[mama40]

I finally bit the bullet and sat down with the net-asset paperwork, and found -- to my surprise & relief -- that there's not really a lot to argue over in terms of assets. We both have some; he's got more, but I don't see that it's enough to get into a bloody fight over. There's little debt, and I'm not going to fight about school debt I brought in. Now that I look at it, we could piss away much of the difference in legal/mediation fees pretty fast if we fought.

So if stbx is agreeable, that really just leaves custody and support. And though I'd fight them, I can live with the reasonable worst-case scenarios (50/50 custody, deadbeat). Experience tells me stbx is capable of pulling some real nightmares out of his ass, but I think they'd likely be post-divorce.

Which means I'm now...well, not quite relaxed about this whole divorce thing, but there's just not a lot to freak over, afaics.

 

[JustVanessa]

That must be a nice feeling to have it out of your hair. I had to do a sep. agreement right away for the bank and to apply for subsidised housing but I had a little breath of relief when he signed it. I did mine while he still felt like a dog for leaving.

 

[MamaDaednu]

Yeah, I think the unknows is a looming dark thing until you sit down and do the paperwork.
I don't know when we'll get to the paperwork since we'll be splitting in the spring. Meanwhile I feel like it's hovering thing just to the side of me. I look forward to getting the details down on paper.
I'm glad for you that you've got to that point.

 

[CalebsMama05]

I still need to file for divorce. its been almost 8mos. *sigh*

 

[cheyennemama]

Go mama40! I feel so much better that mine's signed and it wasn't even really in my favor. I'm just glad it's almost over!

 

[TAC]

I was so relieved and excited when I signed the papers. I got about 5 days of relaxation and it all started up again. I never thought you could keep going to court after the papers were signed. Silly me....

 

[Bad Mama Jama]

Good for you, mama, for having the courage to assess your situation and I'm glad that you all don't have a lot of debt. That could be ugly.