. But I too wanted a get together or a blessingway with no gifts just to celebrate and be happy but once again because no one agrees with me even if I did have one no one would come. This has got me really down. I knew what I was getting into before hand when I was ttc, I knew it would be looked at and treated differently but darn it, I want at least one person in my family or close friend to be really happy for me.<br><br>
Now my sister is on the same boat. Over the weekend she announced that she too is pregnant. She is 17 and so its even more of a shocker to my family. She is due 3 weeks before me. Our family is very religious and now that they know she has had sex before marriage it is a HUGE deal to them. Once again, no one is really happy for her... Im still in shock over it... Im excited though but I need more time to let it sink in for me.... and she will not have a shower either. Again, not that she needs it because Im gonna lend her my DS clothes that he has outgrown. But still sad none the less that she and I are alone in our pregnancies.<br><br>
Hugs to you mama, and sorry for the novel. But know that you are not alone. Seriously if MDC was a real community I would so move there and support all the mamas who are lonely. Hugs to you mama and know that every baby planned or not planned is a blessing.
 

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Sounds like everyone is just being a bit rude. That's just wrong. My parents make it their policy to say "congratulations" whenever someone is pregnant whether they're 18 and unmarried or 45 and on kid number 12 and I honestly have to agree. Whether you were planning it or not, regardless of how old you are or how many kids you already have or how old they are, having a baby is a huge life-changer and pregnancy is no walk in the park. you need all the support you can get, not judgment or whispers.<br><br>
Talk to your husband about needing some extra support. And see if you can find any playgroups or mom groups in your areas. other moms get it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Anyways, congrats <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And how old are your other kids? have you told them yet?
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that your fam is so unsupportive. WTH is wrong with people??? You're going to have a baby!!! It's really no ones business to judge whether or not "they" think you should. This is about you and your family and what is best for your little unit. I know it's hard. I come from a huge fam and I'm like the 12th person in the grandkids group to be preg. No one cares. Been there, done that is the general attitude. But honestly, I just don't really care. I'm excited and so is DH so screw everyone else!<br><br>
When people feel that it's their place or right to judge and mock others, you can rest assured that that kind of Karma comes back around.<br><br>
I'm just so so sorry that they're taking that joy away from you. You have lots of support here.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm so sorry to hear that your fam is so unsupportive. WTH is wrong with people??? You're going to have a baby!!! It's really no ones business to judge whether or not "they" think you should. This is about you and your family and what is best for your little unit.<br><br>
I'm just so so sorry that they're taking that joy away from you. You have lots of support here.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"></div>
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Agreed 100%. Can you say to DH and maybe a few people you are close to, that you understand they aren't as excited as you are, but could they please be a little more supportive and loving? Asking for help is something I learned in weight watchers, I was always amazed by how people just needed to be informed.<br><br>
And as for "all in my perspective" well, yeah, but so what?! I mean, that's what we're talking about right? YOUR feelings! And what's so wrong with that?
 

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I've been trying to surround myself with people who are supportive and excited
 

