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Hey There Mamas,<br><br>
How's it going? How many weeks is everyone? Feeling movement yet? Do you know the sex of your babe yet (if you are finding out)? Birth plans? Excitements, fears?<br><br>
Things are going well for me. I am 23 weeks. I've gained 5 pounds so far and am feeling great. I started feeling movement about 2 weeks ago. We are having a little girl <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> We are still planning our birth at the hospital but with very little/no interventions. I have kind of been leaning towards home birth lately but the reality is that there is no way we could afford it. My prenatal care at Kaiser is "free" ie no co-payment and the birth is $250.<br><br>
We have run into some financial troubles lately that aren't the end of the world but we can't afford a doula ($400-$500) or Bradley classes ($350). We are kind of in a weird position because we are in no way "low income" but we just have lots of bills (due to stupid debt, working on paying it off) so we don't have a lot of disposable income. I just don't feel it would be right for us to get a "free" doula or midwife because we have a lot of bills, KWIM?
 

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I'm new to this site and I'm hoping to find new friends and support. I'm expecting my first child (May 31, 2008). I'm 28 weeks and live in Fredericksburg, VA. I'm considered high risk, since I'm going to be 41 next week and I had gastric bypass three years ago. I'm expecting a boy.<br>
My first half of my pregnancy went very well. I had no sickness at all. In my 22nd week, I started having abdominal pain and wasn't able to eat well. I saw my Bariatric Doctor and he put me in the hospital. He ended up doing exploratory surgery and discovered I had a Peterson's hernia. The pregnancy ripped open my abdominal wall and my entire small bowel had looped through it. I was very fortunate. If I had waited another day, my bowel would have started to die off and both me and my baby would have died. Since the surgery, I've been having off and on bleeding and premature contractions. My OB checks my cervix every two weeks and I have a monthly ultrasound to check on my placenta. I've been feeling really well lately and I hope the rest of my pregnancy goes well. Has anyone ever used a Doula? I'm looking for one in my area that does not charge too much.
 

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Welcome Cobie Mom!<br><br>
Wow it sounds like you are going through a lot <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
I'm glad you were able to make it into the doctor on time.<br><br>
When is your baby actually due? May 31st?
 

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22 weeks and counting! I'm having trouble getting excited though, because it seems like there's nothing to do but wait!<br><br>
I went at 20 weeks to find out the gender, but they couldn't tell. That's the last u/s for me, so it's a surprise on delivery day! I am also planning a hospital birth with little/no intervention (unless necessary) - mainly because my 1 bedroom basement apartment is NOT somewhere I want to give birth!<br><br>
The weirdest thing about this pregnancy (aside from EVERYTHING) is how everyone just assumes an expectant mother knows all these things. Like my doctor has asked me if I'm feeling movement yet - well frankly, I have no idea. What does movement feel like? I feel a lot of things on a daily basis, and always have, even before I was pregnant. Same thing with Braxton Hicks contractions. Every website I read talks about what to do if BH contractions might be pre-term labour. But nowhere, *nowhere* does it explain what a contraction feels like. I haven't done this before! How am I supposed to know??!?<br><br>
Same thing with birth preparation. I don't know what a doula does, really. I have no idea what Bradley classes, Hypnobirthing, and other things are. My mum had four kids and she has no idea either. Her advice was pretty straight forward: stay healthy for nine months, and then the baby comes out. It will hurt a lot, but you'll manage. If anything out of the ordinary comes up, your doctor will tell you. Don't worry!<br><br>
On the positive side, I am going down to <a href="http://www.grassrootsstore.com/" target="_blank">Grassroots</a> this weekend to register for my baby shower! Hopefully looking at neat things for me & the babe will get me more excited. Otherwise this is going to be a long four months!<br><br>
Charlotte
 

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I'm at 22 weeks as well. I've been feeling more and more movement over the past month. Found out it was a boy at 18wk u/s. What started as flutters has escalated to much more obvious kicking. I'm having more and more trouble sleeping, and my belly has really started to expand within the last few weeks.<br><br>
I'm having a hospital birth with midwives. I don't feel like homebirth was an option for me because of my apartment (not my ideal setting) and insurance provider (Tricare, military insurance); I was surprised my provider even referred me to a OBGYN group with midwives.<br><br>
I'm really nervous because I've opted to finish out my birth up in Maine even though my husband's boat is going back down to Connecticut. My best friend is coming out to be with me for the last few months while my husband is down in CT. Then, I'm moving back home to Wisconsin with the baby to live with my parents until my husband finishes up his time on the boat (probably less than a year after the baby is born). The idea of separating my husband from his baby is extremely stressful and emotional, but we're agreed I'll need a good, local support system while he is out to sea.<br><br>
Congratulations and Greetings to all the other first time moms!
 

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Hi Everyone--Congrats!!!<br><br>
I am 24+ weeks right now with our baby girl!! I have been waiting for that burst of energy everyone talks about...still waiting. The nausea is gone--thank goodness. I have gained 9 lbs and my stomach is HUGE. My once oily/acne skin is now clear and dry! I have craved fruit and water this pregnancy.<br><br>
I have had major major pain in my right upper abdomen since about 10 weeks. After a gallbladder scan, liver enzymes and 3 different doctors--they all think I have a fractured rib. I am passing on the Xray to confirm b/c that doesn't seem the safest while I am pregnant. I think b/c of this pain, I am not sleeping good at all. Because of the pain, I don't exercise AT ALL. I am lucky just to get through my shifts as a nurse in L&D. But--still very very very happy to be pregnant.<br><br>
The baby is moving like a maniac--a huge increase in the last 2 weeks.<br><br>
I have been a nesting maniac. De-cluttering the entire house from the top down! My DH has been a sport.
 

