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My dh has been talking alot lately about doing foster care to help kids vs foster care with intention to adopt, as we have done up to now.<br>
I am having mixed feelings, but really thinking about this seriously. Our plan would be to take a baby or young sibling group as a foster placement and if after about a year things look closer to return home, we would begin a domestic adoption plan. The thing is of course that we would keep the children until they did return home so we would be doing our homestudy and waiting while still fostering. Is this possible? Are we able to do this or does it have to be one or the other?
 

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I've no experience in what you've posted, but I do have a couple thoughts.<br><br>
If the foster kids have bonded with you and are uncertain about reunification with their family, how might they feel about you bringing in a baby you will keep? Similarly, if they bond with the new baby/child, will that be one more loss they have to grieve?<br><br>
I'm sure all kinds of temporary bonds are formed and broken in the foster world. On one hand, that must be very hard on the kids. On the other hand, given how few people foster, if those types of situations were eliminated from the foster world, how many less foster homes would there be?
 

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I am not sure this would be much different than the foster kids bonding with my 2 current dd's. They would still grieve the loss of thier foster sibs whether there before they came or after, I would guess.<br><br>
We would love to adopt again through foster care, but after two years plus waiting, its clear that this will not be the case for us. After our dd came home (2.5 yrs ago) there have been many changes to our local foster care system and it has greatly affected placement and permanancy for kids. So, now we are wondering if we might want to do foster care for the kids benefit less than for our own, while still being able to pursue our want for a permanant family. We figure it might be the best of both worlds... domestic adoption is a long and uncertain process. We thought we might foster until we are ready to start down that road, and while we wait.<br><br>
I just dont know what the regulations are, will a domestic agency allow you to proceed with a homestudy and present you to birthmoms if you have current foster kiddos in your home?
 

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I can't speak to whether a private agency would place a child w/ you while fostering...i dont see why they wouldnt. However, i do know that the agency i'm with (private agency that places state kids) will allow you to have an adoption homestudy while also fostering. Adoption and fostering are two totally separate divisions, so even though i'm fostering an infant who will be transferred to "adoptions" very soon (and hopefully will be adopted by our family, if the judge chooses us instead of the great uncle), my adoption worker is still looking for a "straight adopt" placement for us. And my worker said there isnt any 'waiting time' between placements, meaning even if i adopt the baby, i could still adopt an older child. I know some agencies require you to wait, say a year, between adoptions, but mine doesnt.<br><br><br>
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We were state foster-to-adopt parents with a newborn baby (now our daughter) when we had a private adoption fall into our laps- We hired an attorney (we got to use our current homestudy from the state) and Our little girl was born 2 months later. Never an issue that we were doing fostercare and a private adoption. hth
 
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