[3 Little Monkeys]

Tell me if I'm being silly - but I really am bothered by a comment dh made reguarding using cloth on dd.

Friday we went to get a sticker for my business to put in the back window of my car. While we were there, the lady who makes them was asking me what I sold, blah blah blah. Anyway, dh makes the comment that dd "is one of those lucky kids who can't wear the other kind" meaning sposies. At the time I was so put off that I didn't say anything - it took me by surprise YKWIM? It was like he felt the need to justify my choice to use cloth - that really bothered me. The more I've been thinking about it, I wish I had had my wits about me and said "it's not that she can't wear chemical diapers - it's that I WON'T use them on her!" I am perfectly happy in my choice to cd her - I don't feel there is any need to "justify" this. Now, does anyone see something here that maybe I'm missing? I just feel suddenly like he doesn't stand behind me, or he thinks it is "weird" to use cloth so he has to justify it to others. What do you think? I've been stewing over this for 4 days now.

 

[Rainbow]

I've felt that way sometimes to- like I had to justify it. but it was in teh company of people who would think that I thought I was better or something because of doing things "the right way" Amongst your average Joe I was pretty proud of my cloth diapers.

He might have just been absent mindedly chatting to- there might not have been anything behind it. I don't know.

Just tell him to be careful because you don't want it to sound like it isn't a choice. You want people to keep an open mind to the idea of using them by choice- for business purposes you know?

At least he said "lucky ones" so he must see a cloth diapered baby as lucky

 

[3 Little Monkeys]

thanks for that. I've always felt he was 100% behind me - I mean he stood by me when his parents all but said I needed to be taken away in a straight jacket (of course having them as IL's will do that to a person - totally different thread though!) It may have just been a slip of the tongue or idle conversation - I hadn't thought of it that way. I just hate being made to feel I need to justify using cloth YKWIM?

OK, trying to brush it off.......

 

[velveeta]

I agree that maybe he just didn't want to sound holier-than-thou. I have a lot of trouble with that myself. I would love to shout out: "CLOTH RULES AND SPOSIES DROOL!" But, it is just not very friendly.

By the way, your biz name is so cute. Gotta go check out your website...

Jean

 

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

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Originally Posted by Sherri S. Anyway, dh makes the comment that dd "is one of those lucky kids who can't wear the other kind" meaning sposies.

Maybe I'm missing something here but I would be thrilled if my DH said something like that. Your DH said she was a "lucky kid" b/c she doesn't wear sposies. I don't find anything wrong with that at all. Nevertheless I wasn't there and I'm sorry it hurt your feelings.

 

[3 Little Monkeys]

OK, there's another way to think about it - I also hadn't thought about the holier-than-thou thing.

Cloth rules and sposies drool - that's too cute :LOL

 

[3 Little Monkeys]

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Originally Posted by HoosierDiaperinMama Maybe I'm missing something here but I would be thrilled if my DH said something like that. Your DH said she was a "lucky kid" b/c she doesn't wear sposies. I don't find anything wrong with that at all. Nevertheless I wasn't there and I'm sorry it hurt your feelings.

I guess it wasn't so much WHAT he said as HOW he said it. It came out rather sarcastic, like it was a bad thing or something. I'm not sure how to explain it well. Of course, it would probably help me more if I actually sat down and told dh how it made me feel and got his input as to what he said/meant, etc.

I tend to get all worked up about nothing - quite often actually. Thanks for the

HDM - I needed that

 

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

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Originally Posted by Sherri S. I guess it wasn't so much WHAT he said as HOW he said it. It came out rather sarcastic, like it was a bad thing or something. I'm not sure how to explain it well.

Gotcha...it's all in how they say it sometimes and ITA w/you now.

 

[lmonter]

Oh, I'd be stewing too. I am horrible when it comes to grudges, so it wouldn't be pretty. Dh hasn't said anything like that (he was more gung-ho to CD at first anyway) otherwise he'd be finding only plastic underwear in his drawer until he changed his mind/apologized. But then again, I can be kinda evil...