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Oh. My. Gosh.<br><br>
My dear kindred spirit, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.<br><br>
I got pregnant at 21, had a baby at 22, and all my relatives whispered about me too. It was really embarrassing and very painful. I bucked up and eventually threw myself a baby shower (LOL) to which only a small handful of the people who were invited actually showed up... My future Mother-in-law sat me down and tried to convince me to give the baby up for adoption... (I bet she feels rather ditzy having done that now).<br><br>
With my second baby, it was just assumed I'd have an abortion!!!<br><br>
This isn't normal. Most people don't go through this but my whole life I've been overshadowed by the fact that I'm an only child and none of my aunts and uncles were able to conceive children of their own. EVERYTHING I ever did shocked the hell out of my whole family, good or bad. Nobody had any other kids to compare me to, so they spent a whole lotta gosh darn time discussing me, my comings and goings, and my future forecast.<br><br>
Anyway, like you we finally got married, not because we had to, but because we'd already done everything else. We'd bought a house, we'd had a couple of kids, we had a dog and a cat and we loved eachother. We wanted a wedding, a ceremony.<br><br>
You'd think by the time our third came along someone would at least have sent me a card or something. Nope. My mother-in-law was annoyed because she'd just sold all her baby gear at a garage sale. At about that time she refused to have any of our kids over at her place if they were wearing diapers. She still only officially "accepts" them after they're walking and talking.<br><br>
Our fourth is a testimony to this. She's only been at her grandmother's house without us twice, and they only live three blocks away<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"> She'll be 2 in February.<br><br>
Inbetween my pregnancies my relatives will say, "you're done now, of course," "tell Jason to get a vascectomy!" "are you feeling ok, because you're putting on weight!" <---my personal favorite, and "you're not pregnant again are you?!?"<br><br>
Well thank you very much for asking, yes I am! I hope to deliver number 5 in July.<br><br><br>
I try to be sensitive because i know in some ways this is all compounded by the fact that I seem to be the only fertile component on my family tree. My Mother had four sisters and brothers, all infertile, quite before all the new technology available today. I think it's a sore spot for some of them each time we produce a child. My husband and his brother were both adopted because his parents had an ectopic and she had her tubes removed or tied because of that, and there is definately a sore spot there. It's only natural that they'd make a few biting remarks.<br><br>
What gets me is that they've purposely forgotten some of their own flaws and shaky choices in favor of judging me, and I haven't even done anything wrong! One of my uncles got married after knowing the woman 6 months and didn't last more than two years. No one criticized him. My inlaws were BOTH engaged to other people when they met, my FIL actually left a daughter *behind* and only reconnected with her when she was about FORTY!<br><br>
So, while they forget all this stuff, I don't. And I don't feel one iota badly when I don't get support from these bozos. What do you expect? I used to get down about it, but heck, they're never gonna change so I'm just going to be happy and work hard and enjoy my wonderful family that I am so blessed to have.<br><br>
I can hardly wait to hear their opinions when I mention I'm planning to homeschool <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br><br>
Excuse me, I have to go eat my second supper now LOL<br><br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">All I want is for someone occasionally ask "how are ya doing?" or at least act half excited about this new life I am bring into this world.</div>
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<span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Thank you everyone for responding. I feel guilty for writing these posts when there are so many other people who are having a rough time but are able to suck it up and just go on with life. I have never been a person that can suck it up; I have always considered it a flaw of mine. I am happy though that I have found people who understand where I am coming from. I am hoping that things will get better for us all. Just hang in here with me momma’s and HUGGS to you all!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"></span></span><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Talk to your husband about needing some extra support. And see if you can find any playgroups or mom groups in your areas. other moms get it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Anyways, congrats <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And how old are your other kids? have you told them yet?</div>
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<br><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As far as asking DH for extra support, I have. He just doesn’t get it. He’s not intentionally trying to be how he is, he just really don’t get it. He wants me to tell him what to do and how. I really don’t have the patients to write an instruction manual for him so he just does what he always does…not much.</span></span><br><br><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As for the playgroups… as it turns out… I kinda got kicked out of one last year. I am just not a group kind of person, I guess. I try to make friends but I must be lacking that “making Friends in person” gene. I did start going to LLL and AP meetings so I am hopeful to make some new friends!</span></span><br><br><span style="font-family:Verdana;">I have told my other DC. DS is 5 and is thrilled that we are having another baby. He is VERY supportive and wants to take care of me. He can’t wait until I have the baby and is convinced that it is a boy and wants me to name him Blaze… don’t see that happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My DD is 20 months and really just doesn’t care or better yet doesn’t grasp the idea there really is a baby in my belly. She enjoys pointing to my belly and saying “baby” and loves chatting to babies in pictures or on tv. I am sure once “baby” arrives she wont be so egger to share mommy and daddy.</span><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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So, while they forget all this stuff, I don't. And I don't feel one iota badly when I don't get support from these bozos. What do you expect? I used to get down about it, but heck, they're never gonna change so I'm just going to be happy and work hard and enjoy my wonderful family that I am so blessed to have.<br><br>
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How I wish I could feel the way you do!! You have such a great attitude.<br><br><br>
I do Unschool and yeah that rocked their worlds... Honestly, I have only told half that we US the other half thinks we HS. I am sure the day will come when I tell the half that thinks we HS that we do US and I am positive that they will think the sky is falling! It really is sad how much everyone else thinks they know what is best... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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<span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Just wanted to add... I just found out my SIL is pregnant too. I’m like two weeks ahead of her. This is her first and my third. I am thrilled for her but I am sure this is going to turn into an "all about her thing". I know she deserves all the attention that every new mom does but yet again it seems to be raining on my parade.</span></span>
 

