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My DH and I just got licensed as foster parents in AZ...and prepared to start accepting teenage boys into our home. We were very excited -- and told that we would be getting calls soon because of the demand for foster parents who take teen boys. About a week ago, DH got a DUI. He went into rehab and is working on recovery. We haven't told our case worker yet. I wanted to know whether we'll lose our license -- and whether we could try again with fostering after six months or so. I know we need to talk to the case worker -- i just want to be emotionally ready for her answer. Does anyone else have experience w/ this matter?
 

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If he's an alcoholic (which I'm assuming since you mentioned rehab and recovery,) the last thing he needs to worry about is fostering a child.
 

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I am sorry to hear this, but happy your husband is in rehab. The stress of recovering from addiction is enough, please take one day at a time. I don't know, but I assume your license will be terminated.
 

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My friend works for a foster/adoption agency here, I just sent her a message with your question since she will know the answer. I have a feeling that you will no longer be allowed to foster though. If I remember correctly we went over things like drinking issues during our homestudy. BUT if your husband is having problems with drinking the last thing you need is to be fostering teenage boys. A lot of these kids come with some serious issues. Dealing with this may push your husband into drinking again.<br><br>
It is wonderful he is seeking help though.
 

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This is where I think the problem is. If I am understanding this correctly, you went through the homestudy process while your husband had an active problem with alcohol.
 

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thank you! I will contact our agency social worker about this next week. Our homestudy and security clearance was done almost two years ago--then renewed recently before the DUI. I know total disclosure is the best policy here, I'm sure -- I just wanted to be ready for the answers that my caseworker will give.
 

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I work in foster care, albeit in NY, so not sure about AZ.<br><br>
At least in NY the DUI would not be enough to terminate your license, although it would be a notable concern and it would be addressed and a plan would be created.<br><br>
What my agency would be most concerned with is that your husband had a drinking problem that was not disclosed to the agency, and that you planned on taking in children while someone in the household was abusing substances.<br><br>
Children in foster care often come from backgrounds where substances are abused. Being in a home where a central caregiver is actively abusing substances could be very triggering for these kids and might only set them back.
 
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