[MeganW]

Can you tell me why? Has it been what you expect? How has it been different? Would you do it all over again? And how many children do you have and do you want more? I'm trying to wrap my head around some things and your replies would be really helpful. I'm Married and a mom of an almost two year old little girl. I adore her. But not always her dad. I've always known I wanted to be a MOM. I've never really seen myself as a SAHM. Maybe part time but not full time. I did make the choice to be a single mom in the sense the my DH and I had only just met however I had known for years that I was ready and that was the time I chose to concieve my dd. I don't regret that decision at all. I'm wondering now though about my original plans to have 5-8 children and if anyone has chosen to care for that many children on their own? I'm not planning to leave my husband but I'm also not going to live like I can't live without him. In other words I'm not going to do anything with him that I don't know I can handle without him. Thanks.

 

[ferra]

I made the choice to be a single mom when I found out I was pregnant after being with someone I barely knew. He lives in another country. It was a really easy choice for me to have the baby. I knew I was ready to be a mom. It has been a lot harder than I thought it would be. It is rough not getting a break during the day. I wouldn't change it for anything. I think I want one more some day but I would definately not do it on my own.

 

[Jilian]

I chose to be a single mom when I left my husband. I didn't want my son growing up and witnessing a dysfunctional relationship between his parents. I have many friends who have parents who "Stayed together for the kids" and they wish their parents would have just seperated. I decided not to do that. I am really happy with my choice and I think DS is doing better now because of it.

I do want more children and I hope to have a child with my DP one day soon. I'd like to have at least two more children. Having been a single mom for a while showed me that I CAN do it on my own.

 

[Autumnschild]

I always thought I'd be a single mommy. When I got PG I had been dating the guy for two months and he asked me if I'd have a baby with him. At the time, it fit my plan so I agreed. What I didn't plan on was that he'd expect me to marry him. I figured we didn't know eachother that well, and we'd end up co-parenting independently. Well, never mind what I thought.

Anyway, I married him eventually and we had another child. Unfortunately, he never gave up drinking and chose alcohol over me. I don't like to come in second. And as the girls got older, I realized the example I was setting for them by staying, so "staying for the kids" no longer made any sense. So I left.

I would have stayed despite my original intentions. I did love him. If things had been different, I'd have stayed.