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<p> I just wanted to say that the intensity that i was experiencing  before has subsided. i'm relived for this and  feeling  like the world is less of a scary place some of the time.</p>
<p>i've started talking with a counselor and continue to do so, i  have opened up a bit to  people in my life not about  specifics but about other stress factors.</p>
<p>on  major thing that happened was something in one of my classes that lead me to have to drop my  class  and i decided to  speak up about the materiel covered along with my universities  student advocates. i will meet  with the chair of my  department  sometime next week.</p>
<p>i feel so glad to be proactive, it has really  helped me in the last few weeks.</p>
<p> here is the letter i sent,  so you  can  get a jist of what happened and why i  felt so  strongly about  the classroom environment afterwords.</p>
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<p>Dear Dr. xxxx xxxxxx, I</p>
<p>am contacting you in regards to some course materiel within the xxxx program  xxxxxxxxx class, taught by xxxxx xxxx.<br>

In one class the lesson plan included watching an episode of “Law and Order SVU”, in which a female student brings forth rape charges against her professor. Following the episode students were instructed to act as if we were a jury and decide whether or not the defendant was guilty or innocent. The discussion that occurred in the class was extremely problematic.<br><br>
Students were encouraged to debate the credibility of both parties.  Arguments were made and allowed to stand as if viable about how many sexual partners the women had previously had, about what the complainant had worn when meeting with her professor (as if a low cut shirt was invitation for sexual advances or that it somehow negates the likeliness of her telling the truth about her rape), about how she behaved afterwords in reaction to the trauma and not acting like the "perfect" victim, etc. There are many more examples but these illustrate the type of problematic discourse I am objecting to. The failure to moderate the discussion on a topic such as rape and the complete lack of proper statistical information that was made available during the discussion to counter the myths being perpetuated in the class was completely unacceptable.<br>

Furthermore there was no warning given prior to the class that such a topic would be discussed, a topic such as this could be triggering to those who have survived sexual assault.  As a rape survivor myself, I felt that the classroom environment changed for me drastically after that class and ultimately led me to discontinue the course.<br>

I would like to note that the issue at hand is not so much about the topic but rather about the complete lack of respect that such a topic was given, and the fact that no prior warning was given.  Since the xxxxxxxx Department educates a fair amount of students who go on to pursue careers in the community service sector and other such professions, it is horrendous that professors are perpetuating stereotypes against women and rape victims.  This can become even more problematic as these types of people make up the majority of the clientele and our need for respect and accurate information cannot be overlooked.
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Thank you for your time and understanding in this matter.<br><br>
Sincerely, 
xxxxxx (me)</p>
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<p>i am done finals on monday i am looking forward to taking some time for myself and my kid and just enjoying our lazy days off.</p>
 

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What is it with ignorant college profs? While discussing (totally blanking the book title- 4 guys take a canoe trip that goes horribly wrong. Made into a movie, creepy banjo music, 1970s), my freshman lit teacher told the class that it was worse for a man to be raped than a woman. This was two years after I was raped. I tried calmly explaining that it made no difference but ended up bawling. He later apologized, said he'd thought about it and I was right. I was 19 and hadn't acknowledged my rape, didn't know what triggers were or that I was most likely having an anxiety attack in class.<br><br>
All that to say, I'm sorry that happened in your class. I think you're handling it very well. Your letter is well written and I hope it is well recieved.<br><br>
ETA - Deliverance
 

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<p>Great letter! That is terrible they have expectations on how one should act after being raped, and that a victim should have suspicion cast on her if she doesn't act just so. At the same time, I can kind of understand why, since there are sometimes false claims and that can ruin the life and career of someone even if it's found to be untrue. The whole subject is such a difficult one. I hope they take your letter to heart and do something about that class.</p>
 

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<p>I'm really glad you spoke up and broke the silence. That was a great letter.</p>
 

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<p>Wow. I'm sorry that happened, I've been triggered in a classroom setting before too but nothing as blatant as that. I'm really glad you wrote that letter & I wouldn't be surprised if there were other students in the class similarly affected so you aren't just standing up for yourself but for others who are too scared etc. to speak up. Great letter... would love to hear if you got a response!</p>
 

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I also thought it was a great letter. I hope it leads to positive changes, and kudos to you for having the courage to stand up and say something. <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif">
 

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<p> thanks for all the replies.</p>
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<p>i met with the chair of the  dept last week,  she is going to speak with the professor  whose class it was and in the future if such a subject needs to be  brought up in a class lesson there will be a warning before hand. Also if the prof uses that same lesson she will have to provide accurate stats on rape  not just leave  it up to people opinions in the discussion.</p>
<p>I will have priority registration for the summer  to be able to take the class again as i need it in order to graduate, i will not be taking it with the same prof.</p>
<p>I have  filed for a late DNE with  would essentially give me a refund for the class, which  would be about 400$ and if i get  denied the  dept head will write a letter to go along with my appeal to that committee.</p>
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<p>so i'm glad i  went thru with all this it was good for me take some action  and assert myself.</p>
 
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