[Devida]

HI Ladies,

I need some advice - I have a Ped - my 2.5 year old loves him and he is great with her, but at our first checkup with DS at a few days old, he pulled his foreskin back

before I even knew what was going on - DS was crying and uncomfortable and he has shown me that he is obviously not used to uncircumcised boys, so I know I have got to get a new ped - I am worried that if DS had any problems, my current Ped would be all to quick to offer circumcision.

I have already noticed DS does seem to get a bit red at times, which worries me - hence the kick up the bum to find a new ped now.

How on earth do you go about finding an uncircumcised-friendly ped...what do you ask them? I am sure most peds think that they are capable of looking after a little boy who hasn't been circumcised, and then routinely roll back the foreskin like there is nothing wrong with it.

What do I ask?? How did you ladies go about it?

Dee
x

 

[Pandora114]

I suggest going to the Doctors Opposing Circumcision website, and emailing them for a list of foreskin friendly drs in your area

 

[paquerette]

Did you say anything to him? Not all the ignorant are incapable of being enlightened. Show him the AAP statement and the Intact Care agreement and see what his response is to them.

 

[Katerz2u]

If you are otherwise happy and comfortable with the doctor, Id also discuss the issue with him before finding a new doc. He probably just needs to be updated on his info. Bring some info for him to read, and keep in your sons records.
If you do decide to find a new doc, you can always set up some "get aquainted" visits with a few. The appointments are free, and you will be able to ask questions about other things too. I just recently did this to find a new ped. I saw 5 docs, and asked them what their view on circ was. ALL but one said, its up to the parents, so I asked if they had sons, and if they did, were they circ'd or would they circ them? All 4 said yes, they would/have. The other doc told me she doesnt recommend circ, and her sons are intact..we went with her. Good luck to you, its stressful to find someone you see eye to eye with.

 

[+stella+]

My son is almost 2 and I find the end of his penis varies from red to skin color depending on say, how he was scrunched in his dipe or pants, how he was sitting, or just day to day.Iif he is just red at the end I wouldnt worry about it unless its swollen, painful or he cant pee easily. I agree with the pp about if you like the doc, take in some info and try to teach him, you might be surprised and end up helping other little boys in that practice.

good luck to ya

 

[boatbaby]

I just flat out asked. When we switched pedes at 9 months old (for another reason) I did the visit and said "Do you know how to care for boys who are intact and what to do and more importantly NOT to do?"

He laughed and said, I never knew how to care for a circ'ed penis until I became a doc because where I come from NOBODY does that to a baby.

... I took that to mean he's intact too. YAY!

 

[Fi.]

Try educating your current ped first - even if you switch, it may help other boys. Email Doctors Opposing Circumcision for good ways to go about this.

 

[Lara vanAEsir]

 

[DocsNemesis]

Yeah, I would try to educate the ped first. Talk to him about, bring in material to show him from good resources-like the AAP-on how to care for an uncirc'd penis. Hopefully he will be surprised about it all and appologize.
If you are really concerned, call around. Ask to speak to someone who can tell you if they are knowledgeable about uncut penises. Ask if they perform circumcisions-chances are if they dont perform them, they know something about the intact penis (well, at least if they dont do them on principle).
Also, I emailed DOC, and they said they wont give out lits of docs who dont perform circs. Maybe we should start a sticky on that?