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I realize this is the place I should post in, but honestly I dont have clutter and I don't own a ton of stuff.......but hopefully I can get some help here....

I really don't go shopping much, but I always feel like I have so much stuff. I hate the feeling. It's so bad I've thought about seeing a therapist. Then I feel like I should buy stuff- I never do though. Then I feel like I own to much. I've gone through the house to get rid of things (to goodwill..) and I still feel like there's to much "stuff" It's always been like this for me too. Honestly my house is pretty bare. Anyone else have this problem? Any solutions? I'm having a baby soon ( our first) and this worries me. I really don't even have very much but I already feel over whelemed with it. We hardly own any baby things, but I already feel swamped, and then I feel this urge to also get some "things" not even sure what it is I want.

I'm thinking part of it is commercialism, and how ads and things make you want to buy things, and people are always buying things..but truth is I hardly watch tv, or read magazines where these ads are..

I realize I probably repeated myself in this post and I apologize, I'm just not sure how to explain these feelings I'm having. This isn't me nesting or anything ether, I've always been this way. I'm having a baby shower this upcoming Saturday and while I love the attention, I feel over whelemed knowing I will get things for our baby/home, and that it means more "stuff" in my house.

Does anyone else have this problem? I really wish it would go away and I'm not sure how to do that.
 

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I totally have this problem. Or at least a similar one. I have four kids, and our house gets packed with crap.
Sometimes I sit in the living room mentally pitching all of it.
The other day I hauled FIVE pickup loads of stuff to Goodwill and I'm still feeling like we have too much. I even got rid of our kitchen table and chairs. Not a great idea with a large family, but it made the house so spacious lol.
We now eat on the kids "art rug".
Here is what I discovered. Things are a dime a dozen. Only buy things that have quality to them.
For instance-baby bed? Not here. I got a great hammock for babies that hangs from our ceiling. It's organic cotton and pine. I will NEVER resent it lol.
Baby clothes- get organic. Get simple unbleached cotton. You'll soon see what I mean. Everything else is crap and deserves rath
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As far as the baby shower goes, I'd return anything you don't like and get stuff that you do.
 

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I feel like I have too much stuff, yet I don't really have anything. Maybe that I just don't have all the right stuff? There's always something I need, that I really do need
Like an oil pan to change the oil in my car, and a wrench to use to change the oil filter (I used to borrow my dad's but now I live on my own, etc) or some more tupperware to keep my hamburger meat in, .... STUFF yet I feel like it's useful things that I really do need
 

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When the house gets really messy, i feel like I have too much stuff. When things are actually put away, i feel like we have just the right amount of stuff. does anyone have that experience?
 

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Oh, I've tried "putting away stuff" I have the house so organized its sad. Usually instead of actually cleaning I'm just "reorganizing" stuff to. Maybe I am OCD? I have tried not having "storage" too. The only thing in "storage" is holiday things.
 

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When the house gets really messy, i feel like I have too much stuff. When things are actually put away, i feel like we have just the right amount of stuff. does anyone have that experience?


Plus when I clean/organize my house I'm often able to get rid of stuff- trash that was mixed in with kids' toys, assorted items for the thrift store, etc.
 

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Why do you feel like you should buy stuff if you think you have all you need? I felt that way somewhat while we were saving and saving and had no clear goal in mind for what to do with the savings. It felt like I was living frugally and delaying fun I could be having for no good reason. I mean, we have enough saved to retire WAY early, but DH wasn't sure he wanted to retire early (afraid he might get bored) and I've always seen myself going back to school and pursuing a new career (I was an engineer, and am missing intellectual challenges). So, we didn't foresee ourselves NOT earning money in the foreseeable future. Now, we have clear plans set for my husband and me to both not work in about 2 years. We feel that our kids can benefit more from us both being home at that point than later on. So, now I definitely don't feel weird about not spending. I know what our goal is and every dollar I save is helping me reach it. Maybe it's just a matter of having a goal with your money?
 

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This all does sound slightly OCDish to me... the OP and a few of the PPs.

If it ever becomes a problem, do get it checked out. OTOH often by the time something is a problem one is in denial about it. So it's hard to tell the difference between "annoying but not significant" and "significant but in denial about it". I don't know the solution for that one yet!
 

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I used to feel like buying things for no reason at all, just to go shopping for fun. Now I go to the farmer's market every week and buy vegetables. It's my own private fun-fest, and I have no more mindless buying urges (it's probably from our hunter-gatherer genes).
 

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I have been decluttering lately, and got rid of a ton of stuff. I was feeling like I need to get rid of more, but when I look around a room now, its mostly stuff we actually use and need.
So then I discovered its not that we have too much, its just we dont have a space to put things away properly.
 

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I think it's just that people have different levels of tolerance for stuff. Personally, mine is medium-low. People often remark on how calm they feel in our house, how I've opened them to the concept that not every wall needs to be covered, etc.

I do have a number of photos on display, put that's about it for knick-knacks. And I have probably 1/10 the number of photos on display that, say, my mother does.

Part of it is that life is simply easier when one has free work surfaces, doesn't have to spend hours each month sorting stuff that should never have been kept, etc.

I used to get anxiety attacks on the way home from Xmas with my family thinking about where I was going to put all the stuff I got. They have finally agreed to draw names which greatly reduces the number of gifts I have to deal with. Plus, I'm really learning to let go of the guilt that used to come with passing on gifts I don't need. We're getting ready to declutter the basement, and half our holiday decorations -- most well-intentioned gifts from my aunt, but not my style -- are leaving the house.
 
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