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This is kind of a vent today, I guess. I'm at home 8+ hours alone with DS during the day, and I dont have anyone else to talk to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Ds is almost 6 mo, and up until recently he has been a super mellow and happy baby. But he has changed SO much in the last week or so, I have no idea what is going on and I feel like I have whiplash from it.<br><br>
He has started waking up WAY earlier, was waking up around 8, now he is waking up at 6. During the past week, he has progressively gone to bed later and woken up earlier every day. He is so mad in the mornings! He doesnt like anything. He doesnt want to nurse, or cuddle like he used to. He doesnt like playing on the floor on his tummy anymore. Today has been the absolutely worst day we have had. He woke up, so we went downstairs. Normally I hold him or let him play on the floor for a while, but he doesnt want either?? If I put him on the floor he screams, if I pick him up, he twists and kicks out and cries. I tried all his favorite toys, nursing, diaper check, walking/talking/singing/bouncing, and he still is fussing and thrashing. I checked his temperature, I checked his gums, and gave him some hylands teething tablets. I tried rubbing his back the way he likes, but it just made him cry. We tried the ring sling.<br><br>
I finally ended up laying in bed with him, trying not to cry and trying to get him to nurse. He would nurse and almost be asleep, then its like he realized he was falling asleep and he would wake up and push away from me and turn red and cry for a few minutes before latching back on and doing it all over again. I think he finally wore himself out doing this and fell asleep and then my phone rang and he woke up screaming. I havent been able to get him to nurse since, he gets really mad every time I offer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I have run out of things that I can think of to soothe him. So all I can do is hold him while he twists and pushes away from me and fusses/cries. If I put him down, he will scream. He is normally very happy to sit in my lap, or cuddle in my arms with toys and to nurse all day. I dont know what to do, what is going on with my baby!<br><br>
For the first time ever since he was born, I dont want to be around him. And I feel HORRIBLE for even thinking that. I feel snappy and grumpy and I feel like a really bad mom.
 

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i think we all have days like that. my daughter is only 3 months old, but there have been times when nothing will make her happy and i don't know what to do, and i'm sure we're going to have similar/worse days down the road. if you've tried everything that YOU can do (nursing, cuddling, holding, playing, interacting, going for a walk etc.) i personally don't think you'd be wrong for putting him down somewhere safe and taking a bit of a break. if he's going to being crying or screaming no matter what you do, no sense in losing your sanity any more than necessary. take a hot shower, make a cup of tea, eat a snack, watch a show... something just for you. i have to remind myself sometimes that i'm not wrong for wanting a break from a bad day... i'm not being a bad parent by walking away once in a while.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> You're doing a good job, Mama! Sometimes LO's have bad days just like we do. Can you take him outside? DS is always calmer when we're outside and walking. Maybe his mouth hurts. Before DS got teeth, we would offer him a peeled, cold carrot (regular sized, not baby) when he got fussy and the coldness and novelty would snap him out of his funk. Does he like baths? Maybe you could both get in the tub with some toys. Do you have any pets? DS likes when we follow our very understanding cat around and try to pet him. Maybe music and dancing? DS is fascinated by me when I sing and dance. Hang in there! You do the best you can, for as long as you can, then you hand him to DH/P and spend a few minutes alone.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s hang in there, Mama! 6 months is a notoriously rough growth spurt period. all babies transition into new sleeping/eating/activity patterns, and it's hard physically and emotionally for them. (Imagine growing a new "ability" over a 1-2 week period. You might feel worn out, overwhelmed, confused and temperamental too.) it could be teething, it could be his digestion, it could be new skills, it could be a changing awareness of his environment, but at the end of this (and it WILL end, even though it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel) your LO will appear older, wiser, and back to his happy old self, I'm sure of it. You are doing everything right! It is really exhausting to keep up with the demands of a growing infant. It's like swimming against the tide of a whirlpool! Keep up the amazing, hard work you're doing and don't be afraid to take some time for YOU. You're a wonderful mom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s hang in there, Mama! 6 months is a notoriously rough growth spurt period. all babies transition into new sleeping/eating/activity patterns, and it's hard physically and emotionally for them. (Imagine growing a new "ability" over a 1-2 week period. You might feel worn out, overwhelmed, confused and temperamental too.) it could be teething, it could be his digestion, it could be new skills, it could be a changing awareness of his environment, but at the end of this (and it WILL end, even though it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel) your LO will appear older, wiser, and back to his happy old self, I'm sure of it. You are doing everything right! It is really exhausting to keep up with the demands of a growing infant. It's like swimming against the tide of a whirlpool! Keep up the amazing, hard work you're doing and don't be afraid to take some time for YOU. You're a wonderful mom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Don't feel bad about your feelings mama, they're normal. Try to be good to yourself.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> You're doing a good job, Mama! Sometimes LO's have bad days just like we do. Can you take him outside? DS is always calmer when we're outside and walking. Maybe his mouth hurts. Before DS got teeth, we would offer him a peeled, cold carrot (regular sized, not baby) when he got fussy and the coldness and novelty would snap him out of his funk. Does he like baths? Maybe you could both get in the tub with some toys. Do you have any pets? DS likes when we follow our very understanding cat around and try to pet him. Maybe music and dancing? DS is fascinated by me when I sing and dance. Hang in there! You do the best you can, for as long as you can, then you hand him to DH/P and spend a few minutes alone.</div>
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This was totally my 7 month old today. As I am nursing him to sleep he keeps pulling on the breast and screaming at me like he is angry. Teething maybe? I dunno. But yeah totally normal.
 

