I'm a little confused here, could you explain?Sometimes, even people who care deeply about those ideals can't live by them, and in those cases, conversations like this one can be very painful for parents to read.
If, according to you, this is too painful for parents to read, where do you want to send them?
I feel @kathymuggle addressed this very well. Your post comes off as if you are saying parents can't be adults. They should be! Did we all loose the freewill to make adult decisions and just "turn it off" or "not read on" if we can't handle it?
Many take comfort in being able to read posts/threads like this and know other parents dealt with same or similar situations. IF someone is coming to a message board like this they should know it's about natural parenting, not mainstream parenting. There are many other options out there for support.
I dealt with a premie too, this is quite personal.