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As you may remember, DH and I are thinking about doing foster-adopt in the future.<br><br>
But as I look further into this, I'm wondering if I will qualify. I don't want to get into major detail, but when I was in high school, I had some adjustment issues and was diagnosed with clinical depression. I was on and off of antidepressants for about 10 years. I've been off the drugs for a few years now, and haven't had any problems since-- which leads me to strongly believe that my "clinical depression" was actually caused by certain circumstances in my life.<br><br>
I also have mild OCD and had some issues not long after I got married. I did see a psychologist then, who basically brushed it off, so it's not a huge deal.<br><br>
So... is adoption completely out of the question for me?
 

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Post scriptum: I just realized that this question is similar to another recent post on this board. Must have been subconscious.... apologies!
 

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In high school I had 2 suicide attempts and self mutilated. I went to a therpist for months and was on antidepressants. I have been off them for 4 years now. We got DD 2 years ago.<br>
I did have to get a psych evaluation saying that the psych knew all the issues and felt that I had moved past them and would come back on my own should I start experienceing further issues.<br>
I think they like to see that even though you may have had an issue at some point, that you are willing and able to seek help when needed.
 

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I can tell you that when I was completing kinship homestudies, noone was automatically ruled out becasue of past mental health issues. There is nothing a social worker likes more than someone who is able to talk about their past struggles and how they overcame them! Seriously, I always HATED when I met with someone who described an uneventful past- because I just find it hard to believe anyone could survive 20-30-40 years without some drama, you know?<br><br>
Be honest and tell them what you learned from it, I am pretty sure it will all be okay.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I can tell you that when I was completing kinship homestudies, noone was automatically ruled out becasue of past mental health issues. There is nothing a social worker likes more than someone who is able to talk about their past struggles and how they overcame them! Seriously, I always HATED when I met with someone who described an uneventful past- because I just find it hard to believe anyone could survive 20-30-40 years without some drama, you know?<br><br>
Be honest and tell them what you learned from it, I am pretty sure it will all be okay.</div>
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Funny, ours is a kinship!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> But yes, I found that being completely honest was best. Like I said, they like to see that you know what to do and will actually DO what you need to do to make sure that you can be healthy and steady for your family.<br>
My depression and mutilations/suicide attempts were my way of dealing with rape and once I found out from a therapist a more healthy way of dealing things moved better for me.<br>
I did have to have an evaluation done, which was very simple, I shared what I had been through, how I reacted, what treatment was followed and how I have done since. I even told them I had a relapse of depression at one point (first year in college) but went back in on my own accord and spoke with a therapist. They liked to see that Im not going to hesitate.
 
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