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My friend had a boy in late February that she didn't want circ'd...she finally gave in to her husband's - 'he has to look like me' wish and told me it was going to be done. The last I heard was the morning of the circ and it was to be done...I have been distraught for the little boy and so angry at both of them....anyway - she called a few days ago to get some advice on delaying vaxes...and I really wanted to help her and have been trying to get over the whole incident..so at the end of the conversation she says; "Oh, I didn't tell you. He isn't circumcised." She said her dh went to fetch some clothes for the baby while they were still in the hospital and while he was gone the nurses brought in the circ consent form - which she said was horrifying. She called her dh and told him he needed to come back to be with the baby during the procedure, and she absolutely wouldn't sign the consent until he read it and gave the okay. Before he even got back to the hospital - he called her back and said, "Tell the drs we aren't doing it." And on top of it, when they told the dr they had changed their minds, she said, "there's really no reason to do it at all. that's fine with me." later - a nurse practitioner came in and told them that only about 50% of parents were doing it at all anymore. No one at the hospital batted an eye - and really reinforced for her dh that there is no good reason for this! Guess he met his son and realized he was perfect. I don't even mind that I grieved for this baby for weeks..I'm just so ecstatic this little guy has his foreskin!
 

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Never doubt that you made a difference there. What's a time of grieving compared to the agony of circumcision----keep up the good work on behalf of boys. We ARE getting there.
 

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Wow, what a great story!!!! Yay you, and yay them, and especially YAY for their baby! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
Now if only the medical professionals had seen fit to let her know that a) it's unnecessary and b) not everyone else is doing it BEFORE they made their decision. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Please make sure you get her a copy of Mothering's article by Dr. Fleiss on "Protecting Your Uncircumcised Son" so that he doesn't lose his foreskin later to an ignorant doctor who believes in retraction for cleaning, retraction by age 3, etc.
 

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That is so incredible! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup">
 

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that's magnificent. that little boy is safe, because of you. how great to be able to make such a positive difference in the world!
 

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YAY!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
Don't ya wish the doctors and nurses woud say all that before they ask if parents want it done?!
 

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Awwww, that's awesome to hear!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:
 

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I would love to see the consent form - I wonder what's on it that changed her mind?? I can guess, but I just thought that a <i>consent to circ</i> form wouldn't be so <i>anti-circ</i>, kwim?
 

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Now be sure to give them the information on no retraction so that they can protect their little guy from uninformed Dr's and anyone else that might not know retraction is bad.
 

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Oh, goodness.... and what a difference it would have made if the hospital and doctors were that upfront in the beginning, anyways.<br><br>
So glad for you and this family.<br><br>
Makes me want to find out the hospital and their policies and paperwork to see if it could be used as some sort of a model for hospitals to give something closer to true 'informed consent'.<br><br>
Thanks for updating!<br><br>
Jessica
 

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Your story makes me feel better. Read my Oh, I just want to scream" post.<br>
There is always a chance until the last minute.
 
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