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A few months ago ran into an aquaintance (a daughter of a woman I worked with). She was very pregnant with her second baby. We talked some about different mommy things and she mentioned that she was considering co-sleeping but wasn't sure. I told her to go for it and gave her some reasons why. I just found out that the baby passed away a couple of days ago. They were co-sleeping, the mom rolled over on top of her and she suffocated. I know our brief meeting wasn't the reason why she chose to co-sleep and that accidents are rare and can happen just as easily in a crib..but I just can't get the awful guilty feeling out of my stomach.
 

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Oh my, I'm so sorry... that's awful! I know you must feel terrible... but she should have read the safety advice. She should not have been able to suffocate that baby if she was doing everything by the book! But like you said too, accidents happen. Don't feel guilty. Just pray for her, you know?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"> That is so scary!! I didn't think that actually happened
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"> That is so scary!! I didn't think that actually happened</div>
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Ditto...oh my god. That is really bizarre...and terribly sad.
 

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It is scary. I don't know all the details though, just that they were sleeping, mom rolled over on top of her and she was smothered. Mom may have been a really heavy sleeper or even taking some sort of sleep aide?
 

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If it helps you feel any better--<a href="http://www.nd.edu/~ndmag/ilm1su98.html" target="_blank">here</a> is a blurb from Dr. James McKenna, Notre Dame's famous co-sleeping researcher <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">One enduring fear about co-sleeping is that accidental suffocation can result from a parent rolling over onto an infant. McKenna says accidental suffocation is extremely unlikely, except in cases where a mother is desensitized from taking drugs or alcohol, or where a mattress is too soft or the bed is falling apart. Adults will naturally avoid rolling onto a baby, McKenna says, the same way they automatically keep from rolling out of bed.</td>
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That is awful... I am so sorry to hear that. I can't help but wonder if there were any extenuating circumstances involved. I feel like I am SO aware of ds at all times, especially at night (even asleep), I just can't imagine something like that happening to any mama. I know it does happen though, and it's scary when it hits so close to home. I hope her family finds some peace, and that you do too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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