Kim- I want to tell you that hearing people say things like what you are saying makes me feel very upset. You are a grown up. Your child is YOUR responsibility. If deep in your heart you believe that this school where you are going to ask your child spend his childhood is so evil and full of hate that you feel compelled to cut off a piece of his body as a desperate measure to buy him a little slack from the meatgrinder of social dimination and mob rule... why on earth are you thinking that this is a place for his EDUCATION?
I mean, this is like getting a chastity belt for your daughter so you can put her in a daycare where a known pedophile is employed. If you KNOW that there is EVIL there... you don't just try to put some armor on the kid... you don't sent them in there alone in the first place!
So you circumcise your dork kid. Circumcised dork. Too bad his penis is only an inch long... because he is still being sexually harassed. Too bad he didn't grow any pubic hair yet- cause he's a girl. Too bad he has a big circumcised dick.. because he has acne. Too bad he's not a jock, because everyone else is whipped. It sure sucks that he has freckles... or glasses, or braces, or is skinny, or chubby, or a stutter, or is knows a few MORE words that the average kid in his class, or his parents can't afford the latest gameboy of 2012 or he wet his pants once in Kindergarden and no one has let him live it down since, or his locker is next to the special ed classroom and he is retard by default, or his brother is in special ed, or he lives next door to the kid in special ed, or his last name rhymes with the name of the kid in special ed, or his first name IS the name of the kid in special ed, or HE is in special ed... or or OR!!! You think you can give him a easy ride through lord of the flies hell with a circumcision?
If you think that the enviornment inside that building is so vicious that he is going to be subjected to sexual harassment and hazing... why don't you do something to ensure that by the time your child is old enough to go to school... that the school is a safe place for a child TO BE?
Forget hoping that enough other people buffer your decisions with their own similar decisions (a mini-mob) to soften the crush of the circumcised mob... why not step outside that mindset all together and work for REAL social change?
The next time someone drops "the locker room" hint... how about you FLY OFF THE HANDLE- "HOW DARE YOU! try to intimidate and coerce me to do things to MY CHILD in order to cover up the HORROR that never should have happened to all those other children!"
At this point it's not even about circumcision... it's about child sacrifice to a culture which treats children inhumanely... and encourages children to be inhumane, and expects it of them... sets them up for it. They are writing up the test of your dedication is how much of your child, of his life... you will lay on their corporate altar. Pop quiz- are you ready? They will test your boundries daily. Today it's circumcision, tomorrow it will be a frat house gang rape... "It's your turn or you're out" . How much body, how much blood, how much time, how much spirit will you let them have?
Abusing
Staying under the radar
Being abused
Even this middle gound HOPE... that you child will "stay under the radar" of the abusers... it's hell. It's bad for your soul. It's the SS troops of the Nazi army... it's the "good" people who keep the powerful full of power by paying their dues and not defending the abused...
Staying under the radar in school... you graduate to be parents who are still trying to stay under the radar... considering circumcising your son because you witnessed someone be sexually harassed.
Why don't you go visit the superintendent of the school and ask that superintendent what to do. You are going to defer the next 15 years of your lives and your children's lives to the tone of the enviornment that person sets and tolerates, so why not just let them make the decision? If the school is already dominating your family life and decisions... and your children aren't even in school yet- if you are still being held under the thumb of the bullies you were exposed to years ago (if their damage is that lasting) - why not just let them have the parenting decisions right now? Ask the super if the bullies still rule the school, and then ask the super what you should do.
Love Sarah