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I don't know . . . I just am kinda worried about going into labor early.<br><br>
I have been having MAD braxton-hicks all the time, triggered especially if I have to pee, or if I'm walking, or if I'm carrying something (even if I feel like it's within a safe weight limit), or squatting too long, or bending down . . . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> you get the picture, and they have been getting not only more frequent but more intense like taking my breath away!<br><br>
I had a little worry last week when I found my cervix was dilated to two. I haven't checked recently, so I don't know if it's more open or not. I've been feeling some scratchy ouch feelings around my cervix? I know you can be dilated 2-4 for a long time before labor, though.<br><br>
But most of all, I just <i>feel</i> like there's no way the baby is going to hang on for 8-9 more weeks (I'm 31/32, at the very tail end of this ddc). And I don't like that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> I want it to be big and chubby and full term and I want us to be settled in our own house and I want to finish up my job for the summer . . .<br><br>
I've been under a ton of stress, and I think that's a big contributing factor. I'm taking a stress B-complex and trying to set some limits in my life where I can and avoid toxic people, but there's a LOT happening that I can't control, so I'm just trying to find peace about it.<br><br>
Anybody else have an inkling that it's going to happen sooner than you'd like? Any advice? It's just been in the back of my mind and I'm finally admitting it to myself that I don't think we're going to 40wks.
 

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Well I know for a fact I will not make it to 40 weeks, they won't allow it lol<br><br>
I am just hoping to get to 36 weeks.. but 37 weeks would be awesome!<br><br>
In the end your baby will come when your baby is good and ready, and that doesn't mean 40 weeks or 40+ weeks. It could mean 36 weeks.<br><br>
I would take it easy if I were you mama, Put your feet up, if you are having these "early baby' vibes, it is probably your body telling you to slow down, relax and take it easy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Listen to it!<br><br>
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I keep feeling like I won't make it to 40 weeks just because this little one is so much lower than DD. That's really all it's based on though. I'm trying not to focus on it too much and figure if I get my heart set on it I will go to 42 weeks. I am just reminding myself that we have the basics (breasts, diapers, and a carseat) so it will all work out-even if our house is not as ready as I'd like it.
 

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Hey Mama!<br><br>
I'm right there with you. Except that I'm expecting for the first of July, so I'm 34+2 now. My cervix is mid anterior and soft and effacing and about 2cm. I've been having contractions every 2-10 mintues since about 28 weeks. Last weekend I paged the midwife because I was concerned that things might be happening. I have episodes where the contractions are really strong and I can feel the baby pushing down, where there is actually pain and I need to really breath throught them. The baby is in my pelvis already, which is unusual for a second baby. I had a similar experience with my firstborn. She was born at 37.5 weeks.<br><br>
I can't see how my pregnancy will go to 40 weeks. So we're 'ready' for this babe to be born. All the material stuff and also the people who will be helping us out are all expecting baby could arrive any time now. But, really, who knows! I could go to 40 weeks. I just don't feel like this pregnancy will go to 40 weeks!<br><br>
I'm just hoping to get to 37, for one to give the baby a fair chance to grow and be ready for the outside life, but also so we can have a homebirth.<br><br>
Hnag in there, either way, you can count on your fingers how many weeks are left, and every day counts!
 

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This is me every time. Can't imagine how the baby can be that low and me that dilated, etc, for another month or two. But magically, I'm still pregnant on my due date. I'd love a couple weeks early! But every time it's turned out that I'm just uncomfortable for that long!<br>
Who knows though, some people are early (nice early, not premature).
 

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I think I'll be going a bit early, too. DD came 3 days before EDD and labor had started 3 days prior to her birth. So everything started about a week early. This lo is measuring somewhat ahead, although the EDD is accurate. So I wouldn't be surprised if he came early like his sister. But then I've considered Murphy's Law which states that if you're having an easy pregnancy, you will go early (my pg #1). If you are uncomfortable and miserable, you will go late (this pg???). So, we'll see.
 

