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My son is frustrating me to no end. He is almost 20 months old and says very few words. He puts and makes garbled noises to what he wants. We try to get him to say the word and he just gets angry. We have tried teaching him signs.....so far they aren't catching on.<br><br>
I know he will talk eventually and I don't want to push him but at the same time it's driving me nuts with the pointing and garbled noises. Any suggestions?
 

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We are in the same boat. We are just waiting it out, and putting faith in he'll talk when he's ready.<br>
Ds understands sooo much, so I'm not worried.<br>
If your concerned there is a problem, you could always get dc evaluated.
 

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this was an isssue with us. My dd didn't even say the word NO until she was 27 months. Now at almost 3 I would do anything for a little peace and quite. I know it can be very fustrating but it will be over soon.
 

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I sure hope so....I honestly don't feel he's delayed in any areas....he's just very stubborn lol.
 

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My daughter had few words at that age that she used consistently. Now, as she approaches two, she's becoming a bit of a chatterbox although most of her words are still invented.
 

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How many words exactly does he use? Does he use gestures? How is his comprehension? Does he respond to his name? Does he bring you things to show you/point to things of interest to him?<br><br>
My experience is that even the most introverted, stubborn child WILL use language if they can. There's a dozen or more places where a child can get "stuck" learning language -- they may not "get" what language is for and so don't learn words; they may not hear well enough (even a little fluid can be really disorienting for language); they may not be able to articulate words; they may not understand the social interaction piece; they may be 'saying' words but articulating them so poorly that you can't understand....<br><br>
I would STOP trying to make him say the word. If he could, he would, and the fact that he gets angry shows you that he can't right now. That doesn't mean that you can't encourage him to speak/gesture -- so for example, hold up an banana and an apple and ask him which one he wants - with something this concrete, he can point. Then when he points say, "oh, you want the banana. Ok, let's cut the banana for you." Keep signing. anything you can do to increase his exposure to clear, spoken words. But unless you've got him living in a box, I suspect you're giving him lots of good input.<br><br>
If he has fewer than 10 words, I would have him assessed. It sounds like he's frustrated, and you're becoming concerned. These are two good reasons to have him assessed.<br><br>
There is a group of kids who are simply late talkers. Nothing wrong, just late talkers. There is another group of children who have trouble learning language. At this age, it's hard to determine which group your child will fall into. It's a heck of a lot easier to 'catch up' to a 20 month old level than it is to a 3 or 3 1/2 year old level.
 

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my toddler was like that forever. he only had maybe 5 words in his vocabulary and rarely used them. lots of whining and gesturing. i freaked reading the books about how many words he "should" say but realized he can comprehend fine so i tried to be patient. he is almost 28 months now and in the last two weeks is suddenly bursting with words! his vocabulary grew huge seemingly overnight. some kids, esp boys, just take a bit longer.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">How many words exactly does he use? Does he use gestures? How is his comprehension? Does he respond to his name? Does he bring you things to show you/point to things of interest to him?<br><br>
My experience is that even the most introverted, stubborn child WILL use language if they can. There's a dozen or more places where a child can get "stuck" learning language -- they may not "get" what language is for and so don't learn words; they may not hear well enough (even a little fluid can be really disorienting for language); they may not be able to articulate words; they may not understand the social interaction piece; they may be 'saying' words but articulating them so poorly that you can't understand....<br><br>
I would STOP trying to make him say the word. If he could, he would, and the fact that he gets angry shows you that he can't right now. That doesn't mean that you can't encourage him to speak/gesture -- so for example, hold up an banana and an apple and ask him which one he wants - with something this concrete, he can point. Then when he points say, "oh, you want the banana. Ok, let's cut the banana for you." Keep signing. anything you can do to increase his exposure to clear, spoken words. But unless you've got him living in a box, I suspect you're giving him lots of good input.<br><br>
If he has fewer than 10 words, I would have him assessed. It sounds like he's frustrated, and you're becoming concerned. These are two good reasons to have him assessed.<br><br>
There is a group of kids who are simply late talkers. Nothing wrong, just late talkers. There is another group of children who have trouble learning language. At this age, it's hard to determine which group your child will fall into. It's a heck of a lot easier to 'catch up' to a 20 month old level than it is to a 3 or 3 1/2 year old level.</div>
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He can say mommy or mummy very well, daddy, hi, ha (for hot), no. He just dosn't use them consistently. He does use gestures....he points mostly. He does respond to his name, although I honestly think he's like his father sometimes and he has selective hearing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> He does bring things to show us and he does point to things that interest him.<br><br>
We do try to point things out to him and when offering a choice, stating "do you want x or y? Okay, you want x."<br><br>
The funny thing is that our former sitter, when I was working, stated he talked in sentances and said things all the time. My mom said the same thing. I rarely heard any of this.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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my toddler was like that forever. he only had maybe 5 words in his vocabulary and rarely used them. lots of whining and gesturing. i freaked reading the books about how many words he "should" say but realized he can comprehend fine so i tried to be patient. he is almost 28 months now and in the last two weeks is suddenly bursting with words! his vocabulary grew huge seemingly overnight. some kids, esp boys, just take a bit longer.</td>
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I truely hope this is all it is. He seems to understand a lot of what I say, other times he dosn't. Your toddler sounds a lot like my son.
 
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