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OK, we are buying our first house (yay!) and need to think about room assignments. We are family of three (DD is 5-1/2) and do not expect to grow that number, unless we take on an adult dependent at some point (i.e. one of our parents).<br><br>
The house has four bedrooms on the main floor, plus one in the basement:
<ul><li>BR1 is tiny and was used as an office (we will probably do the same)</li>
<li>BR2 and BR3 are medium-sized but not all that big, both face a private driveway that loops around to the "back" of the house</li>
<li>BR4, the "master" is a bit bigger (but bathroom is not all that big) and faces the road (but we are on a hill and the house is set to the back of the property)</li>
<li>BR5, in the basement, is quite large and could be a playroom or extra guest bedroom (and it is right next to the family room)</li>
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DH is a light sleeper and wants us to take BR2 or BR3. I am fine with that - we do not need a big bedroom as the only things we do in there, we do in bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">, so don't need a lot of space. So where to put DD? At this stage, she is not very keen on playing in her own room so could conceivably be comfortable in BR2 or BR3 with a playroom downstairs. But<br>
I am trying to think ahead to when she is a pre-teen/teen, when she is likely to want more privacy (or when I want privacy from a handful of visiting squealing pre-teens). So I am leaning on giving her the master which would otherwise be a generous sized guest room (and our respective parents do not visit often enough to keep it regularly occupied). The other option is to give her one of the smaller rooms now and move to the basement when she is older but I am not really comfortable with that idea (a little too much privacy, I think <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">).<br><br>
While I think that we have pretty much decided (and need to do so before we start with her pink paint), just though I would get some validation that we are not so very weird for giving the "master suite" to our little girl? Since I would like to keep our family room, she would still get a playroom downstairs, perhaps convertible into an extra guest room (with a futon and sufficient storage).<br><br>
This is our first opportunity to really make up a nice room for her as we have been renting (and moving every year) since she was born. We plan on being in this house fo rthe long-haul - it is our dream home (in-the-making, as it needs a lot of updating).<br><br>
Which room would you choose for my DD?
 

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She'd be happier near you right now? Put her next to you. It won't hurt anything to have the master be just a play room or something for a year or two until your dd is more comfortable away from you.<br><br>
Don't worry about making things work for the next 15 years. What works best for your family right now?
 

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The thing about paint is- you can always repaint! I'd put her where she's close to you now (since that's what she wants) then move her to the master (if that's what she wants) when she's older. Maybe you could make that a special "13th birthday" type of thing to move into a new bedroom and decorate it how she wants to. And there's no guarantee she'd even want a pink bedroom when she's a preteen/teen. I wouldn't have!
 

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The four "main floor" bedrooms, inlcuding the master, are all clustered together, so all are very close by, either side-by-side, or across the narrow corridor. I know that we do not have to plan for the next 15 years, and can switch things around later...I guess I just want validation that we are not nuts for giving the "master" bedroom away to a little girl! All the rooms are currently bare bones, so the only difference is size at this point.
 

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why not? and, actually, you can always think about knocking down walls and making the bedrooms any size you want.<br><br>
our neighbors had a two bedroom and their 3 boys were in the master and they were in the smaller bedroom. it never occured to me to think it was weird to give the boys the bigger space.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The thing about paint is- you can always repaint! I'd put her where she's close to you now (since that's what she wants) then move her to the master (if that's what she wants) when she's older. Maybe you could make that a special "13th birthday" type of thing to move into a new bedroom and decorate it how she wants to. And there's no guarantee she'd even want a pink bedroom when she's a preteen/teen. I wouldn't have!</div>
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Yeah, I know we can always re-paint and expect that we will...I just really think that she actually needs more space than 2 adults combined! No, she does not have a lot of toys, but I would like her to have room for a desk/art table (and we have an extra one for the downstairs playroom), as well as lots of open space for play (imaginary play seems to take more space than actual toys! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)...maybe DH and I are not imaginative enough <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> but we just do not seem to need the space since we will have a separate office and space for the exercise equipment (which now takes up half of our bedroom) somewhere else on the lower level (perhaps can share the large playroom).
 

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Remember, room assignments can be temporary. When I was growing up, we went through several incarnations of "who sleeps where" by the time my youngest sister went off to college. As her needs/wants change so might her room preference. She might decide she wants a SMALLER room because it has a nicer view, or a better closet, or a who-knows-what? You're going to have flexibility, so just go with whatever works best for right now. Who knows, she could go through a sullen stage and want the basement room, or decide she likes the view in the smaller room, or just be happy where she is. My sisters (well, my sisters... I liked my room and stayed in it) and I went through several incarnations of who-sleeps-where by the time my youngest sister graduated college.
 

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She might need more room for her stuff, but it doesn't have to be in the same room where she sleeps and gets dressed. In fact, it might be more relaxing for her to have them elsewhere.
 
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