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Every other milestone I've had has come early for a first timer--feeling the baby move, for instance, I think it was 13 weeks for flutters and 16-17 weeks for the definite ants-crawling-around things. Women in my family tend to go 1-2 weeks early (I was due October 8, born September 27). I'm also consistently measuring 2-3 weeks ahead. My 19-week US confirmed that my July 21 due date was in the ballpark (though by 19 weeks, dating's not nearly as accurate as it would have been earlier). I wasn't charting and, in fact, never reestablished my cycle after going off the Pill the weekend before October 12 (LMP), so really, conception could have occurred at any time after that.<br><br>
But, yeah, I won't put too much stock into that, lest I be disappointed. I have a very non-medical doctor, so she won't be pushing induction at 40 weeks if everything else is OK.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is me every time. Can't imagine how the baby can be that low and me that dilated, etc, for another month or two. But magically, I'm still pregnant on my due date. I'd love a couple weeks early! But every time it's turned out that I'm just uncomfortable for that long!<br>
Who knows though, some people are early (nice early, not premature).</div>
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This is what I'm hoping for! I'd like the baby to wait til 40, but if it's early, then just "nice early" like 37wks or so, that would be okay.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I would take it easy if I were you mama, Put your feet up, if you are having these "early baby' vibes, it is probably your body telling you to slow down, relax and take it easy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Listen to it!<br><br>
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You are right! That is why I've had to set some limits/boundaries about what I'm able to do and tolerate right now. I will try a little harder to take your advice and quit trying to do so much and live up to my/other people's expectations.
 

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I feel like I could go early, too. I was having lots of contractions last Wednesday/Thursday, and my midwife has me rest for the 4 day weekend, but I'm back at work today (trying to stay hydrated). It's much too early...I'm 33 weeks today. Stay put, baby! Wait unilt 38 weeks, please! (We still have no kitchen and the house is a disaster- I'll be putting this back in order when the school year ends).<br><br>
I thought DS would be early too, after 3 consecutive Sundays of progressive contractions, I was 6cm dialted when I went into real labor the day before his EDD, He made his EDD by 7 minutes. So who knows...I wouldn't mind waiting til my EDD if I can start labor at 6cm again!
 

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You may want to be checked for a UTI, which can cause BH. If you are really concerned about how often/hard you are ctrx, I would talk to your care provider. 31/32 wks wouldn't be a good time to have baby come.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Every other milestone I've had has come early for a first timer--feeling the baby move, for instance, I think it was 13 weeks for flutters and 16-17 weeks for the definite ants-crawling-around things. Women in my family tend to go 1-2 weeks early (I was due October 8, born September 27). I'm also consistently measuring 2-3 weeks ahead.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> This is true for me too. I've been a bit earlier on a lot of milestones too and women in my family cook babies really fast. I was really early and only 4 lbs 11 oz but fully developed, breathing great etc. Same with my sis. All my mom sisters had similar babies. On all my ultrasounds they've pushed my EDD up a few days each time. I don't put much stock in u/s dating though.<br><br>
Sigh, with my luck I'll be the odd duck in my family and baby will come later. I wouldn't mind if baby came a little early as long as he/she is healthy and can come home with me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Both my boys were born a few days early (3 and 5 respectively) so I assume this one will as well. I'm only 30 weeks but have noticed my cervix starting to get smooshy and her head is in my pelvis already. I'd be pleasantly surprised if she comes at 37-38 weeks but am expecting to go 39 again, no matter what my cervix does (I was 5cm for weeks last time).
 

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I'm having pretty much all the same symptoms as you (OP) but I don't think this baby is coming early. I think it's more of a multip thing. With my second baby, yes, I did think he was going to arrive early, even sooner than my first (born at 38w3d, spontaneous labor). But he arrived on his EDD, 40w0d exactly. I also had weeks and weeks of prodromal labor with #2. One Sunday I had 6 hours of regular, painful, early-labor type contractions 5 min apart - but they didn't intensify and eventually slowed down and stopped. I think that was around 38 weeks, so he hung on for a couple more weeks after that.<br><br>
This time, I'm just sitting back and taking it easy (in terms of psyching myself out). I don't want the baby to come before my EDD, and it doesn't feel like it's going to happen early. I think I really misinterpreted the "signs" last time because the pregnancy was a bit different at the end.
 

