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i'm not functioning. i'm SO tired. i'll i want to do is stay in bed, eat, cry, and puke.<br>
I'm feeding DD ice-cream, sugar cereal, and fruit snacks. and letting her watch movie after movie.<br><br>
we moved this week!! and i have been totally useless! Dh has picked up all my slack, and of course he's so nice and helpful. which makes me feel worse.<br><br>
arggg.. I want my energy and motivation BACK!!!
 

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Last night I actually thought about giving the kids ice cream for dinner. I didn't have the energy to make anything, and nothing else sounded good. I did heat up some pasta after a while, but it was a close call there.<br>
I am the ultimate slacker mom right now. I would feel guilty...if I had the energy to feel guilty.<br><br>
When my oldest was 2 and I was pregnant again, we hadn't had a VCR for very long and only owned one movie. I used to come home from work every day and put Beauty and the Beast on for her and "watch" it with her on the couch. I would fall asleep in the beginning and wake up when the villagers started chasing the Beast (it gets loud, lol). Watching the same movie every day for months doesn't seem to have done her any harm. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Hey ladies, I've been a little tough of myself lately too--we all need to be kind to ourselves and realize that this is just a short little window of survival. I'm tired, I feel sick, I'm cranky and letting my dd watch lots of movies too (and hang out in her jammies for 1/2 the day)--I feel like such a slacker, especially when I see the other neighbor kids outside and we're inside watching a movie in our p.j.'s eating crap. I've tried to shift my thinking a bit and not only welcome it but also allow it. I think we don't always have to play by the "rules". My dd did point out that I'm "angrier now all because of the baby" so I have been making more of an effort to be kind and patient. I find I have to find some time to work out (walk, at least) to feel energized and to keep the nausea away and I have to eat (a lot). If I do both of these, I can still be kind, nice, fun mommy.<br><br>
We've also been planning out our weekly menu so there's just no question what's going on the table. It makes it easier for me at 5:30 when I'm uninspired and the thought of food makes me want to puke. The crock-pot's come in handy too.<br><br>
The way I look at it, our kids won't be ruined for watching too many movies right now. We can get out of the habit again later. If it helps me catch a few little rests throughout the day, then that's what needs to happen.
 

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I feel better already just reading this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I wanted to tell you that this is my first and I feel like a slug for not doing housework/cooking etc. I can't imagine how much harder it would be to be motivated with little kiddos running around. You should try not to feel guilty, a month or two of junk food and videos won't hurt anything in the long run. I admire all of you, don't let the guilt get to ya!
 

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Awww, thanks.<br><br>
Kluella, don't feel bad about slacking on housework--seriously, rest while you can and enjoy it (<i>damn-it</i> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). I keep looking back to my first pregnancy and miss the time I had to nurture me and to take care of me. I don't have that luxury now with a 3 yo, but it's great too. I love sharing this with her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: So, housework: Don't worry about it so much, when your baby comes you'll have to let it go a bit. Use this time to get used to a little more clutter or dust. You are a pregnant goddess, growing another life. Your body is working hard and it is tiring (though empowering) work. It's o.k. to slack a bit and to allow others to help. This is the lesson I've learned over the past 3+ years. It's not always easy to embrace but it is important to know.
 

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I have become awful mommy. Seriously, I lay on the couch and occasionally mutter "please don't bang the car on the TV," and lunch is peanut butter on toast if I can manage to get up without passing out. George has been taking up SO much slack, and when my mom was here this week it was like an angel had been dropped into my living room.
 

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It has been junk food at my house too. This make me feel GREAT!!! I haven't shopped in a week and if there is garlic bread with the past aI feel like I have really acomplished something, LOL. I have even considered using disposables foe the nxt couple weeks so I don't have to wash and hang cloth. Oh I feel so bad! (not really--been up since six--ready for nap)
 

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I'm so glad I'm not the only mama feeling this way. I was beginning to wonder if I was permanently damaging my child with repetative t.v. watching. (At this point he just climbs up into bed and points to the TV when he wants to watch Cars for the 3rd time that day, and I'm so grateful that I just curl up next to him and put my arm around him so I know if he gets up.) I love the cuddle time, but can hardly wait to get some energy back and be productive.
 

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I've been there, but don't worry, the kids will survive (& enjoying doing so), you will get better & Hey, you are doing something useful, your growing a baby. I'm not just slacking, I am delegating everything & sometimes losing my temper & yelling about it. No ones perfect.
 

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I was really feeling bad last night about not wanting to do anything, and I was feeling even worse thinking I was the only mother who felt this way. I do feel so much better knowing I'm not the only one who can't seem to be motivated at the moment. So thanks, and hang in there ladies, we'll get our selves back soon<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, thank you mamas! I too feel so much better reading this!<br><br>
Today at lunchtime (I come home for lunch from work every day - not like I eat anything...) we had on <i>Between the Lions</i>, and DS was playing trains on the floor he kept aksing me to watch how he was playing (Mama, look at James! Mama, look at the Troublesome trucks! Mama, look at the hill I made! Mama, look I took the hill apart! Mama! Mama! Mama!) that I actually said (and I almost vomitted NOT from M/S) "honey, don't you just want to watch TV instead of play with your trains?"<br><br>
INSANE!!!! Who AM I?<br><br>
Thank GOD for DH... I told him today I appreciate all the work he had done the last couple of days (he's a SAHD), and he said, uhhh, I've been doing this for three months..., laughing, God bless him, but still! Will our energy ever return?
 

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I'm the ultimate bad mommy. I've only seen my kids twice in a week, been so sick. 4 days in the hospital and now I still feel too weak to even have them come home. I miss them so much but I can't take care of them. Sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm the ultimate bad mommy. I've only seen my kids twice in a week, been so sick. 4 days in the hospital and now I still feel too weak to even have them come home. I miss them so much but I can't take care of them. Sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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Oh, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">'s momma. I hope you're feeling better soon. Take it easy and be gentle with yourself.
 

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I totally feel like a bad mom. I don't have any attention span for 2 yr old repetative games. Poor wee boo should have a parent that plays with her and i'm so struggling to keep up.
 

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Ugh. Today SUCKED. I was not a model mommy in any sense of the word.<br><br>
Tomorrow is a new day and another chance.<br><br>
I just hope I can find some energy.<br><br>
Oh yah, and where'd my patience go? I swear it was just here yesterday.
 
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