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My granny phoned me today, wanting to chat. She asked how I was feeling, I replied my usual tired.<br>
She asked if I was still BFing DS, who is 15 months old. When I told her that I was, she got all concerned and starting lecturing me on how it was bad for the baby.. That cows stop producing milk when they are pregnant again. I said that unfortunately I wasn't a cow.<br>
She kept saying that it was bad for the baby, and I told her that it was only bad if you have a history of PTL as it could cause PTL, that I had talked to the doctor and he was fine with it. She said that doctors don't know anything. That it would make it hard for the new baby and blah blah blah.<br>
Finally I had enough.<br><br>
I said "I didn't want to be rude, but since you are.... It is not your boob, not your body, not your baby, not your kid, not your life, not your business. Thanks for phoning. Phone again when you have something to say that you know something about"<br><br>
Heee, I doubt I'll be talking to her for a while. Too bad, she was really good about keeping her mouth shut about stuff she didn't like. Like the cosleeping etc. But, she just had to say something.<br><br>
For the record, I've never been good about being nice, or acceptable, but I am sad, since she was going to come and stay and help when the new babe was due.
 

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LOL, sounds like a conversation I would have with my MIL. I'm sure she'll get over it by the time the baby is born <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I bet she was just concerned for you.<br><br>
Take care of your granny, you never know how long you will have her.<br><br>
Sorry if I am taking this wrong I am still raw from the loss of my grandma.
 

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No, she was just being her all knowing self. I'll talk to her next week and it will be like it never came up, but she will also never say anything about it again.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> sorry about the loss of your granny!
 

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:LOL.....................and <i>you're</i> afraid to have coffee with <i>me?</i><br><br>
I'm betting that she's thinking about the way things were when she was young, and the standard advice back then was if you're pregnant, quit nursing, because the new babe needs all the mother's reserves. While this does <i>not</i> give her the right to ignore the choices you've made, she's probably thinking that she's telling you something you might not otherwise know, (as misguided as that particular tidbit is.) It can be tough standing up for what we know to be right.<br><br>
I hope things smooth over soon.<br><br>
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I'm only afraid because I'm kinda shy, and I don't think people need to see you pestering me to death in public. :p<br><br>
Yea, my granny thinks she knows the right way for everything. I am actually the only person in the family that can deal with her now. Heh, funnily enough she doesn't nag after you stand up for yourself.<br><br>
I'm pretty blunt with all my family. They are used to it. They raised me that way.<br><br>
Of course I am shy as all hell in public, but I do have a good scowl for those disapprovers!
 

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Glad to get that all in there. I think you were polite and when she didn't back off you were clear. Hopefully you won't have to have this conversation 20 more times.
 
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