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what do you do with your loud wiggly toddlers during services?<br><br>
our place of worship (kingdom hall) is pretty laid back, people get up and down to tend to babies, get water, go to the potty etc. and there are evn speakers and a rocker in the bathroom but i got so frustrated last week w/ ds who is 18 months that i still ended up leaving early.
 

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Oh, it's hard. I have a 2.5 year old and a 13 month old and sometimes it is tricky. We do stickers, snacks, colouring, soft blocks, puzzles, books and I try to point out what is going on at the front so that they are involved.<br><br>
We don't leave early, but we do move around quite a bit. I call us the third-row circus!
 

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there was a threadin the childhood years about this same thing. i think the mamas said some really good things, you should check it out. let me find it...<a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=650830&highlight=church" target="_blank">there ya go.</a>
 

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We take our 4yo, 3yo, and 1yo to Catholic Mass, and it can be very trying. The older two have little missals geared towards preschoolers, so they can follow along. I open the hymnals to the right pages for them and follow along the music with my finger so they can see what we're singing. They like to look at the "music notes" and sing along even if they don't really know the words (although our church often plays the same 8 or so songs again and again so eventually the kids do recognize them). During the consecration I explain to them in a whisper what is going on. If they get distracted and start fidgeting I try to find something of interest (Mass-related) and point it out - "Hey, do you see the flowers on the altar?" "Look, the priest is about to give his sermon." "Look at the choir up there; they're going to sing a song." Et cetera. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Our home church has a cry room, but we've had really bad experiences there and would rather just not use it. The other church we sometimes go to has a large narthex and a lot of people use it as a cry room...but it often becomes a play room, with kids running all over the place and chatting. There is a speaker out there but it's so soft, you can barely hear it even when people aren't out there talking. If one of the kids is really acting up in either church, I tend to take them to the back of the church but not actually leave the sanctuary. My now-3yo daughter used to enjoy standing near the stained glass so if she acted up, I stood next to a window with her.<br><br>
My husband and I used to go back and forth on whether it's better to take kids out of the church, or sit there with them. We decided it's better to stay in. The kids ARE learning that it's not right to be loud and disruptive during Mass...it's a slow process, but they're getting it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Another thing that REALLY helps is that there are candles to light in the back of the church. When they're particularly well-behaved during Mass, they get to light a candle. When they're disruptive, don't stay in the pew, etc., we point out the things we'd like them to change next time, and they don't light a candle. You wouldn't believe what a big motivator that is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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i think i'm going to try to get there early so we can sit closer to the front. and may be if i can explain a bit. its mostly listening to the speaker or reader though...not a lot of action like there is at some services.
 

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Does you Kingdon Hall have a second school? Mine has one with a huge window allowing you to see the platform and speakers so that you can hear the program. When babies are particulary antsy or noisy some mommies take the child there so that they can have a little room to move and they won't disturb others. My mom did this once or twice when when my sister was little since she could never concentrate listening from the restroom. Ask the brothers if it may be possible for you to sit there with your son some times. I doubt it would be a problem.
 

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actually we usually dio sit in there. theres a phone in there so i can't really give him total freedom because he goes straight for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
i'm thinking about getting him one of those portable booster seats w/ a tray and giving him some paper and a pen.<br><br>
there have been times that i've just left him at home w/ his daddy too though. but i'm hopping he'll come along too eventually so that's not always gonna be an option.<br><br>
thank you so much for your suggestions everyone!
 
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