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Anyone feeling blue, or just not quite happy yet? Of course I know most of you were trying but...We really weren't and decided to wait a few months, but we got preg this month. Last month I really thought we were and was so upset over not being. But so far this month, I'm just not feeling happy. With ds we were so happy, not fully relaxed until our insurance came through and the 12 weeks was up, but it's so different this time.<br>
I don't know if it's because we talked about waiting, or no insurance yet, or the fact that I'm constantly thinking of ds 20m now and how it will effect him, and will I have enough love for both or what. It's just crazy. Plus I know my inlaws at least aren't going to be very thrilled since we just bought a house a few months ago and need to get some things done yet, so aren't exactly finacially set-but who is? I also feel like dh isn't entirely happy and for the same reasons I listed. He's asked me how I'm feeling and I asked him if he's happy, wich he said yes, but maybe he's feeling what I am. So since he doesn't seem "happy" I don't exactly feel happy. It's just strange since I didn't feel this with ds at all. i really don't like feeling glum like this, I just can't snap out of it. Is this common with second/third etc babies?
 

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I have the same thoughts about my pregnancy. I wouldn't even call it blue, just not really happy. I think it comes with a little knowledge of how much this will change things, what needs to be done, what I will lose. (youngest is 5yo, I will be losing my freedom all over again). DH is right there with me, not so happy. a little worried. Friends and family that we have told are mostly surprised and have a look like "I'm glad its not me".... or that's how I interpret it.<br>
I am noticing a switch in my thinking in the last day or two. Looking ahead to that sweet baby smell, first smiles, big brother and sister nurturing and loving the new babe, these thoughts are starting to displace the worry. Also a little problem solving on insurrance and finances.<br>
I also wanted to add that I worried alot about my first born (she was 4) when pregnant with my second. How could I possibly love them both. People would tell me this, and I wouldn't believe it until it happened to me: it just happens, you will love them both so much, hearts expand, love multiplies. When it was all said and done, I realized how ful our lives became with #2.<br>
Oh, I'm going on and on just to say that I think what you are feeling is normal and my thoughts are with you today.<br>
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I'm there too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br>
We were trying (not trying, not preventing), but after a rough week and some soul searching I had decided we should stop trying, but I was already pregnant.<br>
We aren't in the best place financially. I'm confident that things will improve, but it's just uncomfortable being so poor and pregnant. Telling family will be really uncomfortable.<br>
On top of this I have been feeling so so so sick. I'm hoping that when the morning sickness passes I'll feel more excited. Right now I am just not enjoying this pregnancy.
 

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I also forgot to mention that part of my mood change today was a little relief from morning sickness. CNM recommended vitamin B6 before bed and I tried it. This was the best day I've had for a while. It seemed to hold until about 4pm. 2much2luv- I wonder if it could help??<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s:<br>
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Blue... yes... I wish the spotting would stop. I wish I was like most women who didn't spot at all... I'm doing better than before mentally though. I've let go of it, but I still feel very pregnant (read: tired and queasy) and I get emotional when I go to the bathroom... and the house is in shambles and we've been eating out a lot...<br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I also forgot to mention that part of my mood change today was a little relief from morning sickness. CNM recommended vitamin B6 before bed and I tried it. This was the best day I've had for a while. It seemed to hold until about 4pm. 2much2luv- I wonder if it could help??<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s:<br>
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I'm going to try that! I've been trying ginger tea and it hasn't been very helpful. The sickness has eased up a bit this week (week 6 was HORRIBLE) but it's still there so I'll try the B6.
 
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