[BlueBelle]

I'm pretty new here, but looking for someone to tell me I'm not a bad mom.

I work a graveyard shift, 5 PM to 1 AM, and DH works 6 AM to 4 PM, so we don't have to put DD in daycare--I'm VERY grateful for that. But today, Peyton (my dd) woke up with a stuffy/runny nose and was all sad and cuddly and sleepy--I wanted to stay home with her so badly, but I couldn't rationalize doing so, when I knew DH would be there with her. I feel AWFUL being at work when my baby girl is sick!

*sigh* I miss my baby.

I wanna go home and snuggle her.

 

[Katie's Momma]

awww BlueBelle, I've been there too. It is an awful feeling isn't it?

Just try to remember that you are working the shifts you do, so that she doesn't have to go to daycare. The bigger picture is for her benefit.

 

[Lucky Charm]

My husband and I tag teamed like you do for a few years, and now, we work opposite days, me usually working days on the weekends when he is at home.

I never really felt guilt of any sorts because our kids were with their dad, you know?

As parents we do what we have to. But there is nothing like snuggling with a little one. its just the best!

 

[norasmom]

I totally understand what you mean. I am temporaraly back at work (just for 2 months) and I also hav it worked out so DD is only left with DH or my mom, and I still hate leaving her. I just keep telling myself I'm doing it the best way I can and DD is with people who love as much as I do!

You're not alone, we all want to be with our little ones

 

[BlueBelle]

Thanks, everyone. You're right, it's in her best interest that we work the shifts we do...and it'd be harder to leave her all day with a stranger! Still...I just want so badly to be a SAHM...hopefully soon we can afford it.

 

[Liz]

I don't think any of us that use daycares leave our children with "strangers". We are all doing what is best for our families.

 

[mom2lyndsey]

BlueBelle,

It's called attachment parenting NOT attachment mothering. Your dh is also her parent. BTDT and still doing it. We do the best we can with what we have.

Lyndsey's mom

 

[kerc]

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We do the best we can with what we have.

agreed. It does still give me a little twang when I miss something. Or like this morning when all 3 of us went to the cars at the same time. DD was so sad waving bye bye.

and in an hour when I pick her up she'll likely have nothing to do with me. little squirt.

 

[BlueBelle]

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Originally Posted by Liz I don't think any of us that use daycares leave our children with "strangers". We are all doing what is best for our families.

I'm sorry you offended yourself with my posting. I never said that you left your child with strangers. In my case, putting my daughter in daycare WOULD involve leaving her with people I don't know in a personal way, which is my definition of stranger.

 

[BlueBelle]

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Originally Posted by mom2lyndsey It's called attachment parenting NOT attachment mothering. Your dh is also her parent.

Um, I never said he wasn't. I felt bad because my daughter is sick, and I'm not there to cuddle her. Her dad is capable of cuddling her just fine, thank you, but that doesn't mean that I'm at home to do it myself.

You know, I wrote asking for support, and suddenly I'm feeling attacked because I felt bad.

 

[mom2lyndsey]

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Originally Posted by BlueBelle You know, I wrote asking for support, and suddenly I'm feeling attacked because I felt bad.

Oh sweetie, I wasn't attacking. Honest. I know what you mean about wanting to be there for your baby. When I first went back to work DH had to call me almost every hour with the "baby report". If I couldn't get the phone he left a message for me. They are now part of her baby book.

I guess what I was trying to say was that if your DH was working and the baby was sick should he feel guilty about not being home? Just something to think about.

mom 2 Lyndsey