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I was cutting Kyle's hair this evening and it really hit me how very much he looks like his father. He has a different dad for those of you that didn't know and his father died when I was pregnant with Aidan. I was about this far along as well so maybe that has something to do with it. It felt like I was with his dad again in a weird way because I used to cut Alex's hair too. I felt sad that I lost one of my best friends and my son lost his dad and in that moment when I was holding the buzzers I had just one of those weird flashbacks.. even the smells were the same. I see my little boy and he's really growing up and I can't stop it.

Has anything made any of you feel melancholy this pregnancy?

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Just the realisation that dh and I were trying to work against each other (by not communicating and such) for the last two years... that was a hard thing to realise
: Though things are getting better now! It's just hard to think about the years we pretty much wasted...

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Just the realisation that dh and I were trying to work against each other (by not communicating and such) for the last two years... that was a hard thing to realise
: Though things are getting better now! It's just hard to think about the years we pretty much wasted...

love and peace.

I know that feeling all too well.
It's good to realise it though and work through it.. my dh and I went through something very similar amongst other things. At least you have realised it and are trying to change it that's what is most important not the years you have lost. I always try to look at it in terms of what you are gaining and marriage is all about growing together.
 

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My pregnancy with Lydia was so filled with emotional pain (my xh) and this one pregnancy is so wonderful, that I wish sometimes dh was dd's bio father. I expect to cry like a baby next month during our adoption ceremony.
 

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Little stuff, really. Noticing how much older and less needy my oldest is now, realizing he's truly growing up and away from me. I've also realized that when this baby is 6, my oldest will be 12 1/2, and that's just such a strange, almost sad thought.
 

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Little stuff, really. Noticing how much older and less needy my oldest is now, realizing he's truly growing up and away from me. I've also realized that when this baby is 6, my oldest will be 12 1/2, and that's just such a strange, almost sad thought.

Ky will be 18 when this one is 6..
 

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My pregnancy with Lydia was so filled with emotional pain (my xh) and this one pregnancy is so wonderful, that I wish sometimes dh was dd's bio father. I expect to cry like a baby next month during our adoption ceremony.


He is her daddy in every sense of the word other than sharing blood... that's truly special and I'm glad he's adopting her.
 

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18? Ok, you totally have me beat.

Know what's really on me right now? My husband will be 60 years old when this kid graduates high school. I'll be 53. A good friend of mine is just 6 months younger than me, and her oldest is a junior in high school, her youngest an 8th grader. She jokes that I'll still be changing diapers when she's chaperoning her daughter's senior prom. But it bugs me how "old" I'll be. My parents were always younger than most of my friends, so it's not strange to be this old, but it's a bit "outside", b/c I don't know many folks irl who are my age with young kids.
 

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I have the opposite problem I think. I was so young when I had Ky. Most of the other mom's in his classroom are quite a few years older than me and I've always felt like I was frowned upon because of how "young I look". It's something I battled with from the get go with him. Jakobi I had him at a more "normal" age but I was still quite young. I'm truly happy that I started young but sometimes I feel very lonely because I lost most of my friends. Different lifestyles and all that jazz. I've never been one to act my age I've always been older than I truly am so I suppose that has factored into things some. I tease the few friends I have left that are just starting families that I'll be free and clear when their kids are just starting little league but then again here I am starting all over again myself.
Age is really just a number and fwiw the picture I saw of you on your blog you don't look older than me. Can I age as well as you, please?
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18? Ok, you totally have me beat.

Know what's really on me right now? My husband will be 60 years old when this kid graduates high school. I'll be 53. A good friend of mine is just 6 months younger than me, and her oldest is a junior in high school, her youngest an 8th grader. She jokes that I'll still be changing diapers when she's chaperoning her daughter's senior prom. But it bugs me how "old" I'll be. My parents were always younger than most of my friends, so it's not strange to be this old, but it's a bit "outside", b/c I don't know many folks irl who are my age with young kids.
DH will be 58, I'll be 57 when Thomas graduates from HS. We figure we'll just be that much closer to retirement!
 

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To be sure, I've often been mistaken as younger than my real age. Less so now than I used to though - I think the 2 kids, Astro van and pregnant stomach peg me as a very obvious adult. Add in the wrinkles that the camera might not capture and have no doubt, I look my age now. Thanks for the compliment though - age really is all a state of mind (body comes into play at some point thought, you must admit!)

I do wish I was closer in age to my parenting peers.
 
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