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go for a walk! My 7 mo/old has been fighting sleep too, lately and I think she just discovered she can keep herself awake. She used to fall asleep in a matter of minutes, now it takes us half an hour.<br><br>
I remember I used to walk ds a lot at this age.
 

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Probably wouldn't hurt to get his ears checked. Things that always helped my crabby babies was a soak in to tub, only made better if mom joined or a walk outside in the sling or stroller.<br><br>
I agree to be kind to yourself, being a mom is hard work and it takes trial and error to figure out what they like this week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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**hugs** I cried today, so it's not just you. Being a SAHM is hard.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Probably wouldn't hurt to get his ears checked. Things that always helped my crabby babies was a soak in to tub, only made better if mom joined or a walk outside in the sling or stroller.<br><br>
I agree to be kind to yourself, being a mom is hard work and it takes trial and error to figure out what they like this week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that"> a sudden change in behavior warrants a trip to the doc, imo. ds had an ear ache with no fever, no real signs. he was just crying a lot more than usual and didn't seem himself. I thought it was teething so we waited to go to the dr. I'd get him checked out just to cover all your bases.<br><br>
my ds has been putting me through it too, today. I think I must have accidentally eaten dairy at our mother's day lunch and he has a hurt tummy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
is there an ap group in your area? even if you just go to the park a change of scenery can work wonders
 

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I could have written your post! My DD is going to be 6 months old this week and for the past week has been driving me nuts, also getting up at 6! Naps reduced from 2 1/2 hours to 15 min. sigh...<br>
I feel beaten down and then this morning she woke up around 7 and seems happier. I was hoping this was some kind of growth spurt but didn't have the energy to even look it up.<br>
I'm holding my breath for nap time. If she goes to sleep and stays asleep for at least an hour I will jump for joy!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hope it gets better soon!<br>
Try going outside. It's pretty cold here and it seemed to shock her a little but she wasn't fussing
 

