Feeling guilty and a ?

Kerrie, be kind to yourself. You are doing nothing wrong by grieving your loss. Of course you have amazing children......and of course you realize that. But that does not mean that you must "brush under the rug" your grief for this lost babe. I also have an amazing child, (don't we all ) a 6 year old son who knows that his stillborn sister is still a part of our family. I am so thankful for Brenny........and I still miss little Sophie like all get-out!!!!!!! One does not negate the other.

As for a D&C...I had one many years ago, and as I recall, it involves medication to dilate your cervix, then a tube inserted into your uterus to vacum out the lining and any tissue that is present. Typically, I think a woman lays on her back with her feet in stirupps, like for a gyn exam. That's the position I assumed, anyway... . Talk to your dr. about risks and side effects.

Remember, be kind to yourself regarding your loss. Celebrate your children.....including the one that could not stay.....

Blessings to you,

Jen (painted horse)

I can relate to feeling guilty mourning when I already have a beautiful little boy. But the truth is, you loved this baby too.

As for the D&C, I had one in April to remove a piece of placenta that had been retained after I lost my daughter. I went to the hospital to have it done, but i have heard of other women having it done in the Dr's office. I went in a few hours before surgery. They prepped me by doing some bloodwork and putting in an IV. THen the Anisthesiologist came in and asked alot of questions. He gave me some medicine to relax me and they wheeled me in to surgery. They moved me to the bed and gave me more anesthesia. At that point I went under and woke up in recovery. During the procedure they dilate your cervix using little metal rods of increasing thickness. Then they insert a tool to scrape out the lining of your uterus. The procedure takes about 45 minutes and is really safe. THere are risks involved of course, reactions to the anesthesia being the most dangerous. You can get an infection or even in rare cases hemorage, but it is really rare. You will probably have a tube down your throat to help you breath, but they remove it before you wake up and it just leaves you with a touch of sore throat. I was really crampy after the surgery, but they gave me some medicine through my IV and I didn't have much trouble after that. I spent about an hour in my room afterwards recovering from the anesthesia, and then as soon as I could urinate I was allowed to go home. I had some cramping, but nothing worse than my period. I took a little tylenol, and used a hot compress and I was fine. With in a few days I was back to my normal self, and I stopped bleeding after 8 days which is about normal.

I hope this helps you. Just be gentle on yourself.