I guess I should probably say frustration with myself, not with the book. This was such a revolutionary book for me that I am going to have to read it several times to take it in. And I need to try and find the DVD for my dh. I am feeling like a terrible mom after reading that book. I am challenged by the praise and reward stuff (I am the "good job" queen). I am so directive and not patient at all. And I definitely have done the love withdrawal stuff. Part of my frustration is that I agree with what he said and want to change but I am so bad at changing without specific guidance. I need to ask Alfie, "Okay so when my 3 year old hits her one year old sister what do I do?" "When she won't go to sleep what do I do?" I just don't quite know what parenting that way LOOKS like, you know? It's so different than anything I have ever seen. What a new world. Of course when I got pregnant the first time, I never knew anyone who bfed and didn't even know people ever co-slept and now here I am so maybe there is hope for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Anyway - anyone have any advice for how to make this stuff more real for me so I can be a better parent?