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hi<br>
well another christmas is upon us and i havent done a single thing. i am sending out xmas cards today, i was waiting for pictures, long story.<br>
christmas is a great holiday when you're a kid, filled with mystery, hope, anticipation.... snow, etc!<br>
we dont get snow, often, where we live now. so it doesnt feel like xmas.<br>
we have some lights up, but no tree yet. we cant afford one, really, so i'm waiting till they go on sale... & it still seems silly to spend grocery money on a tree we're only going to use for a week.<br>
alot of our xmas stuff is in storage. i dont usually decorate a whole lot anyway.<br>
the problem is, i feel i am letting my kids down. i am not giving them the xmas i had as a kid, lots of presents under the tree, lots of snow, a month of family parties and festivities.<br>
i think of xmas as a secular holiday only, we used to go to church on xmas eve and i havent felt the need to do that with my kids(sorry religious mommies, i just feel hypocritical going once a year).<br>
they are now done school for two weeks and i am going to make an extra effort to do some xmas theme baking, try to get a tree, and probably borrow money at the last minute from very kind friends to get the kids a couple of small things each.<br>
dont get me wrong, this isnt about money. and they dont need alot of things.<br>
its the warm festive feelings i miss, i dont want them to miss out on, new traditions we arent creating, old ones we arent continuing....<br>
can anybody relate, and whats the remedy?<br>
TIA<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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The "Remedy" is putting your heart into it.<br><br>
I am a "religious momma" so for me church IS part of it, but so is giving (food donations, money, toys, clothes -new &/or used) and teaching the kids the Reason for the Season. Jesus's Birth and what He came to do......... For me Presonally, without all of wich Christmas would not feel like Christmas to me either.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Also wanted to add that I TOTALLY agree with the part about the tree & whatnot. We bought a fakie about 3-4 years ago for 20 bucks at an after christmas sale & it has payed for itself 10-fold!<br><br>
And the part about not carrying on traditions & starting new ones.... arent there ANY that you loved as a kid that you remember that "Made Christmas feel like Christmas?" that would be worth trying?? Or what about starting a new one like going down to a food closet & helping serve others?? Or volunteering to visit nurning homes? Kids like to do "Carrolling" there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
HTH!
 

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thanks, ms doula, some great ideas; i think helping others would be a great trdition to start! everyone is so short on time but that is worth the extra effort. if my kids get the feeling the season is for helping others i would be very happy!<br>
the fake tree is a great idea, a real tree is one tradition i cherish; maybe i will just get a real branch to add to the fake tree for scent!! start a new tradition...<br>
i guess i have lost the real meaning of christmas... but when you are not religious, xmas really is just a secular holiday, santa claus and snowmen, not nativity scenes. i realize that is the origin of the season, and my children are aware of that too. i respesct that. maybe it would do us good to get back to the roots of the season. maybe we will go to mass this year.<br>
one reason i am having trouble getting my 'heart' into it this year, is my mom passed. which also makes me feel more guilty not acknowledging traditions! the simple things like big family meals....our family is far away. we will be with friends though... and i am looking forward to the actual day.. but moreso because then it will be over!!<br>
the feelings i'm talking about are the sitting by the fire with hot cocoa kind!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
maybe i'll ask the kids for ideas on how to get more christmassy...
 

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AWWWW!!! LOTTSA <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s for ya!<br><br>
Sounds like you are on the right track now......<br>
Good idea to ask the kids. They'll prolly tell you whats on their hearts & minds. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Also, maybe you should MAKE SOME HOT COCOA!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/caffix.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="coffee"><br><br>
Also maybe MAKE some decorations *WITH* the kids!!<br><a href="http://www.enchantedlearning.com/crafts/winter/" target="_blank">http://www.enchantedlearning.com/crafts/winter/</a> has some AWESOME ideas!!!<br><br>
And if getting a real tree is a good important tradition for you to carry, you could call the city offices.... see if anyone is selling local tree permits (on like BLM/forestry land) they are usually LESS than 10. bucks!)<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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I started a thread while ago "Help me find my Christmas spirit" so I CAN relate!!<br><br>
I know exactly what you mean. My family is in Europe, I have not spent Xmas with them for last 8 years! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> I miss snow, and I don't feel like Xmas at all.<br><br>
I have a little boy, so I am looking forward to the Xmas that are to come next year and on.<br><br>
I don't feel like decorating, putting up a tree for only a week, nothing like that.<br><br>
I am not depressed either though. It just feels like any other day. I wish I'd be more excited.<br><br>
My mom called and said there is 30cm of snow at home! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I wish I could be there with them...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I am really looking forward to that!! Just bought plenty of milk, chocolate syrup and whipping cream yesterday <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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LOL<br>
around here hot chocolate and marshmallows are a regular occurance!! maybe i'll buy some whipped cream to make it extra special! no fire though....<br>
thanks for the great link, i am definetly feeling more inspired! i gotta go out and buy more glue!!:LOL<br>
i am mostly just so happy now cause they are done school for two weeks!! yeah, sleeping in!<br>
next year i will try to get on top of things quicker. but then thats what i always say...<br>
pavlina, i dont want to be in the snow!! we went up the mountain the other day and it was so brutal. it is part of my imagery though..... but it will probably be another nice sunny day here, and i am not complaining! one new tradition i'll be glad to get used to!!<br>
i only want it for the kids; when our first was young we didnt really bother. but they notice now....<br>
can't wait for them to come home from school<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
gotta run<br>
thanks all<br>
nancy<br>
ps HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">
 

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I feel a bit melencholy at times as well. It's money, mostly, that makes me feel like Christmas is more of a pain than something to celebrate, and also my grandmother died a few years ago, and she was so into Christmas that it just feels wrong that she's not here...<br><br>
Anyway, I know what you're feeling. It's like you are trying to make Chrsitmas special for the kids, but you yourself aren't into it.<br><br>
What I do to get myself out of the funk is to try and do activities that don't cost a whole lot, like making cookies, doing something for charity- even if it's just cleaning out drawers and closets to donate to goodwill (which is what we did this year.) Also, make a nice hot drink and put in a movie like "It's a Wonderful Life" or "The Chrsitmas Carol." Those movies always make me feel warm fuzzies....<br><br>
Take care of yourself, and your little ones!
 
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