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Thank you everyone! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Things got a bit better last night! I had already tried a bath (Ds normally loves it but didnt yesterday) but I remembered my mom told me she used to shower with me and I liked it, so I tried it with DS. It was new for him, so I think it distracted him enough from whatever was upseting him. He was pretty into trying to grab the shower water with his hands and I was able to nurse him after a while, and got him down for a nap when we got out of the shower. My DH and my mom took turns with him last night when they got home from work to give me a break. I had some tea and knit, and felt much better. I also ate cheesecake for dinner.... yeah..<br><br>
He woke up today at 5:30!!!! Omg this is the earliest yet. He was ok and happy for a while, and then got fussy. DH played with him a bit, and I was able to get him down for a nap around 8, and he is still asleep (45min later)<br><br>
We have a WBV next week, do you guys think I should try to move it up to this week? Now I am worried about his ears I guess? What kind of signs would he be giving me if he did have something going on with his ears? I checked his temp a few times yesterday, and its normal.<br><br>
It could def be his teeth too. He has had one that needs to pop through for over a month now, so maybe its finally about to finish breaking out of his little gums.<br><br>
I do think he is totally frustrated about being mobile. He keeps trying to crawl, but he just goes in a clockwise circle, and it makes him really mad. Poor little guy.<br><br>
I went to bed with him last night at 7:30pm, so I got a ton of sleep, and feel ready for the day, even if we have another bad one. Thank you so much everyone, its nice to have a safe place to come for encouragement and advice.
 

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My 6mo is going through a rough period, too. Lately he's been waking up SO early and his naps are shorter. Yesterday was the worst day of this fussy period. I was pretty much a human pacifier for him from 4:30-7 am, then he couldn't fall asleep for his late afternoon nap even though he was trying. Poor kid! I think he's going through one of his developmental transition periods, but he's also teething. He cut one of his top front teeth this weekend and the other one is just about to break through (I can see the little white line, but can't feel the tooth yet.) His gums are so swollen, so I imagine he's pretty uncomfortable.
 

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My DS has been extra fussy lately as well. Yesterday was horrible! He was ok for awhile in the morning and the rest of the day he was just needy, cranky, whiney, and unhappy with me and his toys and life in general. We ended up eating leftovers for dinner because I couldn't put him down long enough to do anything. I didn't end up eating at all until after he went to sleep, which was like 8:30 (we started bedtime at 6:30, our normal time). I think maybe his future teeth are bothering him?? because a couple times he would bite his finger and then just burst out in frantic tears. Hylands don't seem to do anything for him (sad, 'cause they worked for DD) and he'd already had tylenol... sigh.
 

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glad you got a break<br><br>
when ds had an ear ache he was just acting off. no fever so I didn't think it was an infection. he was crying a lot more, especially in the evenings, wa clingier/needier than usual and was sleeping poorly. finally what made me make an appointment was that he didn't want to nurse as much and started refusing to nurse on his left side. it was 9 days from the time he started acting different until the time I took him in and I wish we'd gone sooner. I thought he was just teething or going through some sort of developmental milestone wonkiness. If you feel like something is wrong and it would ease your mind to take him in then take him in. the signs my ds had of ear infection were so subtle but I felt like something weird was going on.
 

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So right! Sometimes it's awsome! And some days I cry.<br><br>
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hugs mama! you are doing great!<br><br>
i will say this...with dd1...everytime i found myself in your shoes, a tooth ended up popping through within a week or 2 and i would say "wow-that must have been what that was all about". then we'd forget & she would be crazy for a few days/nights & we would be trying everything...is she hot, is she cold, why won't she nurse, why won't she sleep, what's wrong with her!!! and then sure as sh*t, she would cut a tooth soon after.
 

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The first thing I thought of was teething, or growth spurt. The pp who suggested getting his ears checked, too, is a good idea. It is so hard being home all day with a baby, your feelings are totally normal. Maybe a change of scenery would do him good? Is there any way you can get out of the house for awhile?<br>
The other day, my dd was sooo miserable and fussy, I was at my wits end, so I just stuck her in the car (which she normally HATES) and went for a ride. It calmed her down and she was quiet the whole time. Still don't know what was bothering her, but the change of surroundings worked wonders.<br>
Your feelings are normal, try not to feel bad about yourself.
 
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