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I asked the school administrator a question and she answered, "With all due respect <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah">"<br><br>
When you hear, <i>"With all due respect..."</i> does it sort of make you think of the opposite?<br><br>
Another term, <i>"No offense, but..."</i> Yeah, something offensive is to follow but don't get offended because I prefaced it with "No offense..."
 

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No offense=I'm about to say something offensive but I don't need to temper what I say if I say no offense at the beginning.<br><br>
No offense strikes me as sarcastic, maybe because that is how I usually encounter it.<br><br>
I mean, take for example No offense, but that's the stupidest thing I've heard all day. Why say no offense? Of course it's offensive, you don't get impunity from offensive things by prefacing your statements with those two words. Now if someone said, "No offense, but I disagree" I wouldn't feel that was offensive. It's just when insults are given.<br><br><i>With all due respect</i> I don't necessarily see the same way, but I can see how it could be used that way. Sometimes it is said by a person in authority who is about to come off as condescending and other cues tell me that the level of respect they think I am due is not as much as I might think.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">No but it usually does lead to something that either I don't want to hear or ends up ticking me off.</div>
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I hate when people say "no offense" as a prequal to something obviously offensive. I mean, if you're going to say something offensive then just say it. Spare me the "no offense but" crapola. Own it, you know?
 

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I think that "no offense" and "with all due respect" mean the same things. "No offense" means that you are about to say something less than nice but probably something that needs to be pointed out, and "with all due respect" is just a more formal way of saying it.
 

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Amris, why are you doing this on all your posts?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Amris, why are you doing this on all your posts?</div>
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maybe she is typing "nevermind"?
 

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I grew up in an area where it was common to hear someone say,"Now, I don't mean to sound racist, but...." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
If I EVER hear that again I will say,"but, you are".
 

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That is one of my pet peeves when people say " Not to be nitpicky but..." and ofcourse they are going to benitpicky. They are just trying to cover it with a statement. No offense but.....yes they do say something offensive. If someone feels the need to start a statement with "no offense but...' or 'with all due respect..' maybe one should rethink about starting the statement at all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Amris, why are you doing this on all your posts?</div>
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Because <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/footinmouth.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="footinmouth"> seems to be my special talent.<br><br>
Some talents are better unexercised. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Oh, I know! "With all due respect" my foot! SO touched that you respect me so, wish I could say I felt the same... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, I know! "With all due respect" my foot! SO touched that you respect me so, wish I could say I felt the same... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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I just told ds yesterday that if I ever hear him say "no offense but..." again we will have a problem. The mouth on that boy lately, sigh<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: It's just a free pass to say something rude.
 
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