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Sounds like everyone is doing well! I can't complain. I am 22 weeks and feel well. I do not know if I am having a boy or a girl and we are probably waiting until birth to be surprised. I have gained about 15 pounds so far (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I think I have you all beat) and am carrying very high. The weight I gained is sort of all over and I am not 'all belly' at all. I am hoping this is a sign it is a girl like the old wives tales say, but will be happy with a healthy baby boy too.<br><br>
I feel the baby moving all the time. I love it!! Some days it is more than others and sometimes the movement is much stronger than others. I joke that if the amount of movement this child has in my belly indicates what kind of baby s/he will be, we are in for a hyperactive soccer player.
 

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First timer here! I'm 20 weeks and just had my ultrasound yesterday. We're pretty sure baby is a girl, and she is a wiggleworm! I felt lots of movement all day yesterday. But a PP was saying how it's hard to know what you're feeling. Most of the time I thought it was gas or something...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
I'm planning a birth center birth...
 

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Hi! First timer here. I'm 24 weeks and we're having a little boy. Two ultrasounds confirmed it.<br><br>
I've been feeling real baby kicks for the past 2-3 weeks and I'm in love with them. He must know I'm talking about him because he just started kicking me right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I don't sleep at night anymore, between all the peeing, uncomfortable positions and DH snoring so I take naps during the day.<br><br>
This is all brand new to me and I'm trying so hard to do everything right. I'm starting to get a little nervous about the actual birth, I mean how can a huge baby head fit through that tiny hole?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="huh"> I also worry about having the energy to keep up with the baby once he gets here. Plus having room for all the baby stuff in our TINY TINY TINY home. Plus a dog. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I'm going to make sure to get to some birthing classes in April with DH. And I'm having a hospital birth.
 

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I am here, 23 weeks now, having a baby boy. Everything is going well except i have a low lying placenta and have had some bleeding, i am feeling lots of movement and just preparing alot for the baby. I am having a hospital birth with little interventions.
 

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I've been warned by sooo many people to avoid buying a lot of baby stuff! I think the reality is that you just don't need much. I mean, babies are still just people - just <i>small</i> people. I'm getting a combination change table/dresser and (eventually) a crib - that's it. I live in a split-level one bedroom apartment and don't need to clutter the place up with all kinds of things.<br><br>
A lot of my friends are in similar positions - we're downtown apartment dwellers and have perfected the art of living with families in small spaces. Keep the purchases to a minimum, and use the community as your playground! Our friends make a lot of use of parks, community centres, play centres, yards and so on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Hi there!<br>
I'm 21 weeks and we're having a boy<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">! So far I think everything is going well, it's funny because I've worked as a nanny for lots of little babies for the past few years and now I'm on the other end. I got strep throat this week and sinusitis<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> so I'm on penicillan (obviously pregnancy brain has taken over my facility to spell) 4 times a day which sorta sucks, I have never gotten so many little bugs before as now....We had the 20 week ultrasound and everything looked really good but we have to go back in a couple of weeks because he was in a restrictive position and didn't cooperate with moving the right way so the technician couldn't get 'cardiac' views. But heartbeat and growth are all very good (some of the growth calculations I saw he was measuring a week or two ahead of the 20 weeks).<br>
We're planning a midwife birth at a natural birth center and are very excited about our midwife and the whole thing. I've been feeling really stressed out about grad school lately, I'm planning on staying in school and staying home with the baby which I realize is ambitious but I really love my degree/field. Today the dean emailed me about program specs for January where we have to do a residency in Hawaii and the thought of having to plan (and pay for <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">) this already is freaking me out. I'll have a 5 month old by then and I feel I can't even relate to planning for this part of the program now - so many things will happen to me and my dh before then, how am I supposed to bridge that gap??
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've been warned by sooo many people to avoid buying a lot of baby stuff! I think the reality is that you just don't need much. I mean, babies are still just people - just <i>small</i> people. I'm getting a combination change table/dresser and (eventually) a crib - that's it. I live in a split-level one bedroom apartment and don't need to clutter the place up with all kinds of things.<br><br>
A lot of my friends are in similar positions - we're downtown apartment dwellers and have perfected the art of living with families in small spaces. Keep the purchases to a minimum, and use the community as your playground! Our friends make a lot of use of parks, community centres, play centres, yards and so on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I would love to keep it simple but everyone is telling me I'll NEED a swing and all this crap. I just don't know! I'm getting a change table/crib combo so that will save space at least.
 

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Hey first-time moms....I stopped over to read what you all had to say. May I chime in about the need for a swing? We lived in a very very small one bedroom apartment with my first. Let me say that a swing, in my opinion, IS NOT neccesary.<br><br>
They take up a lot of space, the feet spread out far for stability. If you are pressed for floor space, a swing will eat it right up. The benefit of a swing is the motion, right? Soothing for babe and hands-free for mama, right?<br><br>
I say, opt for a bouncy seat. They take up considerably less space. You can throw it in the car to visit friends/relatives. Some can tuck under a bed when not in use. When babe falls asleep in it, you can move the whole shebang to another, quieter room. You can put it on the floor by your chair or couch and use your foot to rock it to lull the babe hands-free. I would do this while washing dishes, too. Very convienent. Plus, I don't like how slumped over and propted up they have to be in a swing when they don't have head control. A bouncy seat tends to have varying positions for wee, new ones and bigger, more physically stronger babies. You can feed them in it, let them sleep in it, play in it.<br><br>
I don't think I could have lived without one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Just my lengthy two cents.
 
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