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I never had BH with my first dd that I noticed, but I knew she would come early. I kept saying it, and everyone told me all first time moms think that. I went into labor with her at 36w4d and she was born just after midnight (36w5d). Thankfully, she was in perfect condition!<br><br>
On the flip side, I have a friend whose body had major BH and she refused to slow down when her body was clearly telling her that she needed to. Her water broke at 34w and she ended up in the hospital on bedrest for over a week, and then the baby came and spent a good amount of time in NICU. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you are pushing too hard, even when you are staying within "recommended limits". Those are the recommended limits for people who are doing well, not for people whose bodies are saying to go easier.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">On the flip side, I have a friend whose body had major BH and she refused to slow down when her body was clearly telling her that she needed to. Her water broke at 34w and she ended up in the hospital on bedrest for over a week, and then the baby came and spent a good amount of time in NICU. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you are pushing too hard, even when you are staying within "recommended limits". Those are the recommended limits for people who are doing well, not for people whose bodies are saying to go easier.</div>
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Okay, you are totally right on here.<br><br>
Thanks for the support on this thread, everybody. I have been tuning out and basically being in denial about all the stress I've been under and just convincing myself that it's no big deal when this tiny voice is going EEK! chill out or you'll go into early labor!<br><br>
I just don't know what I can cut out, really. I kinda went into what's going on more on the chat thread . . .<br><br>
I'd like to start screwing off everything except the most essentials and being really "selfish" and sleeping a lot more and kinda go into cocoon mode. That's great in theory, but I still have to feed my family and like it or not I have to work up til my due date, and we're moving. All these things HAVE to happen. I can't not do any of them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm kind of at a loss, mommas.
 

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is there any way to cut your work load somehow? a little less hours, longer/more breaks, or a change to some easier duties? There ought to be something that can be done. Really, if you go into labor now, you will be out of work for a while anyway. and if babe is early that's really going to throw a monkey wrench into things as far as moving goes.<br>
As far as feeding the family, if you mean meal prep. Keep things super simple. Sandwiches, soups, breakfast for dinner. It will not be ideal nutrition, but they will get fed.<br>
I hope I am not meddling. I have lots of other ideas, but don't want to be preachy. There's lots of temporary ways to make life easier. I know how hard it is to relax and let things slide or ask for help.
 

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Look at it this way (and ask your dh to do the same)... if you go into preterm labor, this stuff will get done without your help. He will find a way to get it done. Better to find another way to get some of this stuff done without endangering your pregnancy, it's not worth it. Your body is telling you that you are going to have a problem if you don't slow down.<br><br>
Talk to your dh, and any other family that you have available. Tell them what is going on and see where they can help. You can do some things, so this is better than where your dh will be if you get pushed too hard. Sometimes men forget everything we go through, and some pregnancies are easier than others. My dh just started freaking out this morning when he looked at my feet and they were noticeably swollen and round. If you don't have the outward signs of physical stress, they might not know how bad it really is. It's time for a real conversation about what you can and can't do.<br><br>
And there are lots of easy and healthy meals you can make! I don't know how old your other kids are, but there are also options that they can help out with. My 2.5 year old dd spent 30 minutes at the table today making her perfect pita pizza while I sat and drank some water with my feet up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hope I am not meddling. I have lots of other ideas, but don't want to be preachy. There's lots of temporary ways to make life easier. I know how hard it is to relax and let things slide or ask for help.</div>
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No, you're not meddling! These kind of practical ideas are really helpful. I think I have kinda lost some perspective here. Thank you all for reeling me back in; I am definitely re-thinking a lot of what I HAVE to do.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is me every time. Can't imagine how the baby can be that low and me that dilated, etc, for another month or two. But magically, I'm still pregnant on my due date. I'd love a couple weeks early! But every time it's turned out that I'm just uncomfortable for that long!<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a friend whose body had major BH and she refused to slow down when her body was clearly telling her that she needed to. Her water broke at 34w and she ended up in the hospital on bedrest for over a week, and then the baby came and spent a good amount of time in NICU. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you are pushing too hard, even when you are staying within "recommended limits". Those are the recommended limits for people who are doing well, not for people whose bodies are saying to go easier.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes"> This is me. Like you CMH, I am having crazy BH when doing all those things you described. I have been thinking that I have to just SLOW DOWN... will be ending work shortly, even though it's 6 weeks before my due date... my body just seems to need the rest, and I don't want to go into labour before it's really necessary! I hear ya!<br><br>
Take care of yourself, mama.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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