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I have been feeling so down!! My knee is acting up (too may years playing rugby) and I basically can't walk more then a few feet. I am seeing a do con Thursday. It hurts like hell, but there is not medicaine I can take that actually works.<br><br>
My husband has been doing mostly everything, but it is making him even more crabby then usual (and he is generally a crabby person). I am having a hard time just being in the same house with him!! I have tried talking to him but he just gets mad.<br><br>
Lately we don't talk much at all unless I beg him to sit down with me. I can never say anything where he won't correct me or just tell me I am wrong.<br><br>
Something is wrong with him and he won't admit it or talk about it.<br><br>
This morning was the first morning all week he didn't bark at me and it is because I pretty much stayed away from him, didn't talk to him, and didn't ask for any help (which I need!!!!!).<br><br>
I feel like this is going to start to effect my three year old which would be devistating.<br><br>
Any advice? I was thinking therapy, but with all the knee appointments I am going to have and the obgyn appointments, I just don't have the time to take off of work.
 

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Sounds for sure like he's bothered about something. I don't know if there's a way you could try to get him to open up to you, but it seems like that's the only way anything's going to be able to change for the better. Maybe he's stressed by the pregnancy? I'm so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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He is stressed. He has a lot going on at work and now he has to do all of the housework. But he won't talk about it. I think he needs a break but I don't know how to give him one.
 

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Maybe after your DD is in bed you can let him know that you realize he's under a lot of stress and are grateful for everything he's been doing for you and offer to give him a massage or something... A little physical time together might get him to open up a little. Good luck!
 

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I think for us women, no matter how hard something may get physically when we are growing the lil baby- we have that bond to keep us going. we are always watching out for little kicks, and we spend a lot of time dreaming about the baby, how we are going to nurse etc etc. For men I think it has to be different, because even though they love the baby they just dont have that physical and mental connection with the little one as we do. So i think they can get overwhelmed easier...all of sudden their wife is in pain/crabby/annoying (i know i am) and- um, where is the sex. lol. of course this does not apply to everyone and every time-i think circumstances affect all of this...<br><br>
but he is probably overwhelmed,doing extra house work, thinks a lot about providing, work is stressful..and no sweet baby kicks to feel in his belly. You have got to find ways to reconnect mama- which i know may be hard given the fact that you can barely walk! But i think reconnection is in order here-whatever that means for you as a couple. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Hope you work it all out soon!
 

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Thanks guys. This was super helpful and I am motivated again!
 
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