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Migrate to people who actually CARE about you. I haven't told my mom about this pregnancy yet, but after my DD was born 2 years ago, she recently said, "no more kids, I don't want to take care of any more!" All my brothers kids are already in collage and while I'm the youngest, I'm 44 and my mom think I am too old. Try not to seek their approval, because if you do, you'll just end up more depressed and you don't want that being pregnant! My BFF is the only one I can really talk to outside of DF and it REALLY helps.
 

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This is our 8th baby. We aren't exactly getting warm congrats from family. I'm grateful for friends who make up for the luke warm family.<br><br>
My BIL and his GF announced their pregnancy the day we got our BFP, LOL We however kept quiet about our bundle of joy because we felt they deserved the happiness because it's their first and this is our 8th.<br><br>
2 Days ago we finally told BIL our news and told him we weren't telling our news yet so he could still have the spotlight, but we wanted him to know and to let him know we didn't get pregnant to try and take his and his GF's thunder.
 

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Chase_Mommy:<br><br><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:large;"><b><span style="color:#FF0000;">OMG!!!</span> <span><span style="font-size:x-large;"><i>YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!!!</i></span></span> <span>w00t!!!</span> <span style="color:#800080;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <span>I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!</span></b></span></span> (Really, I am!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:jumper s<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">:bro c<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:car rot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Chase_Mommy:<br><br><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:large;"><b><span style="color:#FF0000;">OMG!!!</span> <span><span style="font-size:x-large;"><i>YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!!!</i></span></span> <span>w00t!!!</span> <span style="color:#800080;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <span>I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!</span></b></span></span> (Really, I am!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:jumper s<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">:bro c<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:car rot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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just deserves to be said again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Chase_Mommy:<br><br><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:large;"><b><span style="color:#FF0000;">OMG!!!</span> <span><span style="font-size:x-large;"><i>YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!!!</i></span></span> <span>w00t!!!</span> <span style="color:#800080;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <span>I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!</span></b></span></span> (Really, I am!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:jumper s<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">:bro c<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:car rot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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and again!!<br><br>
truly, Congrats!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Chase_Mommy:<br><br><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:large;"><b><span style="color:#FF0000;">OMG!!!</span> <span><span style="font-size:x-large;"><i>YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!!!</i></span></span> <span>w00t!!!</span> <span style="color:#800080;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <span>I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!</span></b></span></span> (Really, I am!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:jumper s<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">:bro c<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:car rot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">just deserves to be said again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></div>
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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>majazama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14754840"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">and again!!<br><br>
truly, Congrats!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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WOW ladies! Thank you so much I was not expecting that at all! Thank you, thank you, thank you! You all are very sweet. You have made my day!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/blowkiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Blowkiss"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>CorasMama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14754536"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Chase_Mommy:<br><br><span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="font-size:large;"><b><span style="color:#FF0000;">OMG!!!</span> <span><span style="font-size:x-large;"><i>YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!!!</i></span></span> <span>w00t!!!</span> <span style="color:#800080;">CONGRATULATIONS!</span> <span>I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!</span></b></span></span> (Really, I am!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:jumper s<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">:bro c<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">:car rot<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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And again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> chasemommy, I'm so sorry that you're feeling alone in this right now. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying---my first pregnancy was pretty "upstaged" by my sis and other life stuff, and definitely I feel like we will be criticized this time because of finances, it being unplanned, lots of other things.<br><br>
I too, have zero momma friends IRL, especially with new babies. The moms I do know all have older kids (except my sis who is being supportive, but very "medical" as she's a nurse and can be presumptuous that she's always right since she has four now) I feel like "the breeder" too because all my friends are the young, single, art crowd, you know? I'm a hip young lady, too, but my family is just way more important---everything else is barely a blip on the radar.<br><br>
I just want you to know that you're not alone. I'm sorry that your fam is blowing you off and making you feel bad about this very exciting, wonderful blessing. I for one, am interested in how you're doing!<br><br>
If I were there, I'd totally paint your belly and throw you a baby shower!
 
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