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We're finding that dd has some food sensitivities and I'm wondering how you go about family birthdays, ect. September is a huge party month with lots of birthdays on both sides of the family...she can't tolerate cow's milk (altho she can have raw goats milk, yay!) and she has a hard time digesting gluten and sugars...so I'm trying to figure out what to do about birthday parties...what do you do in these instances? Do you bring your own treats and if so, what?!?<br>
DD is only 2, so all she understands is that she can't have what everyone else is and I don't want her to feel left out. I also don't want to create a feeling of deprivement (word?) or make an overly big deal about it...I'm not sure how to say what I'm trying to say...I don't want her to feel bad, and I don't want others pitying us...so I guess I'm asking for your experiences and recipes. Whew, all that just to say that!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Thanks!<br>
ps, If I should be posting this elsewhere, let me know! Thanks!
 

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We bring our own food and treats to parties and gatherings. Often for the boys we will just bring gluten free cookies... we arent big " treat" people, so this is a big treat in our house! The boys are gluten free, sugar/ dye/ preservative free. The little guy has a chocolate allergy... the oldest has certain nut allergy. I am completely grain and sugar free. I literally cannot eat out because i suffer for weeks... including partaking in a drink.<br><br>
The boys dont feel bad at all. They are almost 4 and 6. They know exactly what they can and cannot have and it really isnt an issue for us. We are always prepared with snacks and water.<br>
We arent dairy free, so I dont really have much to offer you in terms of treats. Utilise your library for good cookbooks. Most only have a handful of faves... that way you dont spend an arm and a leg buying your own. i woulsd recommend buying one gluten free basic cookbook with all of the basic bread, pancake cookie baking type recipes. Once you have good practice with the alternative flour combining it is easy to convert ANY recipe to a gluten free one. The basic one we own is called "Wheat free Recipes and Menus" Carol Fenster. It is gluten free. The basic baking recipes are so good! Yummy breads, cookies, pizza crust recipes etc. Lots of info about the specific alternative flours, what traits each one has in a dish, and what they are good in ... quite a few options for making your own gluten free flour mix ( yoiu can mix it and keep it ready to go)<br>
People still feel bad for us sometimes but I just confidently tell them that it really isnt an issue( it really isnt!) the feeling of deprivation isn't coming from our side at all! People just have a hard time imagining how you could make everything in a different way because they havent seen it done.... truly we are spoiled and eat gourmet! It just takes a little mastering.
 

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We take our own treats, too. Usually I make cookies and take enough to share so it's not obvious to other people that she's having something different. Or I will buy her cookies and take enough for her. If I know there will be ice cream served, I will take Rice Dream's version. Dd has food allergies and I have talked matter of factly to her every day about what foods are safe for her and what foods are not. She knows the foods she is allergic to and some foods that might contain her allergens. She also knows that she's not supposed to eat food that other people offer her.<br><br>
I think if you're just matter of fact about it, there's not a lot of room for pity. It helps that I always carry snacks with us, so if something comes up I have something for dd.<br><br>
We're not gluten free--only dairy, egg, and wheat free. And I try to keep dd free of sugar, corn syrup and high fructose corn syrup. I don't think I have a good cake or cupcake recipe that would work for you, but I would think if you posted asking specifically for a recipe free of xyz, someone would be able to help you.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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We bring our own food. I usually make a cake or cupcakes to take to a birthday party (My oldest has dairy allergies.).<br><br>
Mini-vent: Yesterday we went to a friend's birthday party and although the parents have known us for a decade, and have been told numerous times about my daughter's allergy, they still tried to give her: cheese pizza, cake, and a pinata completely filled with nothing but chocolate candy. *sigh* And they want to babysit her for us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> No WAY!!<br><br>
Anyhow, consider that pizza is a popular party food, so be prepared to bring a meal for your kidlet too. I guess stocking alternate pinata treats will be next on my list of things to bring too, now.
 

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yup we bring our own treats. dd is allergic to peanuts and soy and avoiding garbanzo beans and tree nuts. i always ask about food and make the desision based on that. like last night we went to a wedding that had chinese food, so we stopped at taco bell for a quesadilla for dd. i already knew the cake was nut free (brides dad is allergic) so we didn't worry.
 

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Okay, so I'll bring my own treats...I can use honey or stevia...I wonder if you can make icecream with either of those...I'm sure you can and it'd probably be great!<br>
If anyone has a GF, butter free, sugar, soy free recipes for cake or cookies, I'd be so grateful...(we're in elimination mode...) Thanks so much for the replies. It's funny because at home, we have always eaten well compared to the SAD, but we did indulge when out and for birthdays. So I think I'm finding myself feeling sorry for her/me/us. But I don't want her to feel that way and am trying to think of it as expanding our cuisine rather than giving us limitations. Does that make sense?<br>
Thanks!<br><br>
I was a little uncertain as to where to post this...where would be the best place to post for specific recipes?
 

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I also bring treats for my daughter of her own. If the mom is sensitive to her needs she will have something that Nitara can eat. But I don't really expect it anymore than I would expect someone to serve veggie burgers at a barbeque just because I'm veg. KWIM?<br><br>
If Nitara has a bday party I will probably make it between mealtimes and try to focus on the party, not the food. I will serve a few safe snacks and have some kind of creative cake.
 

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I always plan to bring food and treats for DS. It's so hard. The past two parties we've been invited to have been 1) at an ice cream parlor and 2) a shrimp boil. Shellfish is way off in our future, so I don't know if there's an allergy, but it makes me nervous just thinking about it.
 

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Yes, I agree with the other posters. We always bring our own treats. At age 2, she may or may not notice the differences, and may or may not be upset about it. So what I do to try to compensate for that, is I always ask the hostess what will be served, and do my best to mimic that. If it's pink cake with purple frosting, I do my best to get there. (never had that particular combo - just an example.) I also ask about ice cream, the meal, and other snacks. Then I come with our own versions as best I can.<br><br>
DD is now 4, and she totally understands her situation. She doesn't care one whit anymore if her treats match the party treats - she just wants her favorites. Since the only time she gets to eat cake is at a birthday party - she's always so excited to go to one!<br><br>
I can highly recommend a book called <span style="text-decoration:underline;">Sweet Alternative</span> by Bundy. It's a stricly dessert book, and all of the recipes are soy, dairy, and gluten free. She has a recipe in there (that I do not feel comfortable plagiarizing) called "Martha's Moist Vegan Chocolate Cake." It is by far the most delicious alternative cake I've tried, and the sweetener is maple syrup, so there's no refined sugar in it. There's also no dairy, nuts, eggs, gluten, corn, or soy. Now if chocolate is a problem, that recipe won't help!<br><br>
We don't often do sweets here, but that's the book I grab for when we do. Everything I've tried from there tastes truly gourmet!
 
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