Okay. I am just highly, highly annoyed and have to share.
My friend's idea of gentle discipline is turning the other way when her kid does something unrighteous. Or she says that if she steps in and "disciplines", she is "stunting her child's spiritual and emotional growth".
I have just about HAD IT. When our daughters were little toddlers, her child would always hit, push, kick, and tackle my child and she would look on and not do anything about it. Now our kids are four, and her child is totally out of control because she never taught her right from wrong.
Problem is, my daughter considers my friend's child her "best friend." She's always talking about how much she loves "X", how she's her best friend, etc. etc. My husband is to the point where they are so rude and disrespectful he doesn't even want them in our house anymore, and I have to kind of agree. But it's just so sad that my daughter would be totally heartbroken if we cut off unnecessary contact with them. (I say "unnecessary contact" because we have the same circle of friends and attend the same playgroup
: How would I deal with only seeing her when I "have" to? It would be really uncomfortable for both of us, kwim?)
To top it off, I watched her kids this weekend for her and I made her daughter sit down for a couple of minutes because she kept pushing my toddler son off of a slide. She freaked out for 20 minutes - because she's not used to anyone actually disciplining her - and when she went home, she told her mother I hit her!
Instead of her mom realizing that her child had obvious discipline problems and was actually manipulating a situation to her advantage, the mom approached me and asked me, like, five or six times, "Did you hit my daughter?"
I am so totally disturbed and disgusted by her and her parenting issues that I really don't feel like we can be close friends anymore. It's all getting really, really, really, really old!